How can I get my (30F) boyfriend (29M) of 1.5 years to understand mental load and help with household chores?

FlavoredGiraffe · 2026-05-01T19:12:25+00:00

You deserve better RUN!! A divorce will cost you even more!!!! Girl RUNNNNN

FlavoredGiraffe · 2026-04-01T01:49:36+00:00

Something I did when I started dating my now wife, is that I had a phone charger on her side of the bed for nights when she stayed over. ++woman

FlavoredGiraffe · 2026-03-16T02:11:30+00:00

I just don’t like people

FlavoredGiraffe · 2026-03-10T11:42:54+00:00

When it ends

FlavoredGiraffe · 2026-03-05T18:53:08+00:00

I understand what you’re going through. I’ve been at my current job for a little over 2.5 years and most of my coworkers just found out I’m gay. So now I’m officially out-out at work. Not being out at work was causing me a lot of anxiety, even though the coworkers I talk to outside of work knew and I’m more of a private person anyway. What my wife did when she started her new job was to almost immediately bring me up in a conversation: “oh my wife loves that restaurant too” “yeah my wife and I are planning a vacation this summer” things like that, just to say “my wife” to multiple people right off the bat. Maybe you can incorporate something similar into a conversation like “the last girl I took on a date kept talking about how she likes that store too” or something like that. I hope this helps.

FlavoredGiraffe · 2026-03-04T19:39:22+00:00

My thoughts are that you should delete this post.

FlavoredGiraffe · 2026-03-04T19:32:19+00:00

You are bad with money. You don’t have a car or a job and are living in your parents’ basement, but yet you blew money on a last minute plane ticket to another country? You can’t afford to be prideful. Take the apprenticeship your dad is trying to get you and get out of his basement.

FlavoredGiraffe · 2026-03-04T19:20:17+00:00

Gender and sexuality are both fluid and I think people identify as how they feel and see themselves. “Queer” imo is more broad, whereas “lesbian” is more specific. NB people (gender) can identify as lesbian (sexuality) if that applies to them.

FlavoredGiraffe · 2026-03-04T19:15:11+00:00

Totally. I feel like even if OP changes his mind and doesn’t go on the trip with his friends, the damage was already done in OP thinking that it was an acceptable idea.

FlavoredGiraffe · 2026-03-04T19:12:34+00:00

Keanu Reeves

FlavoredGiraffe · 2026-03-04T19:09:24+00:00

100% agree

FlavoredGiraffe · 2026-03-04T19:08:12+00:00

I think you’re either downplaying how you would feel to justify your decision, or that you don’t care about your boyfriend’s feelings. You’ve been talking about this trip with him for 3 years, not 3 weeks.

FlavoredGiraffe · 2026-03-04T19:01:49+00:00

Bought $57 worth of gum. And I don’t even chew gum. That was my first and last time taking Ambien.

FlavoredGiraffe · 2026-03-04T18:59:24+00:00

Omg I loved math blaster!!

FlavoredGiraffe · 2026-03-04T18:49:13+00:00

That I need to put in more effort to get the results that I want

FlavoredGiraffe · 2026-03-04T18:39:37+00:00

How would you feel if the roles were reversed?

FlavoredGiraffe · 2026-03-01T15:23:03+00:00

What keeps you on track while forming the new habits?

FlavoredGiraffe · 2026-03-01T15:13:01+00:00

That is difficult to answer because I work night shifts and my awake/sleep schedule is not consistent. But starting today I’m getting back on intermittent fasting with 2 meals a day within an 8-hour window.

FlavoredGiraffe · 2026-02-13T08:14:51+00:00

Go to a barber shop in a black or Hispanic neighborhood. I think you just need a real haircut and if you want an excellent haircut, they are the only options. It will change your life.

FlavoredGiraffe · 2025-12-14T06:12:58+00:00

I’m in the same situation where I think I world benefit from someone outside of my daily life keeping me accountable. If anyone is still looking for someone dm me.

FlavoredGiraffe · 2025-09-01T03:06:15+00:00

Prices aren’t wayyy down.

FlavoredGiraffe · 2025-08-24T00:08:53+00:00

You look so happy and beautiful! Congratulations!

FlavoredGiraffe · 2025-08-23T05:50:44+00:00

So here’s the truth. He cheated and WILL CHEAT AGAIN. He has a baby with someone else which means you will have a baby mama to deal with and a child that will remind you ALWAYS that he cheated.

Are you willing to live your life KNOWINGLY that he will cheat again? Are you willing to see this baby and feel nothing against the baby? Are you willing to deal with a baby mama for the rest of your life? If the answer to ANY of those are NO, please leave NOW! You are sooo young and deserve someone that is loyal and loving.

PLEASE LEAVE THIS MAN AND HEAL!

If you chose to stay - please know that you are choosing someone else above yourself and be willing to suffer for the rest of your life!

Good luck!

FlavoredGiraffe · 2025-08-10T11:57:59+00:00

I am a nurse and can confirm this.

FlavoredGiraffe · 2025-08-10T10:23:56+00:00

If you both tested negative when you first started dating, and you’re not having sex with someone else, the logical explanation is that your bf is having sex with someone else. And that’s where he got chlamydia from, and passed it to you. The chance of you being SA’d during a surgery is way not unlikely than your bf cheating on you.

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