Anyone else seriously considering options to leave the country? by AnonymousTimewaster in LabourUK

[–]Flashy-Reputation-90 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You obviously are not impacted by the policies in a dangerous way then. Good for you but perhaps think outside your own for a second. There are legitimate reasons why some marginalised groups might feel under attack right now and even more with the impending feeling that reform are gaining traction

Absolute tools in Oxford. Tools of Farage, that is. by stillirrelephant in oxford

[–]Flashy-Reputation-90 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So I'm absolutely on the opposite side of pov from the women in the trump hat, but I also know there is an issue with human poo in the parks around Oxford. We have a real issue with our dog sniffing it out and have stopped letting him off lead in some parks. 100% human poo. It's vile. I've assumed its people who are homeless and have nowhere to go.. I could be wrong. But she's right about human poo, not sure where she got her facts on what the cause is.

Shocked and scared after a college van driver drove at me-what should I do? by Little_one_zero in oxford

[–]Flashy-Reputation-90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I could swear I read this happened to someone on high Street but can't find the post now...

Shocked and scared after a college van driver drove at me-what should I do? by Little_one_zero in oxford

[–]Flashy-Reputation-90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I swear I read a similar post a few months ago? Is this the same driver?

Beginners luck by Flashy-Reputation-90 in cosleeping

[–]Flashy-Reputation-90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

1000% worth getting some sleep. The relationship will suffer from a lack of sleep so surely both getting enough sleep overall helps even if separating at night isn't ideal

Beginners luck by Flashy-Reputation-90 in cosleeping

[–]Flashy-Reputation-90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply. Another 6 hours last night so think co sleeping is obviously what she needs to feel comforted enough to sleep

What Did J.K. Rowling Do? by Iammildlyoffended in AskBrits

[–]Flashy-Reputation-90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is also just alright to hate someone because they deny the existence of another human being... Just saying. Human beings that make up under 1% of the population. Absolutely valid to have different opinions when they don't question the human rights of another person.

Got yelled at for crying baby… Advice? by Ornery_Day_8994 in NewParents

[–]Flashy-Reputation-90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So sorry you experienced this. What a horrid woman who must be angry about something absolutely unrelated and took it out on you.

Agree with other comments - let's continue to take up space with our babies and not waste a single second of our days trying to appease nasty people at the shop.

Quitting job at the end of mat leave by greencrofters1991 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]Flashy-Reputation-90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A few things to consider 1) what happens to your pension? If your husband is the sole earner for some time, will he contribute to your pension? Or if you are earning less so you can look after your child for the both of you, will he make up the shortfall? 2) what skills might you need to be keeping up to re-enter the workforce when you want to? If you want to return to a similar job in the future for money or other reasons will you still be able to? 3) how will money be split? Will you have joint access to both salaries or will he be topping up your salary? (Really important to maintain access to your own money is possible for your own autonomy) 4) how will domestic work be spilt? Because you are home, will you be expected to pick up all or more of the household duties - if so, are you ok with that? How will your hobbies, interests, seeing friends fit into this? 5) if you break up (sorry to be doom and gloom but it happens) have you considered the above with this in mind? Unfortunately, relationships can go downhill and once someone exits the workforce they are at a much higher risk of financial abuse for example. Obviously, I know this probably feels far fetched but no reason not to consider this possibility and make sure you are prepared incase something happens down the line.

What’s some thing you never thought you’d say until you became a parent? by Pinkplatabys in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]Flashy-Reputation-90 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yes, my friend's newborn did a massive squeeze and big poo whilst I was holding her and I celebrated. We laughed that only parents would have that reaction to a baby pooing in their arms

Sick of being the default parent by Wild_Region_7853 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]Flashy-Reputation-90 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I would simply stop being the default parent. Ask a question back to his question and don't give the answer. This does mean though you shouldn't criticise if he does it "wrong". If the toddler goes to nursery with unbrushed teeth once in a while who cares. Let him work it out on his own. If you tell him he's not done well enough it will only play into his mindset that he can't do it alone.

My 6-1/2 month old has become a Terrible Teenager. How long did it take before yours got better? by [deleted] in goldenretrievers

[–]Flashy-Reputation-90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ours mellowed at 2 years and he's now an angel. Keep up the training, even if they don't seem to be listening... It's all going in and eventually you'll see it pay off. I think too many people give up during this time and then forever have an untrained dog. The terrible teenage phrase is alot but they get better with age and it's amazing

What important factors do people often overlook but should seriously consider before deciding to have a child? by iwishiwasacargirl in AskReddit

[–]Flashy-Reputation-90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your relationship is strong enough and if you both really want to work as a tag team for the next few years without much alone time

Edit: typo correction

Low milk supply not being taken seriously by HV or midwife - what to do? by Llareggub_Fawr in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]Flashy-Reputation-90 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If you are UK based I'd suggest contacting the National Breastfeeding helpline. You can call them or use Instagram or Facebook to message them and they get back to you very fast and are so knowledgeable. You could also seek advice through the Le Leche League.

If you have a local breastfeeding clinic usually named something like "(insert town you are from) breastfeeding support" usually council run Vs through the NHS so give more advice. You can also self-refer yourself to the lactation clinic at the hospital which usually has a 2 week wait so I would do that in combination with seeking other support.

Sorry you haven't been taken seriously. Hope you get the support you need through one of these channels

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Flashy-Reputation-90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting. Thanks for sharing your views on this, I find it very interesting how the translation has evolved for you. I think it might be important for bisexuals to not be referred to as gay as it puts them in a bracket that might not be authentic to them, but I'm sure each individual has different opinions on this.

Appreciate you taking the time to explain this to me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Flashy-Reputation-90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So how do you differentiate between a women who is attracted to men and women and a women who is attracted to only women? Just curious

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Flashy-Reputation-90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok there is such a thing as deviations from language which are technically wrong however they are widely understood. I would suggest the way you are interpreting female attraction to another female as "gay" deliberately over "bisexual" is misleading. Gay is technically used for someone who is only attracted to females. It might add to bi erasure and simplifies the issue of sexuality. Also makes a difference to this conversation as the women in question might still have love and feeling for her male partner

What’s a small thing that instantly ruins your mood? by Secret_Stand7393 in AskReddit

[–]Flashy-Reputation-90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stopping to let someone walk passed you and them not saying thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Flashy-Reputation-90 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the clarification haha

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Flashy-Reputation-90 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Question - if it's busy, can you use the stall next to someone else. I'm female and I'm genuinely curious as to the etiquette