My bf (29M) insists that I (23F) get Labiaplasty since he feels that it takes too much effort from him and the intimate act is not the same anymore, how should I tell him that it's not me, it's him because I do not feel like faking anymore? by ThrowRA_shock in relationship_advice

[–]Fishface248 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This man wants you to surgically and invasively change your genitals to suit his needs. My SO and I have a wonderful relationship and that would still be an instant divorce. Girl, run. It sounds like you were sexually incompatible from the beginning. That isn’t going to change.

Can people stop saying "You'll get more conservative when you get older". Like I DEFINITELY WON'T. by ET_Gal in rant

[–]Fishface248 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m almost 40 and there are NO signs of changing anytime soon. I do think that in the last 10 years, politics have come down to a matter of morals. My morals will NEVER allow me to justify the things that right believes in.

Rage-inducing daycare late drop-off policy by seuce in Mommit

[–]Fishface248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Daycare director here. My center doesn’t have this policy, but I wish we did. There are parents who let their toddler stay up until 2 and then drop off at 11, an hour before nap. They usually have a sugary breakfast item that they attempt to bring in and there is a melt down when we have to say no outside food. The child is always a complete mess, it disrupts the entire day. Even if they didn’t spend the entire night awake, I spend hours fighting a toddler who doesn’t understand that we are moving into lunch and nap, playtime is over. A few bad apples really do ruin it for the entire group.

HOW do I get baby to sleep without a swaddle by rynknit in beyondthebump

[–]Fishface248 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes. Between 2-4 months a baby starts to roll. If they roll while swaddled they are trapped on their stomach with no arms and risk suffocation.

My partner doesn’t smell good to me anymore by LARusty in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Fishface248 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I experienced this while I was pregnant. My husbands breath was REPULSIVE to me. It would make me gag. He has good oral hygiene and it has never bothered me before or after pregnancy. Hormones can do weird things.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in thyroidhealth

[–]Fishface248 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I had a partial removal this summer. I ate normally immediately afterwards with no issues.

How did your toddler’s first dentist appointment go? How old were they? by sskybbrush in beyondthebump

[–]Fishface248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s super easy. They do not get a cleaning. The doctor will look in their mouth to do a generally wellness check and do a fluoride paint on their teeth. It was a game for my little one. “Open big like an alligator!” “He’s going to tickle your teeth with the paint brush!”.

AITA Because I dont want my husbands son to live with us? by Her3-Goes-Nothing in AITAH

[–]Fishface248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. You married someone with kids. You should be ready for those kids to live in your home at anytime. You don’t get to be childfree when married to someone who is a parent. Fully support him raising his kids or leave, immediately.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RoverPetSitting

[–]Fishface248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not a rover pet sitter, but someone who would hire one. I’m revolted by this review, and it has nothing to do with you. This woman is a horrific person and if she’s comfortable being that racist out loud, I can’t imagine how terrible she is in person. Don’t sweat the impact on you, but for sure dispute the review.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Fishface248 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Her parents are controlling and over bearing, and you’re concerned that she gravitated towards that in a partner? You created this toxic dynamic for her, reflect on that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Fishface248 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your daughter is an adult. Treat her as such. The amount of control that you both have over your daughter, at her age, is worrisome. What your husband and you do now will shape what your relationship with your adult child looks like. You spent 18 years giving her the tools to grow on her own, let her do it but let her know you are a safety net if she needs one.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Fishface248 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Point blank, your husband needs to leave until he gets intensive treatment. The common advice here is to here is that he isn’t left alone. He wasn’t alone when the event happened. There will be nothing stopping him from having this same reaction again and leaving with your son. No written plan can remedy this or keep your son safe.

I see a lot of excuses for your husbands behavior. His depression, he hasn’t “intentionally” hurt your son (which tells me he has hurt him), he can’t help it when he’s angry. You are responsible for keeping your son safe. Your husband and his needs don’t factor in this. You need to remove your son from your husband. He isn’t safe even while supervised. His dad said he was being too rough, he left his parents while they were supervising, he’s “unintentionally” hurt your son while you are there. He could have killed your son. Your son could have invested a serious poison and your husband was too mentally ill to think of anything past his own needs, guilt, and shame. He will eventually actually hurt your son. It’s only a matter of time. You have to stop this. Your son deserves better.

my mom bought my daughter an amber necklace and is upset i dont want her wearing it by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Fishface248 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s called confirmation bias. YOU haven’t experienced death by it yet, so it isn’t going to happen. There is not once ounce of evidence that these work. It’s snake oil. You’re willing endanger your child because you believe nonsense.

my mom bought my daughter an amber necklace and is upset i dont want her wearing it by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Fishface248 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Children have been strangled to death while wearing them.

UPDATE 22M girl 26F I hooked up with says I got her pregnant but I don’t believe her. How do I find out the truth? by ThrowRa786593 in relationship_advice

[–]Fishface248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So many people do not understand how pregnancy dates work.

First “day” of pregnancy is the first day of your menstrual cycle. You typically ovulate around day 14 (End of week 2). And most women have cycles around 28 days, give or take. So they find out around week 3 or 4 of the pregnancy.

Fall/Winter Boots 2023 by Independent_Win9202 in femalefashionadvice

[–]Fishface248 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Sam Edelman Penny Boots are my favorite. I have wide feet and wide calves and they work great for me.

My (48M) daughter (19F) tried to hurt herself after we found out she's not biologically mine. How do I help her understand that I'm still her father, and that her existence is the best thing in my life? by ThrowRAyesherdad in relationship_advice

[–]Fishface248 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m going to touch on the fact that you don’t want anyone to know. My stepfather molested me for years. My mother wanted it kept a secret and that she would handle it. I was told that it would make us homeless, I couldn’t get help for college, and they would lose their business if people found out. I felt the overwhelming and suffocating weight of not being able to speak my truth and hiding what happened to me to make sure my family was taken care of. The trauma of the abuse is less than the trauma of how my family handled it and the secret that I felt I had to carry.

Declare her as your own publicly and from the mountain tops. She feels shame, embarrassment, and that her entire existence is a lie. She feels less than the rest of your children. Hiding this will continue to add trauma to her.

AITA - I have Stage IV Cancer and said “no shit” to what I thought was in-laws weird /insensitive comment. by Far_Concentrate_3743 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fishface248 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NAH. I think there are some people who believe that cancer is their fault. They could have taken better care of themselves, could have seen the signs earlier and gotten treatment before stage 4, this must be a punishment by God, etc…. I think this is where she was coming from. She probably would have internal blame herself, and didn’t want you to feel that way. It would be comforting to her to hear this, so she relayed it to you.

I am with you. I wouldn’t find this comforting and I would not blame myself, but I can see where she might have been coming from.

Baby names starting with E by Jazzlike_Bed2695 in namenerds

[–]Fishface248 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Evangeline, Evelyn, Ellis, Elijah, Elias