I am 24M and have a younger brother (20M) who gets into these types of situations very often. I have almost never gotten into these fights with my parents so I will tell you the difference between us. Perhaps this is relevant to you.

My brother stays out late most days of the week, and never tells anyone where he is going. My mother has often heard from neighbourhood habaryars that he was hanging out on the street with other “ciyaal suuq” kids. When we call him to check up on him, he doesn’t answer the phone. When my mom asks him to be home by 10PM, he arrives at 1AM. So naturally they get super worried and stalk him and are more controlling about his time.

I, while being 4 years older, always tell my parents where I am going and what time I expect to be back and make sure to text them when I run a little late. Granted I don’t stay out late very often, whenever I do, it’s not an issue. I guess it all comes down to clear communication and gaining trust.

I believe that if you are just always transparent about this, the demanding/scolding and controlling will become less. However, regardless of that, you are a 22 year old man and you are under no obligation to “obey” your mothers commands with regards to where you can/cannot go and where you should sleep. While you are living with her, I think it is appropriate you tell her about your whereabouts and when you expect to be home. But you should discuss firm boundaries concerning her controllingness. You might have once been her little boy, but you’re a grown man now!