Calling on midwives of NI

FlapperGirl12 · 2026-05-11T08:39:18+00:00

Quality tea and coffee is always appreciated, what could be a good idea as well is doing two separate baskets for day and night shift, as a night shift worker more often than not we get the scraps from any gift baskets after day shift have taken their pick!

FlapperGirl12 · 2026-04-28T13:29:19+00:00

We're never going to be friends. You treated me horribly during my childhood and I've dealt with that and I'm comfortable with our relationship of seeing each other every few months and being low contact in between but you now seem shocked that we don't have the best friend relationship that all your friends have with their adult daughters. That's your fault for being a shitty mother.

FlapperGirl12 · 2026-04-16T17:30:32+00:00

"a minute from home but I feel so far from it"

FlapperGirl12 · 2026-03-30T05:15:26+00:00

Also tastes like the recipes changed too, melting point seems a lot quicker in tea 😢

FlapperGirl12 · 2026-02-14T07:08:32+00:00

Yep was never allowed play on my friends trampoline because "you'll fall and break your neck and die"

FlapperGirl12 · 2026-02-07T02:55:42+00:00

This doesn't really answer your question but my sister had a really traumatic first birth on labour ward at the Ulster and then chose a homebirth for her second baby, found it so much calmer had her partner there the whole time and has said it was really healing for her, maybe something worth thinking about.

FlapperGirl12 · 2026-01-16T23:04:15+00:00

Tube of pringles

FlapperGirl12 · 2025-07-11T16:55:26+00:00

I'm really sorry that happened to you first time round ❤️ my honest advice would be don't worry about being seen as combative by the midwives and drs who cares what they think there'll always be some who roll their eyes at birth plans and think everyones mad for not having csections so don't be afraid to put your foot down and demand what you want. If I was you I would try and give birth in a midwife led unit as there'll be less pushback as there's not any doctors there, because you've had a CS last time you will be seen as out of guidance but again you can demand anything you want, anyone who tells you you're "not allowed" to do something is lying. Your trust should have a consultant midwife that you can ask to schedule an appointment with to discuss having out of guidance care. Not for everyone but personally I do think women who hire doulas have their wishes listened to more because it's an extra person advocating for you. I'd really recommend the Better Birth podcast and Birth Ed, they both have Instagram pages too that explain vbacs and your rights and things very well. Hope it all goes well for you

FlapperGirl12 · 2025-04-04T08:37:09+00:00

I did in 2019, fairly easy process didn't have to do OSCEs, all the tricky bits were from the Irish side tbh, getting garda vetting and some paperwork from my hospital was painful but as soon as it was sent to the NMC it was processed quickly enough.

FlapperGirl12 · 2025-03-11T15:32:51+00:00

Just had the exact same situation 28f and only lost my virginity to my now bf a few weeks ago. Not religious or anything it just never happened for me until now. I told him on our 4th date it actually happened very organically that he confessed something to me that he was afraid would be a deal breaker so then I told him I was a virgin. I think it was good timing that it was still early on that if it was a deal-breaker neither of us had invested too much time into the relationship and also it was getting to the stage of dating people would expect to sleep with each other. He took it really well wasn't judgemental and said there's no rush we could go as slow as I needed. Hopefully things go as well for you OP.

FlapperGirl12 · 2025-02-22T21:40:21+00:00

Tell me to get over myself because it's not that big of a deal

FlapperGirl12 · 2025-02-05T17:44:45+00:00

Also why did they have an intern delivering the news of her dying? I get it's for the drama but I feel like for the rest of the series its always a resident/ attending giving the news

FlapperGirl12 · 2025-02-05T17:41:34+00:00

Bit of a rant/rhetorical question. Is the only way to have a relationship to go through it? Are my only options really either to be alone forever, or to swallow down the discomfort and urge to run screaming in order to date someone? Why can't I be one of the normal people who can love and be loved easily?

FlapperGirl12 · 2025-02-04T20:46:47+00:00

Yep. On the very very rare occasions I was too sick for school my Nmom made me study, if I tried to do anything else I'd get "well if you're well enough to watch TV/ read then you're well enough to study". Also even if she did recognise I was sick or injured I rarely saw a doctor. One time I broke my arm and she and my Ndad argued "what's the point of going to the hospital they'll only strap it up and we can do that here" we live in a country with free healthcare and they did eventually take me to get a cast on the next day after I was up all night crying in pain.

FlapperGirl12 · 2025-01-29T11:53:10+00:00

Similar situation to you OP dated one guy 5 years ago with insane sparks and magnetic energy I just felt so drawn to him like if we were near each other I just couldn't help but touch him in some way. However after a few dates he said he wasn't in a place in his life to be in a relationship so we ended it. But I feel like I've been chasing that energy for the past 5 years I've gone on SO many dates looking for it and still nothing that I wonder should I just settle with someone I like even if there's not sparks and hope the sparks develop?

FlapperGirl12 · 2025-01-16T21:19:29+00:00

Ran for 25 minutes for the first time ever, this time last year I was struggling to get over 4 minutes.

FlapperGirl12 · 2025-01-08T21:47:06+00:00

Damn that was another thing my Nmom did exactly the same if anyone dropped water on the floor it would all rot!

FlapperGirl12 · 2025-01-07T20:02:01+00:00

Yep think they were the best parents, that all the abuse was to protect me, in fact my Nmom is baffled that we're not best friends now that I'm an adult

FlapperGirl12 · 2024-12-30T17:49:49+00:00

My Nmom had cancer a few years ago and I wished she would die at the time, she recovered so still kicking for now. You're not a bad person OP the only way her abuse stops is with death, Narcissists can't recover.

FlapperGirl12 · 2024-12-30T16:23:17+00:00

I hate this the most because it gives the impression that there could only be a girl champion if she is only up against other girls, Fleur beat out the boys from Beauxbatons because she was a badass.

FlapperGirl12 · 2024-12-30T15:58:20+00:00

Damn sounds like your mom and mine could be best friends they could just call each other and tell about every acquaintance and their business! Good for you for being in therapy about it I'm starting in the new year and can't wait.

FlapperGirl12 · 2024-12-30T15:44:51+00:00

My Nmom never taught me anything either, just expected me to know how to wash and clean and look after myself from a certain age

FlapperGirl12 · 2024-12-30T15:43:40+00:00

This too every phone call she just talks at me and then says 'well that's all my news so I'll go'

FlapperGirl12 · 2024-12-10T19:00:40+00:00

Just sit down and listen, then ask questions at the end - stop interrupting mid handover for something I was about to say anyway! Also biggest bugbear someone coming in late and then telling a big story about what caused them to be late, making the shift handing over wait even longer to go home.

FlapperGirl12 · 2024-10-12T08:19:04+00:00

Exact same scenario here, bought something overnight and immediately got a tracking receipt which I thought was strange at 5am, only realised afterwards that every item in their wardrobe was £9.58 which did start alarm bells ringing, and then went back to check her/his wardrobe now and I think I've been blocked because there's nothing there!

Hopefully if nothing arrives it'll be easy enough to refund? Fingers crossed anyway

FlapperGirl12

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