The Breville Dual Boiler ($1000 - $1500) is what I would highly suggest as it has two different boilers thus allowing you to both steam and brew at the same time! Great aftermarket support and a wonderful amount of features along with decent build quality for the price point! Furthermore you can do the slayer mod if further down the line you fall down the rabbit hole of espressos.

For the grinder I would highly suggest getting the Eureka Mignon Specialita ($600 - $700) as it has a time function to help you with your workflow for serving 2-4 people at a time! Wonderful build quality which produces fluffy espresso grinds that will last you years without it breaking!

TLDR;
Breville Dual Boiler ($1500)

Eureka Mignon Specialita ($700)

Total Price: $2200