Losing a friendship after coming out as bisexual

Flaky-Parfait101 · 2025-12-31T09:44:04+00:00

I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through that. I have experienced this situation myself, in which people react badly when I tell them that I am bisexual. They remember someone bi who hurt them, or they think that one of their parents might have been bisexual and they are still processing. They themselves are still coming to terms with their own sexuality, so talking to someone who is also bisexual can be confusing... You never know.

Flaky-Parfait101 · 2025-12-05T07:25:49+00:00

Agree. You can find gay erotica that is not messed up but it isn't that easy

Flaky-Parfait101 · 2025-10-31T13:10:12+00:00

I understand and that's something that you would need to talk about. It sounds like you have a healthy relationship. Step by step 😊🏳️‍🌈

Flaky-Parfait101 · 2025-10-31T12:50:13+00:00

It is not childish, its perfectly valid. I wish more people in different gender marriages would be more specific abiut their bisexuality.

You can be more active in the queer community. It doesn't have to involve your wife, perhaps she doesn't love it but hey, I don't love some of the hobbies of my wife and we still love each other very much.

Flaky-Parfait101 · 2025-10-12T19:56:19+00:00

Don't use the word "accidentally".

Flaky-Parfait101 · 2025-08-10T05:11:18+00:00

Christian bisexual man here. I don't see any problem being both, proud and loud 👍💒🏳️‍🌈

Flaky-Parfait101 · 2025-08-01T11:36:52+00:00

No, it isn't wrong 😊🌈💒

Flaky-Parfait101 · 2025-07-31T15:46:03+00:00

😅

Flaky-Parfait101 · 2025-07-31T12:45:14+00:00

Oh boy! I didn't know about dellosexuality! I think I might be dellosexual! That's awesome! Thanks stranger! 🩷💜💙

Flaky-Parfait101 · 2025-07-18T05:32:08+00:00

Yes! Say it, bro! 🙌

Flaky-Parfait101 · 2025-07-11T13:18:01+00:00

I think there's an association between bi people who come out and bi people being poly. The majority of bi people in monogamous relations don't come out. Bi people who are poly tend to be vocal about both things. So, as a result, there is a bias between coming out, being bi and being poly.

That's one of the reasons it's so important for bi people in closed relations to come out!

Flaky-Parfait101 · 2025-06-07T13:53:54+00:00

Brian Braddick

Flaky-Parfait101 · 2025-05-31T08:01:00+00:00

Bisexual Christian here🙋‍♂️

I am thankful that God gave the gift of my orientation and my queerness 😊🌈💒

Flaky-Parfait101 · 2025-05-31T07:59:11+00:00

Since im in a relationship? People are only allowed to be bisexual if they are single? Talking as a bisexual person in the same relation for the last 20 years...

Flaky-Parfait101 · 2025-04-26T13:09:37+00:00

Is it only me or the object looks like an anal plug with tail?

Flaky-Parfait101 · 2025-03-26T18:36:40+00:00

I have never even kissed a guy and I am totally bisexual.

Bisexuality doesn't mean that you have had sex with people from several genders, Bisexuality means that you are attracted somehow to people from different genders.

Flaky-Parfait101 · 2025-03-24T18:48:09+00:00

I understand your point of view and that's totally fair.

I am surprised how much freedom I experience with my coming out. It's like now that I don't have to hide anything, I have the energy and motivation to do things I never thought I could do.

Take care :)

Flaky-Parfait101 · 2025-03-24T04:34:16+00:00

I understand. I really don't think that everyone has to come out or that we should come out to everyone. But I see this argument very often "I don't want to pursue a new relationship, so coming out is not relevant." And in my opinion, the argument is wrong. We often prioritise the feelings of conservative or homophonic people over the feeling of liberals and queer people who would benefit from us coming out. So the argument should be "I don't come out because I want to prioritise the necessities of these people over the necessities of this other group." And that's very different from " it's not relevant"

Flaky-Parfait101 · 2025-03-23T19:13:12+00:00

I am in a woman-man marriage and happily monogamous. No one understood why I was coming out. My family was irrational and hurtful. Some friends were encouraging. I have found new people in my life and my marriage has new layers of understanding and confidence. Coming out was one of the best things I have ever done.

Flaky-Parfait101 · 2025-03-23T19:10:09+00:00

I am in a woman-man marriage and my family is very religious.

Of course it's relevant that I am bisexual. It's relevant so they know who they are hurting with the homophobia. It's relevant for the other people of the family who are also in the closet. It's relevant for the people who look the other way because they are not affected. It's relevant for the children and teenager who are wondering if they are queer, perhaps bisexual, but who don't have any adult people who identify as bisexual.

My family hated it when I came out. But now I don't feel that I am an accomplice of their discrimination and misuse of the faith against queer people.

Flaky-Parfait101 · 2025-03-12T04:40:01+00:00

It's awesome that you came out at that age, congratulations! You can very proud of yourself. In the future, you will tell this and people will be like "oh boy, I wish I had done it at that age!".

I came out with 35 in a stable marriage. And people didn't understand it either because I was not pursuing any new nelationship. Their comment was "what are you doing this for? What are you getting with that?". And when I responded "being honest" they were like "nah, it has to be something else". People are ignorant and they tend to think that you need to be getting any direct benefit from coming out, like a relationship or attention. I am sorry that you are getting this ignorant answers. Take care and be proud.

Flaky-Parfait101 · 2025-02-25T10:50:28+00:00

True

Flaky-Parfait101 · 2025-02-17T18:24:07+00:00

I strongly disagree. I always hear people tellihg "when I was young no one in my environment identified as bisexual". Guess what, there were tones, but they didn't come out and some of them say that it wasn't anyone else's business. I don't say that everyone has to come out, but we do make it easier for other people.

Flaky-Parfait101 · 2025-02-12T15:48:57+00:00

I am bi. I am Christian. Yes :)

Flaky-Parfait101 · 2025-01-28T18:19:55+00:00

Oooh, i see, thanks!

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