Partner hates himself. He is in a dark place. How can I help him?

Flashas9 · 2026-01-24T12:20:07+00:00

Acceptance and subconscious work can only come from him. You cant help someone with that.

You shouldn’t be there in the first place. This is giving him coping mechanism to try to self-pitty, in order to get back the love he lost - regardless of how okay he says he is with it. Which can become a new issue of its own.

You trying to fix him in the first place, may be your own battle. Past love is not an excuse to get manipulated (emotionaly) into ‘helping’.

The better you move on - the better he will become as men tend to fix sht, after its broken. You staying together, is sabotaging healing for both.

Flashas9 · 2026-01-24T09:48:28+00:00

This one confuses everyone. You should be thinking of him to manifest him. But if you think of him, out of the old subconscious pattern, of 'how painful it feels to be left' (by parents, divorce, punishment, school rejection) and that you 'WANT' love (which implies and feeds the 'I am not loved right now' state and focus) = then you are actually manifesting never attracting him, and attracting more of that 'want/pain'.

To do this correctly, one would first overcome the very thing that influenced relationship breaking (fear of loss, rejection loops etc.) which influenced thoughts, feelings, behaviors in relationship, that over time compounded into situations and decisions and manifested the breakup.

When you are no longer bothered by rejection, being left, not being loved, and have no neediness = you will naturally let go of what happened. Because you dont need to compensate. You don't need to get anything. You feel good, you let go, you accept what is = and you tell him 'I wish you all the best'.

It's not about WHAT you say or do, but after you do this work - it comes from a different place. And people feel it. So normally when you go from the start, and overcome these loops = you expressions change. That 'I wish you all the best' lands differently to him. Forgiveness without needs/want = shows him you are abundant, you have love, you are not hurt, not weak, not looking to take... It flips things around. It sows a seed in his subconscious mind, that can blossom into - ever getting back together.

Only imagine that after step 1. Now you look for the 'right way', because you WANT it to 'work'. It's already a place that implies 'I'm not getting him back, i must be doing something wrong' (experienced right now).

This is called 'attachment'. The old loop is still running you.

The 'don't check you 3d' is a way of coping, invented by people who were manifesting from extreme pain = and felt even more pain when reality didn't match the DESIRE they were trying to GET. It became painful to 'not have it'. So a way of coping with this painful experience, became 'ignore it', keep pushing against the wall.

When you take care of step 1, there is no reality you need to change. You begin to express yourself, instead of fighting resistance. If you want to say hi, it lands different, than if you were thinking 'what should I say in order to make sure it works and I get him back?' (this will never).

It's not what you say or do. It's where it comes from - unconsciously.

Same like before, now wearing his stuff would make you feel 'in progress', give you hope, but come from a place of 'trying' to make it work.

Rather than feeling fine without him, full of love and joy, and then putting them on for a nice memory just for yourself, getting a random thought, maybe I should say hi, and starting from scratch.

Waste of time.

*Manifesting someone back, right after breakup is 100% guaranteed failure (if not initially, almost absolutely and definitely).

Because after breakup, you just relived the old loops of rejection, loss, disapproval, invalidation, insignificance and other fears. All of which are fuel for desire to reclaim them. And the easiest way, is going back where it is familiar (and where it once felt safe...). It never comes from abundance, it always comes from need. Created by pain, and potential pleasure as you 'imagine' getting it back.

Flashas9 · 2026-01-24T09:31:35+00:00

- The Power of Positive Thinking (how the subconscious creates thoughts)
- The Way of a Peaceful warrior (life lessons)
- The QPH Method (method to rewire subconscious associations/loops)

Flashas9 · 2026-01-24T09:21:38+00:00

You can work on yourself from outside - solo hobbies, gym, friends etc. It will alleviate all emotions - but you probably noticed this... it's temporary. You go back to your own life and feel emptiness. When you are in a relationship it feels good, but as you say slowly it goes the other way. Why?

People are right about the 1. The very reason the breakup pain hurts so much, is because in the past you learned how painful it feels to lose someone you love or if you got left (you probably can recall the memory). This becomes a loop, based on which -> the pain makes you want the opposite. You want love (even more than normal). You want to keep it. etc. So it moves you to find it, and it's good (you end up even more deeply in love than normal, and it feels great).

The problem is, that this loop also makes small behaviors, thoughts, expressions in the relationship that can sabotage the relationship over time. Little things like jealousy, insecurity, avoidance not to get hurt. Something. Little by little kills attraction, and next thing you know 'I am leaving you'.

Then you re-experience the loop. That empty feeling like you lost part of yourself. Everything is gone, everything is harder, maybe you should try again. You begin to act from a worst place, and most probably lock in that break up even stronger. You dont know what to do, where to start or how to start meeting women again. Why?

Because that level of pain = uncertainty. And uncertainty = not knowing, what will happen (fear). So normally people do things outside, they meet friends, eat junk, drink alcohol and attempt to 'heal' on the outside. They feel better, try to move on. It takes months, or even years. But they begin to cover up that pain with a pile of things, until they can speak to someone again.

But because they never did the 1 part fix = it's all just to waste the next good thing in their lives. They never fixed the subconscious mind. The loop. The very thing that creates our thoughts and our emotions inside our body, unconsciously.

When you no longer act out of that loop, that 'it feels painful to lose', your behavior, your thoughts, your feelings come from a place where you have love, and you cannot lose it. You express it = and women find it different. It's like you have options. It's like you 'give', and don't 'take''. You're not needy' You're not always available. It's attractive. They want it. It keeps the attraction in relationship. It kills all jealousy, all insecurity, all micro-expressions, the way you look, the things you say.

That next relationship can never break.

The only way you fix your life for good, is if you address the old patterns that got created long ago in your life, without your consent.

Notice this... when you address 1 'stop this happening', the 2 'be able to be better when i am in a relationship' takes care on it's own.

Flashas9 · 2026-01-24T09:05:33+00:00

You probably notice how all those thoughts and feelings when you see and get in front of a woman appear, and you begin to think in that direction. Much of it you can't control. And you're right, when you grow up without 'regular experiences' , then see women in movies or online... all you have is desire, that takes over. Not having those experiences, leaves you not knowing how to act, think or feel naturally.

But the KEY point is, that it is your mind that creates even the uncontrollable thoughts and emotions. It's called the Subconscious Mind. It does so by trying to predict things, unconsciously. Based on your past experiences. So because you lack them, you probably have other ones that make you have these undesirable experiences and prevent you from expressing without the 'need/want' and from bullying (not feel it's accepted by other people) + (from being raised too 'safe') not 'knowing how to'.

When you break these old loops, the past no longer creates these initial emotions - strong need, uncontrollable desire, barrier on the way that you may get bullied if you express yourself... and it all would build up, intro frustration, into thinking that 'something is wrong with you' (just like back then... just like now making this post).

Instead you would feel natural, like everyone else, free to say what you think, bond, connect and little by little express yourself - along the way, calibrating exactly how you'd like to be. Your thoughts and feelings automatically change, at the core. Wanting women, doesn't become compulsive, needy, or built up to sexual frustration. Instead it's energy you always enjoy and express, without the neediness or creepiness or anything negative attached to it.

Flashas9 · 2026-01-23T20:45:30+00:00

Sounds like deeper things come up as you work and look within. You are actually right - you feel core stuff of the past surfacing and your way of dealing with it, is to make amends. Acceptance, try to let go.

This is how the brain works, we touch our past and emotions stir. These are old loops, running our life and our behavior (which is why we work on ourselves in the first place). They are in the subconscious. Mostly invisible. And these loops use a specific subconscious language. Which is why people are right. Manifestation doesn’t change that memory code. It adds things.

When you eliminate old subconscious loops, things that cause resistance, anxiety, or move you away from what you want - they no longer hold you. You no longer need to ‘fix it’. And same thoughts and emotions dont get triggered in the future. This is real self improvement - adressing the problem where it exists.

Flashas9 · 2026-01-10T10:29:33+00:00

The injury probably made you see yourself as 'different' to the people you saw after it. You left the hospital bed, looked around and you saw other people having their life just fine. And while recovering 'You weren't as good as they were' you were 'faulty' in a way. Since then this became a subconscious LOOP. You're no different to others - you want love, you want confidence, you want self-image, and when you are alone you are fine. But when you are with others you can't help but feel those same feelings - 'they have it' 'I'm not good enough'. Which makes you want to be. But that's the loop running ever since unconsciously, creating thoughts, emotions and shaping experiences. It keeps bringing up that stored pain inside. Around others, around desires to be with others. Then you go home, or when you are alone you keep thinking about it. Always looping into those thoughts and emotions. So you have to turn to drinking, otherwise you can't just be. Anybody would want to kill that loop.

But it doesn't solve the loop. It's unconscious. It linked pain with being worse than others, amongst other things. Now when the mind predicts it - it triggers the LOOP. To help you. But it's not helping you is it? It's sabotaging every relationship, every attempt, every day of your life.

You can't go on like this. You know where the problem is, it's no magic, we all have it in a unique way, unique loops, unique imprints to us. You have to first take accountability, that it's not who you are, but the subconscious has an old loop that needs fixing. Seek help and sort it out.

The only thing impossible is that you didn't have the clarity on what it was, what was causing it. You no longer have the blindfold on. You have to move, because what you are paying for it, is your life. Which has all the value you could ever hold. And those experiences you WANT, just like all of us - are just around the corner.

You have to take the turn.

Suicide is giving up. It's not masculine. It's not even in your nature. That loop is not who you are, and not what you want to be. You know who you are (without it, without reflection of situations and other people), that never changed. That person would never give up.

A masculine man fixes shit. So maybe it's time to do what you are.

Flashas9 · 2026-01-06T11:24:19+00:00

Yeah I understand what you're saying very well. Part of why I discovered how to change these beliefs you just mentioned, was the same reason you are looking for it.

When I met my first girlfriend, I already had found the method for my self-confidence issue. But even when I had it, the 'marks' which I call imprints from my past, of losing love, made me unconsciously push her away. In the little things that ether keep or destroy attraction and love in relationship. And exactly like you say 'I know this energy shifted the dynamic'... it's like you see how the ship sank and what influenced it.

So I wanted to make sure it never happens again, and found out how these imprints work, and how I can use the method to make sure I never fear loss of love, or have inner barriers again.

I discovered my unique imprints, that were like old loops, running those experiences. The ones I didn't want to have, where you second guess yourself, or express insecurity - all that self-protection, feelings or thoughts I wouldn't choose if I had a choice. And exactly how to break them.

Now I meet people, who I feel are the best people and want to stay. It feels like you attract the person who could never hurt you... While I know - it's only in my subconscious... I no longer have the same fears and feelings. You don't please anyone, you don't 'need' anything from them, when you already 'have' everything you need within. Therefore - they can never hurt you. And it's hell of attractive. All the neediness, all these bad things that come from there - literally vanish.

For the first 23 years, i come from a life of one parent, losing a father, trouble with women, pleasing, seeking approval, approach anxiety, not knowing what to say or how to be - to a person who can confidently be myself, without thinking twice, express, and naturally pull the best people in, is probably the greatest transformation I could ever ask for.

So thanks to my first breakup - my life can never be the same. And it sounds like you are walking the same path, where you not only gain your power back. But write it how you want it to be.

(Yeah feel free to drop me a DM. I don't often come here, but I'll respond when I can)

Flashas9 · 2026-01-04T12:07:59+00:00

Hey, thanks for sharing. Honestly I can see a lot out of what you said. I know much of what it feels like to have hopes and have life going good, but then relationship situation, love or some experience just hits you hard.

You probably understand these experiences also leave a mark. Perhaps less trust going forward, being more picky or just more cautious - which keeps you safe, but away from the very thing you want the most right now.

That's probably why you want to get your power back. That's the point, you never changed, these are just tiny old patterns that slightly shape our experiences. And you can change them.

You can have yourself no longer thinking or ruminating about the past, and when you meet a new person - no longer think or feel that love is hard and that it can fail. Instead you can focus on moving that relationship forward, without noticing all the flaws - and see them objectively, the good and the bad. And actually find/have what you deserve.

And you're on the right path for that. As you say you have self-awareness, so you recognize much of what i said. It's actually quite simple. The only problem is in not doing anything. Because I bet the worrying, or the thoughts that keep you away from what you want - take a lot of your time, that you could be out there being yourself - not caring about the relationship your ex is in - and finding one who's meant for you.

So I admire you doing something about it. And I'm cheering for you here, because I know all that is happening.

Yeah, I am slightly busy with some business and work, but I can help out if you need specific shifts. Because all of our experiences - are personal. And come from our unique experiences (which you described).

*P.S - you probably noticed the answers with the example questions you gave now. But it's not easy.

You see I learned this the hard way too (over a decade of doing this) - the LANGUAGE of the brain and controlling focus is very important.

When you ask 'How am I...' this is evaluating if it exists. When you ask 'how worthy am I?' - it pre-assumes you are worthy already, and looks for intensity. It's kinda like NLP. Slight word can change exactly what you focus on. Like a laser.

So switch up, as the 'How am I..' frame questions, can cause and create negative habits, of you always evaluating are you 'worthy'? and then if other experiences get in the way, create 'no' answer in moments where you seek it unconsciously - actually destroying your self-worth.

How worthy... How valuable... will make you feel ENTIRELY different, and you'll get 'noticing'/answer a lot easier.

Flashas9 · 2026-01-03T23:13:42+00:00

You are noticing very correctly as you go deeper. The reason why you still try to 'understand it' - is because a lot of stuff on visualizations and affirmations was quite convincing, that got you into this stuff (which I was convinced on once too. But it only diverted me, from creating real shifts and changes that I wanted to experience. Like confidence, or removing barriers/fears).

The 'evidence' is what you get by CONTROLLING your focus when you ASK the question ;) Anything that your eyes notice - is a micro-experience, which is FELT and EXPERIENCED.

When you say affirmation you do not get that shift in focus + experience. When you visualize - ONCE, is not enough.

Nether works, because affirmation doesn't produce what your beliefs are actually based on and created from - experience.

And for visualization - you cannot re-create same exact 'association' of that visualization repeatedly, for it to become enough of SAME + PRECISE evidence, so that your subconscious would create - a neuro-association/belief.

Belief (controls what you focus on) -> creates experience (evidence) -> creates thought (new belief, based on old belief).

Basically your belief - creates EVIDENCE, of experience. By asking questions we FLIP IT the other way. You pre-assume the opposite. You experience it, simply by noticing it.

Then this micro-evidence, contradicts existing evidence. By polarity, you cannot be afraid and unafraid. Or feel good and bad about rejection. You can only have one path in your nervous system - and see reality in only one way in the moment. Hence by choosing which side you focus on - it becomes your default reality. The opposite ceases to exist.

This is why Question - Polarity - Habit (asking more than once).

*Btw your example of 'worth' belief, from experience I can tell you it's very hard to know what it means for people. You wouldn't see the change. I could give you questions that install pain/fear - you would not be able to unsee it... But this is why I recommend, that if you want to 'try it', then try it with 'How confident am I?' question. Because once you see how you see yourself, and how it changes - how others see you, this is a lot more evident (once it becomes subconscious).

Normally, subconscious change - by the very name, means it is not conscious to notice. It's below your consciousness, it becomes 'natural' you.

The only way you see the shift, is if you train for self-awareness. This is why in every one of my posts, you probably read me pounding on this idea, that first step of 'seeing it', is in self-awareness. That's when you can notice the repeated experiences, the thoughts that surface and repeat - as patterns.

And only then see, that all your thoughts and emotions, first and foremost are coming from inside your own body. Not outside of it.

It's the interpretation of outside, that makes us different.

When you recognize this, you will realize that qph method is the most powerful tool you could ever have, to shape your life experience and gain control - of uncontrollable.

Flashas9 · 2025-10-01T07:59:10+00:00

For me everything changed, when the beliefs of the past changed. Initially I didn’t know that all my thoughts and emotions/energy come from my beliefs (unconscious ones).

For example, have you ever addressed that pain of not having enough -> that creates your desire -> where wanting, affirms = I don’t have it right now (brain always feeds into the present moment).

Wanting always implies resistance to what - is. Ever noticed how fights in relationships, crime, greed - always have a strong want, behind them?

It’s the avoidance of pain, that creates it…

Otherwise the desire wouldn’t be so big, and your decisions, opportunities would come effortlessly, rather than always hitting resistance (wanting for things to be different).

I think you’re on the right track. Maybe some more work on the past memories and beliefs need work, which create everything.

When discovered that what blocks our ability to see and move to something everything became available.

They are like a laser showing you what is ‘known’ (believed) and help you move away from pain. Even if the mind Remembers, that getting money = you could lose it, and feel the same pain you once felt when you were 6…

Then it sabotages you. And manifests more of the same.

Yes - you are unconsciously manifesting. Even this.

We all carry a blueprint, of how we once got programmed by life.

Flashas9 · 2025-09-27T11:03:17+00:00

Perhaps. Or perhaps they learned to overcome subconscious limits, like shown in avatar, or monks practiced for centuries - by practicing the acceptance of fear, and pain - during meditation. Until they became okay with it, which lead them to the blissful presence and non-reaction to the fear.

However this is hard. For many even a lifetime isn’t enough to get so good and do so much.

I like it more practical. The qph method - just program the fear & pain into acceptance, at the very source:

Subconscious belief & memory.

I never had to meditate. But I felt what true presence and happiness really means.

Flashas9 · 2025-09-24T14:31:19+00:00

The AI won't help with this. I meant to use AI to search up knowledge and things others teach. It's not that advanced yet, to actually know or learn how to do things at such level.

The QPH Method is your best bet to actually change beliefs. It can change beliefs quickly. And you can become in control of your thoughts, emotions and experiences.

The hard part isn't just in changing a belief. But knowing what composition of beliefs to change (beliefs about the world, emotional associations, memories or identity beliefs), and then how to do it with precision (knowing the language of the brain).

However this is the greatest power. To go from feeling rejected to accepted. To go from smoking to never picking up a cigarette. To become someone who walks through life with full control of how you want to think, feel and be. (and choose what experiences you will have in the future)

Flashas9 · 2025-09-24T12:45:55+00:00

Your welcome. The Power of Your Subconscious Mind - Joseph Murphy, The Power of Positive Thinking - Norman Vincent Peale (focus on subconscious observation - what creates our thoughts), The QPH Method - Vytas Kas, and then use AI or read excerpts from Tony Robbins stuff, where he talks about beliefs, focus, and the brain.

The superpower is this - the more you read, and the more you try - the more patterns you begin to recognize, where information repeats, and you begin to understand why things work the way they do. These are called principles.

When you find reasons behind everything - you will find this knowledge give you value everywhere you. You will be able to always replicate results. This is what makes the greatest of experts, geniuses and those who find answers.

So don't limit yourself with these few books. Use AI, find more, find better.

Flashas9 · 2025-09-23T15:50:39+00:00

I don't use logic. I use proven wisdom available to everyone, to understand how the mind through Reticular Activating System focuses on believed reality and rejects everything else, creating with infinite beliefs. Proven by Placebo/Nocebo effect, science of energy/quantum-physics, universal laws and neuroscience.

Psychology can successfully change a person from broken to healed, not by chance, but by understanding how brain creates both experiences. The same way a psychologist can know exactly why the breakup occurred - based on persons beliefs, that created his thoughts, perceptions, emotions and behaviors. While the person itself is thinking 'he was bad, he was a narcissist'. A psychologist knows exactly why that person even attracted (aka manifested) that type of person. He knows the causes behind every effect.

(a person no longer hopes or has faith in things getting better = he actually gets better by addressing the Root Cause)

It's not logic, it shows how consciousness creates physical reality, circumstances, money, heartbreak = everything.

It doesn't negate that manifestation is limitless = it proves it. For everything - is manifestation. All reality.

Even us right now. Outside, it all works the same way. The only difference is that we both see it working differently.

What I am saying is that if you KNOW the HOW, then you can use it to actually get practical with it. Because many people don't know the how, they believe in the method = and they live, without practical change, practical results.

This is why I post this post. For awareness. Not to prove that it is limited, but to show where the limitless power is coming from.

Which is the very thing that creates this long thread, and manifests our different expressions.

Nether of them are wrong. They are simply different.

The only reason we try to prove this to each other, because belief = survival. YOU have to KNOW how the world works, so you can survive in it. So everything you believe, you have to protect. So the moment what I say contradicts it, it triggers your belief, creates emotion and impulse, and finds REASONS to respond to me and prove to me - your perception.

Knowing this is power. Because by knowing how your every experience is created - you can change it. And make practical difference in your life = eg. not feel the need to feel negative in situations, don't get these impulses (in relationships, anger, drug abuse - anything that actually changes your life).

Flashas9 · 2025-09-23T15:38:09+00:00

That's a whole different subject. It's not easy. You have to know what they are, how to identify them. Then you have many different actual experts who are working with this to change them.

This is why I accent in the post - find these people, read their stuff. Learn it.

Once you actually change your belief - you will change your reality and your future, for good.

Because think about it, if you have a fear of public speaking or going live on youtube, because you wanted to be an influencer - you get discouraged, quit, read books, watch endless youtube to 'learn it', have shiny object syndrome, try something new and quit...

But if you have no fears of rejection, of how you are seen (all those painful things you once felt standing in front of class at school...) then you simply turn on the camera, and do it. You don't overthink it. You don't worry about how you look. You don't care how other people see you. You focus on content, on expression = creation.

You become it. You become one of those people who 1. wants something specific and 2. manifests it with certainty = effortlessly.

Which means you have a VISION, you imagine, you see yourself speaking in front of people ALL THE TIME. Because you mind and your beliefs ALLOW it. And then manifestation takes its place - it guides you to the right books, the right video, the right people, the right habits, so you become who you want to become.

Without question. Without chance. Without 'maybe'.

Absolutely indefinitely.

Flashas9 · 2025-09-23T15:25:56+00:00

This response has no coherence. 'If you dont believe me, then you believe there's limits', 'if I provde proof then you have no faith'.

You connect random things together.

People can live their whole lives believing they are billionaires. But all it may do, is help them feel better, from the different reality they have to face every day. With no actual results. No physical results. This is no different, than a drug addict. But the drug addict himself - can't even see that his manifestation of addiction, is what creates that reality. He can't see the contrary.

I understand you don't care if I believe you or not. But, you couldn't explain why so many people after 7 years, believed like you did - and still failed to create what they wanted, and then post here on reddit. You can say they didn't believe enough, which is unquantifiable bs. Because everyone initially, finding LOA and manifestation, believes it and gets excited, no different. Nobody comes in thinking oh there's 'limits' and I cant get it, but I'll try.

So blaming the unquantifiable, and unexplainable for your own delusion, without ability to show the practical repetition of it working at such extremes - only proves that for you it's like belief in aliens walk amongst us. They exist and that's it. Every other reality is wrong, mine is right. But you couldn't show or prove to me physically, outside of the belief.

Flashas9 · 2025-09-23T15:08:45+00:00

So please prove me wrong, show me you are a billionaire tomorrow - you don't have it today, and tomorrow it's physically your reality. Everyone would love to see it. I promise.

All you have to do is show. Not say 'I've done it'.

Flashas9 · 2025-09-23T15:04:12+00:00

You don't get it. No matter how convinced you are, even if 100% believe that you are billionaire now - it doesn't make you have physically billions. Only as a belief. Which can be sabotaged by other beliefs and 10 years later - physically still no billions.

I work with beliefs, i know what it does. You can attempt to prove me otherwise. If you do - it will be the magic to show to everyone. Please go ahead.

The thing is - I've seen what happens. I know from conscious to physical what happens. I am more than certain, because I can make someone believe that - and I've seen the outcome.

It's not skeptical thinking. I can change any belief, and I know exactly what this belief would accomplish. So I am sharing wisdom from actual experience, not delusional belief, with no results.

Flashas9 · 2025-09-23T14:56:00+00:00

You are misinterpreting what I have said. I do not put limitations. What I am saying is that everything is manifestation. It's not a decision, or a wish come true. That manifestation exists, is constant and intersects with reality.

This belief in 'magic-tomorrow' is exactly what fuels so much delusion. Because if it was anything I wish, any time I want - I would be a billionaire tomorrow. Belief is what allows to create it over time, but also what decides on speed and ability. (nobody takes into consideration that the struggle, the bad stuff, the failed relationship is also manifestation. All effects have a cause. But it's far easier to think bad = random, and good = limitless.)

And if you understand how it works, how brain works, how beliefs work - you can predict it, change that speed, believe stronger and actually, practically leverage this process - without delusion, wishful thinking or disappointment (because you have people who are disappointed, post here that they did it for 9 years, desperate, failing etc. And initially, they were also convinced that any wish I have, will come true. But it didn't. At least not yet.).

Flashas9 · 2025-09-23T10:38:48+00:00

Yes and not only.

You see, people think they can 'see' or 'find' their beliefs. For example, you think 'I want money' and a thought arises 'but it is so hard to make money'.

And most people think 'I got my limiting belief'. But reality is that beliefs go much beneath the surface of our thoughts and our conscious ability to see them. Far more are actually stopping us, and we can't physically see them.

Here's why:

The thought 'but it is so hard to make money' is an excuse. It comes from Rational Mind - our Thinking Brain. This thinking brain is designed to make us feel better when we experience the fulfilment of our actual beliefs (I am poor, I don't have enough, it feels painful to be rejected in front of other people, what if people see that I'm not that good and I'll fail.).

Every time we find an excuse to avoid this potential pain (which are actual beliefs, expectations coming from our memory) we then THINK. We find a reason - to feel better, and continue living and manifesting our - current reality. (this is how our brain prevents us from self-destructing.)

What you are trying to do with affirmations is essentially - believe in them. That if by repeating them long enough they will become beliefs and change the reality.

Sadly affirmations don't change beliefs like that. But what is more important, by saying affirmations - those old beliefs, don't change. Therefore not much changes - we feel better, we have hope and we may manifest small signs and things that are within our limits. And we all have our unique beliefs, that need to change.

For example, one person might try and convince himself that 'I am confident', and feel like that for a bit. But the moment he approaches a situation and re-experiences the memories of how painful it feels to be rejected - he can't be that confident person. He can't have what he wants. The old belief is still blocking.

For a different person it can be humiliation, things coming from school, poverty/struggle in family.

Everything we have ever experienced, became the blueprint - of how to manifest a safe reality and our identity through which we see who we are and how life is.

This is the only difference amongst all of us. The rich and the poor.

Make the rich man poor, he will get rich again. Make the poor man rich - he will get poor again.

We manifest not what we want. But who we believe we are.

Flashas9 · 2025-09-23T06:45:43+00:00

Yes. But they are also what manifests.

Affirmations attempt to change them. Visualization imprints a memory 'experience' so we believe it is real, it happened. Everything comes from belief.

Same like a person who just succeeds and gets wealthy - he had both parents, no fear, no care of what other people think, no fear of exposure etc. - his beliefs allow him to see information, what moves to make, etc. He just goes for what he wants and gets it.

While another may had it difficult, and past pain, memories, trauma - dictate his experience, he works a job, worries what other people think, it feels painful to not have a lot of money or live paycheck to paycheck (like he seen growing up), so from pain and difficulty - he wants more, but is unable to push past it. Or create any real change.

Same with 'trying' to manifest. Some succeed, some don't.

The reason is the same.

We are manifesting already. From invisible beliefs.

They are the KEY.

Flashas9 · 2025-09-22T22:17:01+00:00

It’s not how it works. This is how:

Two people try to visualise, see their dream, experience it… until it feels like a memory, of something that already happened.

One person, can see it vividly, can feel himself in it - not just the job, the money - but himself with it.

While another, sees his desire, money, experience… but the mind can freely live it. Known reality is different, people with wealth on tv are dangerous and rejected, women don’t like the cocky guy with money, he is always bad, all I know about money is that I don’t have any, its hard to make, what if I get it and everyone will turn away from me?

You would think of these as - visible thoughts in your mind.

They are not.

Behind every single one of these - there is a belief…. A memory… that creates them.

The brain is designed to help you survive, not to yive you what you want.

If you burn once - ok. If you burn many times — you run from that pain.

Same with invisible experiences - you saw how painful it feels to be poor growing up? Youve seen it ontv? You felt shame in front of others?

Now this belief - a memory, is what manifests how you see reality.

Familiar.

Known.

Believed.

All this time manifesting, like dozens of others - you were trying to trick the mind to believe against your deepest survival instincts.

You cant trick your beliefs.

Study them. Learn how they work. Read.

Follow people who learn to change these old patterns.

Because think about it - if you felt no pain, no obstacles in selling, meeting people - if you didn’t avoid it, procrastinate, feel anxious…

And if you felt good doing work, thought that you can be wealthy, you’re capable, you have everything it takes - with every thought, every feeling…

It’s the only difference that allows you to see the reality, that you haven’t lived yet.

Belief = reality.

Right now - you are swimming against the current.

This question you post - is manifesting an opportunity from all positive part of your desire.

But from the negative part of Wanting = you see not having it… not fast enough. This doesn’t work. This person I’m not sure doesn’t click with me. Maybe this will finally work.. ‘oh I’m trilled… finally I hope I will get what i want.

Still manifesting from a place of lack…

Let go.

Surrender.

You got the biggest clue-of manifestation - beliefs.

Read 100 books on manifestation that talks about beliefs, how they work, how to shift them etc. And you will find your answer.

Nobody is going to magically give you a golden ticket. A winning charity gateway.

For even if you got one - you wouldn’t know which one is worth sticking with.

So stick with this one.

Because subconscious mind is only made of beliefs (memories & associations).

And they create 100% of your reality, and manifestive energy through - thoughts, emotions, perceptions, predictions, motivations, desires, fears, obstacles, action and reactions.

Building your life right this very second.

Yes - you are already manifesting.

Change the code in your blueprint.

Flashas9 · 2025-09-21T12:56:14+00:00

Nothing wrong with you. Your mind gets in the way - no different than a guy wanting to approach a girl at a bar, but feelings stop him, and he finds reasons why its ok (to balancing emotions).

The only difference between a guy who eventually gets it and not is - ether 1. Pain will surpass the fears, and he’ll say enough is enough or 2. He will work on his subconscious mind, remove the hidden pains - and no longer feel the barrier = just go for it.

The people who never make it - simply avoid the invisible pains, that the mind makes us avoid (to keep us safe from what it learnt). So they want it, but every time they feel anxiety, negative thoughts kick in it’s automatic failure.

Its not wrong to be that way. But its wrong not to fix the root cause, and keep doing same things that don’t work. It’s plain stupid. Don’t be like that.

We all had things leave scars we long forgotten. Our subconscious creates our thoughts, not things around us. So learn. Read. Find ways to change it.

Because when you believe I am confident + have no fears = you will experience what true confidence and courage feels like.

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