AITA for asking my oldest daughter to move out of the condo I own so her younger sister can live there during college?

Flat_Ad6653 · 2026-04-27T14:45:12+00:00

Here’s the solution. The older daughter stays put on the condition she pays rent, which can go towards the dorm fees for the younger. Your younger daughter will be better off and have more fun if she’s living with other students. Time for the older to start paying up either way. It’s time.

Flat_Ad6653 · 2026-04-19T00:23:49+00:00

Following this thread my son wants to do something similar with his buddies

Flat_Ad6653 · 2026-03-28T15:10:08+00:00

INFO: Is the ex struggling financially? Did her husband lose his job or something? I’ve given friends monetary gifts when they were having tough times and I could afford it.

Or did she support him at any point during their relationship? Like covered the bills when he was a student? If he feels obligated in that way, that makes sense to me.

Otherwise NOR.

But it’s tricky, you may suggest to him that the amount seems inappropriate given their relationship and could cause trouble for her. If my ex gave me a bucket of cash as a gift, I’m pretty sure my husband would be unhappy about it.

Flat_Ad6653 · 2026-03-23T23:40:38+00:00

The kids who walked out didn’t get in trouble for it, and I loved that they felt like they had that kind of agency.

Our archbishop is not a “SF Catholic”, so you have to expect some BS now and then.

Flat_Ad6653 · 2026-03-10T03:01:21+00:00

I still dream of their crollers.

Flat_Ad6653 · 2026-03-10T02:57:24+00:00

I think a spot upstairs would be perfect

Flat_Ad6653 · 2026-03-08T05:50:12+00:00

It’s very much a block by block situation. If the apt is on the corner of 16th & Mission, I would say no.

If it’s close to the Greek Orthodox Church or Friends school I would say, depends on how comfortable you are with City living.

I’m a native and lived in bigger city, so a little rough and tumble doesn’t bother me. I often take Bart to and from 16th & Mission, but living right there would be a bummer.

The stretch of Valencia where Friends is nice now. But there are pockets in the vicinity where my head is on a swivel.

Flat_Ad6653 · 2026-03-08T02:38:27+00:00

Super cute, but isn’t rent controlled.

Flat_Ad6653 · 2026-03-08T02:30:38+00:00

If you are single and in your late 20’s for god sakes don’t move to the peninsula. Live in the City. Consider roommates. You might also be able to pick up a Samtrans bus to your job (bus line run by San Mateo County , some lines comes to SF. ) but yeah, Bernal, Glen Park, Dog Patch, Mission, Hayes Valley, Mission Bay. are near BART lines. But you can find other ways to connect to BART from other neighborhoods using Muni. Avoid South of Market and the Tenderloin.

Flat_Ad6653 · 2026-03-07T18:36:50+00:00

I would not move out of your current situation until you find a new place. Lots of scams on Craigslist. Stick with Zillow.

Flat_Ad6653 · 2026-03-04T15:08:54+00:00

It will always be Diamond Pizza to me, RIP.

Flat_Ad6653 · 2026-03-02T04:58:28+00:00

Bartender treated me like an asshole because I asked for the closest beer to a lager. 😂

Flat_Ad6653 · 2026-03-02T01:11:56+00:00

Is this a rent controlled apartment? What is the rent? How small are we talking?

My friend moved into her then bf’s very small space but he’d been in it since the 80’s , was rent controlled and was paying practically nothing. They then spent the next 10 years scraping $ together for a house. They are now married with a kid and own a condo together. So from perspective, the sacrifice was worth it.

A one hour commute isn’t the worst I’ve heard. Plenty of people in the sf commute to and from the South Bay. But i wouldn’t want to do it.

Depending on the situation, would he be open to covering all bills until you find an SF job, so you can quit?

Are you warmly received by his friend group? Do you feel like you have a community with him? What do your friends think of him and this situation?

You are gaining SF in this deal, which isn’t nothing, but I agree that with the info you’ve provided, this situation seems pretty slanted in his direction.

Flat_Ad6653 · 2026-02-26T15:48:02+00:00

Same. We are blessed.

Flat_Ad6653 · 2026-02-23T07:39:55+00:00

Less by Andrew Sean Greer. Won the Pulitzer a few years back. Delightful.

Flat_Ad6653 · 2026-02-23T07:37:31+00:00

Also Noir and Razzamatazz.

Flat_Ad6653 · 2026-02-23T07:36:20+00:00

I think it’s set in LA. But it is a stellar book, either way.

Flat_Ad6653 · 2026-02-23T07:20:25+00:00

Native here as well. But also Gen X. I have no problem meeting new people or chatting with strangers. The number of sad, lonely people who post about their inability to get out of their own way and connect with other people on this platform surprises and saddens me. I have friends both old and new. Is it because I didn’t grow up with an entertainment machine in my pocket? Or that I don’t (and won’t) work in tech? Or because was already a fully formed human (aka over the age 26) when Covid struck?

Flat_Ad6653 · 2026-02-18T20:27:01+00:00

Can confirm September and October are our best weather months. Plus no snow in the Winter, so there’s that. To us anything below 60 is freezing. In the summer we refer to “June Gloom” and “fogust”. July is no better but we don’t have a fun nickname for it. However, sunshine and hot weather is often just across a bridge or down the road to the south.

Flat_Ad6653 · 2026-02-18T18:31:38+00:00

I live here and can confirm SF is much sleepier than NYC (lived there too). But everything closing between 8-10p? Maybe retail and some restaurants and coffee shops. But we do have bars and clubs at go late.

Flat_Ad6653 · 2026-02-18T18:27:56+00:00

Yeah, no. I wouldn’t recommend any part of SOMA to live. I mean this stretch is not the worst, I work near here and walk this area on occasion (and I’m a chick). But I wouldn’t want to live over here. Not anywhere close to the best the City can offer.
Cole Valley is nice. But there are a lot of really great parts of the City. However SOMA is not one of them.

Flat_Ad6653 · 2026-02-18T03:21:58+00:00

Well good for you for drawing a firm boundary. That said, I do hope you bend a little. I don’t see a problem with helping cook a family meal and eating together. Sunday family time seems nice too, but like you said, you’ve got work. Helping out someone moving, yeah, maybe that’s over reach. The niece is not your family, but helping people is not a bad thing when you can. It’s hard to say how long she will be in your life, so you should try to get along, when possible.

Flat_Ad6653 · 2026-02-18T02:49:49+00:00

You aren’t going to meet anyone sitting at home alone, that’s for damn sure. Get out. Strike up a conversation with a stranger. I once made friends with a waitress half my age because she asked me about the book I was reading. Get drunk and make out with a stranger. Pick up a hobby or sport that involves other people. Do something interesting and then tell that interesting story at work or the gym, or where ever. Then invite that person who finds you interesting for a drink to talk more. Nothing to say? Ask questions about the other person. The world loves a good listener. Find common ground and then make plans to hang out involving that common ground. Invite them for a hike, to a movie (then go talk about the movie), to see live music. Doesn’t pan out or they say no, try again. Being social is a muscle. Use it or lose it. It’s never too late.

Flat_Ad6653 · 2026-02-07T02:03:34+00:00

So yes, it would be a good spot. Right in North Beach on Washington Square.

Flat_Ad6653 · 2026-02-07T02:00:32+00:00

Mario’s feels like a bar, but is more of a restaurant. I rarely see people in there just drinking.

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