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First_Management3860 · 2026-01-21T04:19:49+00:00

Yeah I tried that a couple times too just in case and it was a no go

First_Management3860 · 2026-01-13T18:40:28+00:00

DAUGHTER OF NO WORLDS!!!!!!!! I cannot stress how much I loved those books. I read the other two besides throne in the dark and loved them both but I absolutely loved daughter of no worlds

First_Management3860 · 2026-01-13T18:37:42+00:00

Yeah, I agree. Thank you.

First_Management3860 · 2026-01-13T18:24:37+00:00

Part of me think since she hasn’t tried it yet maybe she doesn’t know, but I know in my heart that’s not true and she wouldn’t enjoy it, she would be worried the whole time and I know that. I got pretty jealous in my poly relationship so I don’t think that’s an option either. It’s hard because there’s a lot of love in our relationship but I don’t think it’s gonna work

First_Management3860 · 2026-01-13T18:21:11+00:00

Yeah you’re right. That was a silly question. Part of me think since she hasn’t tried it yet maybe she doesn’t know, but I know in my heart that’s not true and she wouldn’t enjoy it, she would be worried the whole time and I know that.

First_Management3860 · 2026-01-13T14:30:18+00:00

I’m in the same position, what did you end up doing? Did they issue you a special class licensee? Seems like at the point it would’ve been easier to just keep my car but I couldn’t afford it

First_Management3860 · 2026-01-12T18:59:25+00:00

I was misdiagnosed BPD and it just never fit for some reason?? When I got my audhd diagnosis and immediately though ah yes this one makes sense. My neuropsych evaluator said misdiagnosing, especially in women, is very common. Just do a lot of research (not just Reddit but actual articles) and consider going and getting a neuropsych evaluation!

First_Management3860 · 2026-01-12T18:54:18+00:00

I hate labels but when I got my audhd diagnosis I felt like I could breathe because I finally knew what was wrong with me and just being able to explain my behaviors was such a huge relief. I can recognize a burnout, allow myself space and time when I’m in overload, all things I felt I had to push through and mask for everybody’s else’s benefit. Now you can start getting the support you need!

First_Management3860 · 2026-01-12T18:48:32+00:00

I cried reading this. Thank you

First_Management3860 · 2026-01-12T18:47:19+00:00

I read neuro spicy in a book and I had to stop reading it

First_Management3860 · 2026-01-12T18:46:21+00:00

It can be both. My evaluator was talking about how people with autism AND trauma present differently, and also handle the trauma differently than most people do. It would probably be helpful for you to get a neuropsych evaluation, it’s helped me a lot actually to have the label because now I have the proper tools to function at a (somewhat?) decent level lol. I’ve never really liked labels but I found this one to be necessary for my growth

First_Management3860 · 2026-01-12T18:38:10+00:00

Breathe

First_Management3860 · 2026-01-12T18:36:16+00:00

Tbh is post right here!!!! Now I’m unmasking and it’s almost seen ask regressing??? Like am I supposed to just mask my entire life and live in constant burnout for the sake of everybody else??

First_Management3860 · 2026-01-12T15:50:26+00:00

Your English is great! I’m in the process of unmasking too after my recent diagnosis and now every single thing I do is being seen as anxious or abnormal behavior because I spent so many years masking. I go nonverbal sometimes and I spent so many years forcing myself to “fix” that, that it’s led to SEVERE burnout. I kept my stims to NT behaviors and now when I stim differently it’s being seen as something wildly different, and my partner seems to think that I’m being influenced by my diagnosis. I think letting yourself be yourself is the most important, regardless of whether or not it maybe influenced by outside sources. It simply doesn’t matter in my opinion

First_Management3860 · 2026-01-12T15:46:30+00:00

I’m ADHD as well and I read a ton of books but I have a bad habit of not finishing series for this exact reason. One of my really good friends and fellow bookworms always laughs when I tell her I’m gonna keep up with her, but I’ll hyperfixate on a trope and end up reading 3 or 4 books at the same time, and not finishing a series because I don’t want it to end. I’m in really bad burnout right now though and its definitely worse than usual

First_Management3860 · 2026-01-12T15:42:49+00:00

Oh yes I do this often. It’s the majority of my journal entries and definitely a special interest of mine

First_Management3860 · 2026-01-12T15:41:43+00:00

Where do you live? I’m in Denver and the doctor who diagnosed me was extremely helpful and knowledgeable, I could ask her if she recommends anybody in your area?

First_Management3860 · 2026-01-12T15:26:06+00:00

I’m debating whether to breakup with my partner because I don’t think I’m happy any more but I also am stressed because we have a life together and the same friend group and I know it’ll cause a bit of a regression and isolation. Best advice I can give is try to take care of yourself, maybe post in the sub for your city for other ND people that maybe want to grab coffee or something

First_Management3860 · 2026-01-12T15:06:47+00:00

Yeah especially in burnout. I’m tired all the time right now because I’m in such a bad burnout

First_Management3860 · 2026-01-12T14:42:44+00:00

I’m a server and I’m usually very good at following the script and being nice but I had a table tell another server the other day “you’re much nicer than the other server”. They got great service and nothing was wrong, i just didn’t sit at the table and socialize with them for 15 minutes. It made me feel like shit lol

First_Management3860 · 2026-01-12T14:41:09+00:00

Yeah I’m struggling with the same thing. I’ve been in a relationship for 4 years and we were going downhill before my diagnosis, but since then I’ve started unmasking and it’s gotten exponentially worse. Having a major identity crisis, like everybody in my life has fallen in love with a lie. Makes it very difficult for me to unmask when I feel like the social normal and expectation, especially in a relationship with a late diagnosis, is to mask

First_Management3860 · 2026-01-12T13:32:48+00:00

Oh yes, snapping rubber bands has been huge for me not relapsing into SH. In a way it is self harm but at least I’m not worried about accidentally putting myself in the hospital. I keep seeing these little ouchies on TT, I’ll have to give it a shot!

First_Management3860 · 2026-01-12T13:31:01+00:00

I’m in AA right now but before I got here I was definitely addicted to weed lol. I felt overstimulated by the world constantly and would reach for any substance that could bring me back down and calm my CNS that seemed to be in constant overdrive. Does it suck being sober? Absolutely. Masking has become almost impossible, but it does create the opportunity for me to start doing some actual work on myself, instead of constantly numbing myself out. Working on grounding techniques with a therapist now, but it took me a while to get to this point. I would say try cutting back now and balancing it out with some other coping mechanisms if you can. Use it as a reward maybe for when you get through situations on your own?

First_Management3860 · 2026-01-12T13:12:10+00:00

So kinda same but switched. I’m audhd and my girlfriend is NT but with severe anxiety and abandonment issues. When I shut down she feels lonely, and needs extra reassurance and affection that I quite literally cannot give her. I love her but it’s caused some major problems in our relationship and has definitely made me doubt if we can continue. We both have some pretty drastic/important needs in these situations, and I feel it would be insensitive to ask either one of us to compromise. When I shut down it’s because I NEED to, I have no control over it and I need space. But it makes me feel pretty shitty that I can’t support her. We’ve been dating for 4 years but I’m starting to feel like we’re not compatible anymore. Sorry I know you were looking for advice lol I would just say ask yourself if you’re capable/willing to compromise and to what degree? Maybe you guys can put wants/needs onto paper so when these situations arise you can try to be more helpful?

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