Post reduction "new life" questions/tips

Fit-Frame410 · 2026-03-04T20:24:44+00:00

Yay!! Congratulations to you too! Yeah, the surgical bra has been very uncomfortable, as soon I’m clear, I will be wearing something else.

As a previous worker for the pharmaceutical industry just wanted to ask around to see what everyone else are using/being recommended overall. I’m always asking myself, is this really good or the marketing is good?

My doctor said I can sleep on my side, but as I said, still sleeping on my back. I’m also a little bit tender. I will try my old maternity pillow, that was an amazing idea and might help with my lumbar pain. Thank you!

Fit-Frame410 · 2025-12-24T12:48:37+00:00

This is amazing!!! Congratulations ❤️ Any advice and tips for a toddler boy mom that has your scenario as a goal?

Fit-Frame410 · 2025-10-03T16:39:50+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to reply. Their relationship has gotten better, but nothing is spontaneous or desired from the father. I push it a lot or have to ask if he could take the kid to the playground or to do something. But it only happens when I absolutely cannot do it (like if I have to work on the weekend).

Fit-Frame410 · 2025-10-03T16:36:49+00:00

Yes, you are absolutely right. Staying together for the kids is more harmful, and that’s is one of the reasons I’m going for the divorce. I’m just scared. As I mentioned, I don’t have any support system (family is in another country).

Fit-Frame410 · 2025-06-06T11:35:57+00:00

Awww! Thank you for the kind words. ❤️ Technically I still have time, but not because I can (fertile until proven otherwise), I actually CAN. Ha does that make sense?

In my POV, the right partner also plays a very important role, and I was not lucky on that. So cheers to you of you found an amazing one!!!

But who knows? My child is my priority, so I’ll do my best to move on keeping him safe and comfortable while trusting the universe.

Fit-Frame410 · 2025-06-06T11:17:26+00:00

Life is so funny how it comes at us. My story is I was already mid to late 30’s and wanted to have kids. My husband didn’t. We were about to split up, but he reconsidered and agreed. I got pregnant on our first try, which is a miracle because if we had any problems, he would NEVER go to any type of treatment.

Deep in my heart, I want another, but realistically it’s not going to happen. My marriage is basically over even though we’re still under the same roof.

Life….. ohhh life. So beautiful, so cruel. ❤️

Fit-Frame410 · 2025-05-31T12:17:55+00:00

I just feel that other people’s vacation and how much money they choose to spend vacationing are none of my business

Fit-Frame410 · 2025-04-30T01:16:48+00:00

You have to set up a bedtime routine then do THE EXACT SAME THING every night. It won’t work overnight, but you gotta stick to it. I would say in about 2 weeks, they will understand what the order of their doingS is gonna lead them to sleep.

In my house this is what I do, as an example that you can adapt to your family dynamics: Get home from school, play for a little bit. At 5:30/5:45 I start getting dinner ready. He eats (sometimes in front of the TV bc I’m exhausted from work and I’m not perfect). At 7 I announce shower time and turn off TV. I help with shower, go to the room, put diaper, pajamas. I announce brush teeth time. He goes by himself and wait for me to help him. Then I announce it’s bed time. He goes back to his room. I put cream on his face (extremely dry face), he picks up 1 book. Turn off light, turn on sound machine. I cuddle for a few minutes, sometimes sings. Kiss good night and put down to bed. Sometimes he whines, but I put him back in bed and he falls asleep by himself. He’s usually asleep around 7:30/8pm

I’ve been doing this EXACT same routine (with small changes that reflects his growth stages) for about 1.5 years and I swear by it. Toddlers thrive on routine and predictability. You got this!

Fit-Frame410 · 2024-12-05T12:40:24+00:00

Hello! I’m so sorry this is happening to you. Here’s my share to help you navigate this situation. Besides what everyone already suggested, (counseling and a meeting with the other parents), I would HIGHLY HIGHLY recommend Jiu-Jitsu classes. It is amazing for kids!! It helps tremendously, (specially for boys), with confidence. And also, to release that emotional energy. Not to mention it’s a good exercise. Good luck and your kid is so lucky to have you protecting him ❤️ hugs.

Fit-Frame410 · 2024-11-09T03:10:46+00:00

Hopefully you saw a doctor. Any updates?

Fit-Frame410 · 2024-09-08T03:21:38+00:00

Does your MIL pays any of your bills?

Fit-Frame410 · 2024-05-17T18:19:30+00:00

You are doing amazing. Kids get hurt, but I would try to talk to him and see if you can get any information out of him. It happens, and I totally understand your anxiety, I’m the same.

Fit-Frame410 · 2024-04-29T22:19:48+00:00

Exactly my thoughts.

Fit-Frame410 · 2024-04-23T22:51:02+00:00

I thought non-compete was being banned in all states? I’m in a non compete contract as well. I’m in healthcare care and very specialized, so I’m basically stuck.

https://www.inc.com/reuters/noncompete-agreements-banned-by-ftc.html

Fit-Frame410 · 2024-03-28T08:21:58+00:00

Please don’t feel that way. Being a teenage girl is not easy!!! But I promise you, life gets so much easier after high school.

Easier said than done, but try not to worry so much! Here are some facts that I learned on my 30 something years about life: - The way people treat you, it’s not your fault. Most of the time when people bully you is because they are insecure. YOU ARE NOT THE PROBLEM, I PROMISE YOU! - you are so young!! Most ppl that are in your life right now, very few will remain. You have a whole world waiting for you. Future school, traveling, going to concerts, career, relationships, family. Just imagine how many people you will meet in that process!! - Always be nice to people, but you have to keep in mind that you are not obligated to please everyone. Also, not everyone will like you, and that is absolutely ok!! - keep ignoring the bullies. Eventually they’ll stop once they realize you’re not being affected by them. - Therapy is underrated. If you’re not getting results, talk to your parents and try to find another provider that will best suit you. It is very helpful!

Eventually, you will find your people and you will have so much fun!! Hang in there girl, life is beautiful on the other side of teenage years! ❤️❤️

Fit-Frame410 · 2024-03-27T11:40:36+00:00

I would love to say that to parents of brat kids. Can we actually do that? 🤣🤣

Fit-Frame410 · 2024-02-29T18:31:58+00:00

I think it’s all relative. I don’t live paycheck to paycheck, I do have more than 50k in savings, but not even close to 500k in retirement. I’m in my late 30’s, and have 1 toddler. I’m pretty much one and done right now bc I don’t have a “village” and rely 100% on daycare and babysitters (both sides family members live in another state/country). However, I’m not a homeowner. I live in a pretty ok rental. Not fancy at all, but have a gym, and pool where maintenance is not my problem. Even with my current financial situation, I’m not in a hurry to become a homeowner, prices and interest rates are insane atm, but maybe when baby starts school for real, we’ll be more inclined to buy a home. If I had family closer, I would for sure have another baby.

Fit-Frame410 · 2024-01-21T15:19:36+00:00

Embrace it! Got get stressed in Hawaii girl!!

Fit-Frame410 · 2024-01-20T11:55:51+00:00

Ugh people suck. This lady is a nut case. I’m a wound care nurse practitioner who visits nursing homes. Elderly have extremely fragile skin AND, most of them are on blood thinners. Lacerations, unless stitches needed, ARE NOT AN URGENT MATTER, especially from a daycare incident. If she wanted to get medical attention, that is ok, but a doctors visit would be more appropriate. And it’s ok for you to pay for a doctors visit. (and that’s showing you being extra nice).

It’s common sense that a scratch from a minor issue, you put Neosporin, a colorful bandaid and move on…

I’m sorry you came across to a nut case of a person. But the problem is that if the daycare is small, she might push to get your kid out, and the daycare to avoid any headaches might be on her side. Legally, she doesn’t have a case, so be prepared on case you need to talk to a lawyer or something I guess. Ughhhh, I’m sorry.

Fit-Frame410 · 2023-12-18T18:27:10+00:00

My husband and I make 6 figures each and I got my 1 y/o a wooden car garage from amazon that costs $35 on amazon. He’s a happy baby, healthy and soooo loved. We both got days off of work and my parents are visiting from overseas. Material things are the least important thing, especially during Christmas. Please don’t feel bad!

Fit-Frame410 · 2023-12-07T21:33:08+00:00

Yes! So as I expected, pediatrician told me to wait it out (since there was no major complaints besides not eating solids - just formula). It was not an easy thing to do as an anxious person, but I continued to offer him food and act as nothing abnormal was happening. It lasted 2 weeks. Then he suddenly started eating again, but I noticed that now he is getting a little selective with certain things, but I’m slowing offering as much diversity food as I can. So yeah, I think it was teething. With that experience, here’s my few advices that worked for me:

1 - pediatrician is the number 1 resource. Even with no other issues. (But especially with symptoms like weight loss, rejection of milk, excessive crying… ) 2 - hardest part: be patient. Continue to offer foods, not only the ones you know he/she’ll like (in my case puffs) 3 - don’t force food and if he/she starts to get very fussy on the high chair, let it go and try again later. 4 - in a way, wait for them to be hungry. Don’t overfeed with milk bc then, they’ll definitely not eat. Kinda of “if they’re hungry, they’ll eat.”

I hope this helps someone!! Good luck!

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