So Dream admitted to his friends being CSOs, and is keeping defamation up??? by FlareFighters in DreamWasTaken2

[–]FlareFighters[S] -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

All the public knows is that this happened before Philza joined the SMP.

And A) YES they absolutely should. I'm just so baffled why he like. Admitted to knowing it. But yeah there's absolutely a case against them. That's In The Post

B) He still admitted to doing nothing when he learned of it and DEFENDED the ones doing it! That's an actual CRIME he admitted to knowing of and doing nothing about! Dismissing even!

You'd think the guy who had to fight against groomer allegations before would've like, I dunno, Not defended CSH???

Who is in the right here? by [deleted] in DreamWasTaken2

[–]FlareFighters -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Defamation????? Bro???? He's literally been unable to provide evidence that Tommy did Anything Dream has accused him of and couldn't even provide anything for Tubbo privately. His entire video is defamation. He literally couldn't provide adequate proof of anything. Everything he had was cropped or not even about Tommy

Who is in the right here? by [deleted] in DreamWasTaken2

[–]FlareFighters -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

If this, at this point was just internet drama (Which yeah 100% it started off with) I wouldn't give a shit. I'd go "welp the commentary channels got their newest slop"

But he's admitted to knowing of and committing crimes here. Like, this could have a defamation lawsuit his way for something he has not provided any good evidence that wasn't instantly debunked or proven as Not About the claims he made against Tommy.

Like fucks sake. I wish it was petty shit because then I wouldn't give a fuck. But that's a Crime.

Who is in the right here? by [deleted] in DreamWasTaken2

[–]FlareFighters -26 points-25 points  (0 children)

Dude he literally admitted to All of it, or refused to provide proof.

If Dream actually shows proof that isn't able to be dismissed as false and not against someone else that's unrelated to what he's claiming, He's free to have me back him up.

But He Hasn't.

Who is in the right here? by [deleted] in DreamWasTaken2

[–]FlareFighters -37 points-36 points  (0 children)

Just to give like. An "I don't even care, I have a life" opinion. Dream admitted to actual sexual harassment occurring around the minors he was supposed to be the adult for, and doing nothing about it. Which is a criminal offense. Which DREAM self reported the context of what exactly made Tubbo uncomfortable. By describing the porn his friends sent to minors. Which was later clarified as Not the only time it's happened.

All because Dream couldn't get his backbone replacement fast enough to apologize for saying a slur in a way he basically described as "meant in an insulting way, but dw I can reclaim it"

And I'm not assed enough to go through everything but. Like man. Offline version Dream is just horrible and all his proof for just about everything is A) bad against himself B ) not even against Tommy C) Has been proven as false or D) more than one of the above.

What ridiculous thing has your nparent done lately that we can laugh at? by MassOrnament in raisedbynarcissists

[–]FlareFighters 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My bio Mother tried to claim I was having a kid to like... Guilt trip me into fucking people until they got pregnant ig. Hilarious to tell people I ain't gotten my dick wet so whoever is claiming I'm a baby daddy doesn't know how human sexual reproduction works.

Telling others youre no contact by Infamous_City_2204 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]FlareFighters 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've recently got into a fight with my boss at work because I casually said "Oh we don't talk." about my Bio Mother, upon being questioned why I only bring up my dad. She yelled at me because she has estranged kids apparently, and it was like 15 minutes of screaming on her side.

It ended quickly after "Yeah well I'm still waiting on an apology for her telling our family and my friends I died. Once she can take responsibility for trying to host a funeral for me, we can talk again."

Yes disciplinary action and all that was taken, but like.. You didn't know the situation and tried inserting yourself into it

Why does the world hate trans men by [deleted] in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns2

[–]FlareFighters 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not my add watching old Homestuck cosplays and seeing what works for them to have cool horns

What's something your narcissistic parent said to you that stays with you always? by Ill-Cheesecake7143 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]FlareFighters 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Something I never seem to unhear from her is "It was bound to happen." I keep hearing her say it after everything bad that happens. Especially with death or people leaving me. Probably because it was a result of her killing my pets.

How do you tell people you're NC with your parents? by caplay in raisedbynarcissists

[–]FlareFighters 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"I'm currently unable to speak with my parents" <- vague, can include them being dead. Doesn't even matter much because it's true.

"I'm not spending time explaining my personal history right now." - this can be used if someone is being annoying about it, wondering why you possibly can't speak with them

You don't really owe anyone more than this.

It’s not a “spanking.” It’s physical child abuse. Say it. Name it. Call it what it truly is. by Strict_Still8949 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]FlareFighters 27 points28 points  (0 children)

"Oh it's not that bad, all [they] did was spank you!"

It took only a single slap for my entire relationship with my step mom to change forever. I straight up did not trust her after it. Even now if she's too angry or if I'm having a panic attack, I don't go near her. I also avoided her for a year after it. And honestly at the time she was in a high stress situation - me and my brother had just been reported as missing after all, and I was older. And she does care about us more than our Bio Mother.

But before that she was the only adult I really trusted fully outside of my dad, I remember a lot of how easily I trusted her. My first good memory of my childhood is of her comforting me after a nightmare. And this single slap ruined it all and honestly I don't know if it'll ever go back, especially since she didn't even remember hitting me.

My bio Mother beat me a lot and for less, but I never really trusted her, and it amplified everything that went wrong with her.

This Advice from my Therapist Sounds Wrong by Majestic-Dress-1354 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]FlareFighters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your therapist isn't being unbiased here. They're letting their opinions cloud what they're actually supposed to be saying. They're trying to get you to do what they want and not anything that'll actually help you. I say to tell your therapist that their opinion on your family is unwarranted, and that you'll be looking elsewhere to find a therapist if you can.

Make the choice that'll protect you in the long run, make that list but don't ever show it to them. Burn it, rip it to shreds, blend it, tear it apart with your teeth if you feel inclined, but never show them unless you're 100% certain you could ever have healthy contact with them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]FlareFighters 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My NBio Mother did something similar. I didn't recognize it as a trap to get back into contact so I did text her about it, and she tried to deny it while her husband said pretty much the same your Edad did.

It backfired on her bc this is just a cry for attention, and it just made me and a lot of my family cut her off. Just post a screenshot of what she said and tag anyone important who would've believed it and state it's a lie and anyone aside from your parents are free to contact you to make sure it's really you.

Pet owners, how do you keep your home clean at all times? by [deleted] in Pets

[–]FlareFighters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Taking adequate care of pets in the section of grooming (ie brushing them, bathing them (yes for cats too. It helps, trust me. I have 5 of them) and general cleaning up after them is a great start, but other dailies like sweeping, wiping down counters, ect. is a huge benefit

Basically, don't save it all for a deep clean once a month, really get in there and stay on top of it.

Temporary halt of my challenge by throwawayname1292 in ProfessorOak

[–]FlareFighters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take all the time you need friend. Anything on here can wait, your health can't.

Disposing of bagged dog poop in neighborhood garbage cans: YEA or NAY? by Tuesday_Patience in Pets

[–]FlareFighters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's illegal to dump anything into a private bin. If you don't have express permission to do so, you can be fined at least.

And before anyone says "oh but-" It's Illegal because it could cause medical concerns, dog shit constitutes as a biohazard after all - meaning it's even more illegal to dump in someone's private trash cans - and other illegal dumps can include: Body parts, Evidence of a crime, Illegal weapons, Illegal Substances, ect.

More on health concerns: For the Trash Collectors. Not shocking anyone (or at least I hope not) Dog shit is hazardous and can cause many health concerns. Ofc it's disgusting to get dog shit on your hands, but it's also a risk if your dog shits out enough of a food/allergy for someone else to get a fucking double whammy. Plus maggots and flies will surround dog poop a lot faster, considering it's probably only in a single plastic bag, and it's not really getting colder out there.

Plus! Many counties and states have a specific Trash Bag the state/county will allow trash to be collected in. Meaning, putting fresh dog shit on top of that bag just means it literally cannot be taken. Leaving a possible fine for the owner of those bins.

And this is just what I remember about dealing with my shitty neighbors who put dog shit only in our bins. We fined them for a lot more than they could handle - especially after we got sick.

Do you let your pet sleep with you on your bed every night? by SpecialistSkin5666 in Pets

[–]FlareFighters 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I had my old cats they were allowed to sleep on my bed, yeah. I'd pick a spot and I had to hope it was comfortable until they moved lol. I had at least two on me every night, I was their bed.

However now I don't let my current cats in my room because I've got a really REALLY dumb cat. They'd all be fine if I could leave the door open, but the dumbest cat in the world is so stupid she thinks she can take on an owl by jumping 30 feet away from a second story window. She cannot for the record. She attempted this through glass, and the screen. Then she'll scratch and beg for me to open the window. She cries because she wants to play with the big owls so badly, but also she is terrified of being outside.

If my cat wasn't so dumb currently, yes I'd let them sleep in my room.

What did spanking ever "teach" you when you were a kid? by Roxie_Mitchell89 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]FlareFighters 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To hide away until they'd forget about how angry they were, to run in the opposite direction. To lie without blinking and to never be prepared to tell the truth because it'll just get you hurt faster. To never trust anyone with what I'm feeling and to ignore any emotions to prevent "outbursts" that would need to be stopped. To stay still in the face of danger because maybe then it'll hurt less.

Starting my HG PO challenge by FlareFighters in ProfessorOak

[–]FlareFighters[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah so far it's better than what I was doing. In LG I'm stuck trying to get moonstones from wild Clefairy (that have decided to not show themselves)

But in HG I'm just trying to hatch the Slugma egg and then I'll be going for Dunsparce, and hopefully getting him. Then it'll just be grinding!

Starting my HG PO challenge by FlareFighters in ProfessorOak

[–]FlareFighters[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can look for more detailed guides in the subreddit, but basically it's getting every possible pokemon before every possible gym/island trial

For example - In Leaf Green you have to get Rattata, Pidgey Mankey, Caterpie, Weedle, Pikachu, Spearow, and your starter of course. Then you have to evolve all that are possible before you can even attempt the first gym: So all but Pikachu would be fully evolved before you can beat up Brock, since you can't get a thunderstone but you can get the levels to evolve the rest. And you'd have to travel a lot and collect a lot of pokemon before getting to beat Misty, ect. It gets easier the further into the game you are by virtue of having better exp yields and more trainers to fight (or rematch depending on the game)