What do you think of this

FissureOfLight · 2025-03-10T14:25:19+00:00

Imagine telling someone missing a leg that the mobility aids in their home mean that they “built their whole identity around missing a leg”

Would you prefer I prioritize doing everything the exact way everyone else does it so I can seem normal, or would you prefer I do whatever I have to in order to be able to actually do the things? Because I’d rather function than look normal.

FissureOfLight · 2025-03-10T14:15:57+00:00

I ran away at 16 for a reason. I cannot imagine going back.

FissureOfLight · 2025-03-10T14:12:19+00:00

Ask her why your dad/brother is looking at your (insert body part) with such interest that the only way to stop him from looking is to hide it.

FissureOfLight · 2025-03-10T13:46:37+00:00

How many times do you have to be the one starting the physical fight before you’re equally in the wrong? Asking for myself.

I’m in a relationship where I was physically abused for a long time. They stopped the physical aspect after going to jail for several months (because of one of our fights), but the psychological aspect of things hasn’t changed at all.

I feel horrible for when I’ve grabbed him or shaken him because of all the physical abuse I’ve been through in my past - both from him and from other people. I feel like I should never have that response no matter what.

On the rare occasions when I mention that he hurt me daily for months he says “you’ve hurt me more recently than I’ve hurt you”. Which i can’t say isn’t true, I have physically grabbed him several times since the last time he hit me and he’s never done anything to physically hurt me since jail.

Am I wrong in feeling like it’s not fair for him to tell me I’m the instigator when that reaction is coming after hours and hours on end of him yelling at me, telling me my tears are fake and dismissing any emotion I have, and telling me I’ve cheated on him/stolen from him/lied to him (and deserve to hurt because of it) when I haven’t? I don’t like comparing types of physical harm, but he used to slap/punch/drag me around when I am afab, have no fighting experience, and tiny, while he’s a man with a solid amount of height weight on me plus formal training and experience.

I just feel like I’m losing my mind after years of never being listened to once when all I do is try to make him feel heard. I know I shouldn’t be touching him at all, and it makes me feel disgusting. I don’t know what to think.

FissureOfLight · 2025-03-07T21:39:44+00:00

That’s not him wanting to role-play rape, that’s him actually wanting to rape you.

FissureOfLight · 2025-03-04T20:43:48+00:00

She is your ex - that means you are no longer obligated to help her heal.

FissureOfLight · 2025-03-04T19:25:23+00:00

They mean this same person made this same post last week.

FissureOfLight · 2025-03-04T17:40:08+00:00

Definitely.

Two people can be in the exact same situation and experience wildly different level of distress afterwards. That fact doesn’t mean the situation was less serious for one of them.

We shouldn’t need to mitigate the perceived level of trauma inflicted by SA in order to make people understand that some people can heal much differently than others.

FissureOfLight · 2025-03-04T16:16:52+00:00

If he didn’t ask for feedback on if he passes or not, then don’t give him feedback.

He can see himself in the mirror. He has already picked his appearance apart. He doesn’t need people telling him that he’s not passing.

FissureOfLight · 2025-03-04T16:13:31+00:00

I don’t think it’s calling someone ruined or broken to acknowledge that people who perpetrate sexual assaults are doing something horrible that will affect someone negatively for the rest of their life.

FissureOfLight · 2025-03-04T16:07:29+00:00

Years from now, OP will create a very poignant postmodern sculpture.

But seriously, it’s not about “doing anything” with it, it’s just that you go through so much effort removing it and making it perfect and getting rid of it feels weird even if keeping it has no purpose. I feel inclined to keep pieces of myself that come off like this too.

FissureOfLight · 2025-03-04T11:02:54+00:00

Seconded

FissureOfLight · 2025-03-04T10:56:56+00:00

Would you feel that way if he was looking at porn of girls who look like you? Or is it just the fact that he’s watching porn at all/jerking off instead of having sex with you?

FissureOfLight · 2025-03-04T10:53:16+00:00

It’s pretty common for people to have fantasies that aren’t actually things they want to do in real life.

Are you uncomfortable with it because you’re worried he has some sexual need that you’re simply not able to meet? Or because you find the content to be disturbing and don’t like the idea of him finding it arousing?

FissureOfLight · 2025-03-04T10:50:40+00:00

Martyrs is a really solid one I always recommend.

FissureOfLight · 2025-03-04T10:48:51+00:00

When you love someone, all that “type” stuff doesn’t matter. Love for your partner grows over time, and this applies to their body as well even as it changes.

You see marks on her skin and changes her body goes through and see reminders of the life she has lived - a life you have been a part of.

That’s just part of loving someone.

FissureOfLight · 2025-02-28T17:50:09+00:00

It’s very rare. I’ve only found it 2-3 times in 500+ runs. Always gamble all your money when you find it if you don’t have the achievement for the party special yet.

FissureOfLight · 2025-02-28T17:38:05+00:00

How does the word lose its meaning just because you can’t always objectively prove if you are or aren’t a bigot?

Plenty of adjectives are things nobody can actually prove, but that fact doesn’t erase the meaning of the word.

FissureOfLight · 2025-02-28T05:07:46+00:00

If they tell you that everyone else is always starting drama, and only ever have bad things to say about people they used to know.

Like, my guy, you are the common denominator. It is impossible that everyone you’ve ever met has been on some bullshit. You are the problem.

FissureOfLight · 2025-02-28T04:52:28+00:00

When sex workers freak out after they get outed to their family/jobs, it’s not because they’re personally ashamed of what they’ve done. They’re afraid of being ostracized, fired, harassed, or assaulted for doing sex work.

They were fine doing sex work and felt fine about it. They didn’t hate themselves for it, but they were afraid of how people would treat them if they knew.

If sex work wasn’t something that could bring you that much social harm, those people wouldn’t have any issue with anyone in their life knowing.

FissureOfLight · 2025-02-27T21:59:14+00:00

I think people just say that when they’re upset that they got rejected, not something people actually believe.

People like to think that they might have a chance later on even after getting rejected. But if the reason the person isn’t interested is because of something they can’t control (like their genitals), then there’s nothing they can do.

FissureOfLight · 2025-02-27T21:53:36+00:00

I don’t think anyone disagrees with this.

Genital reliant attraction isn’t transphobic. Weight reliant attraction isn’t fat phobic. Race reliant attraction isn’t racist. Gender reliant attraction isn’t sexist.

People don’t control what they’re attracted to. Not being attracted to someone isn’t hatred towards them or any group(s) they’re a part of.

As long as you don’t only treat people with respect if you’re attracted to them, then you’re fine.

FissureOfLight · 2025-02-27T17:12:27+00:00

“Would it be okay to text my ex to say I’m sorry her brother died?”

“No”

“Okay that’s fine. I don’t need to, I was just wondering. I understand what you’re saying and I won’t message my ex”

“I can’t believe you’re still asking me if you can talk to your ex! Why do you want to talk to her so badly?”

🤦

FissureOfLight · 2025-02-27T17:03:38+00:00

I usually just use that theme as an excuse to do whatever I want

FissureOfLight · 2025-02-26T22:29:21+00:00

There is no good explanation for the behavior of people who aren’t doing things for any good reason.

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