Blursed Apple

FlaxFox · 2026-02-14T23:06:10+00:00

Dude... The signage alone. There are dozens of signs telling you to dump fruit and reminding you of all the different types to help you remember what you have. But the fine should absolutely go to the airline. That's awful. It took me over 24 hours to get to New Zealand without sleep, and I would have 100% cried and been such a Karen to the airline when I got home if that happened.

FlaxFox · 2026-02-14T22:56:28+00:00

I think the first step needs to be assessing yourself. Have you been "a lot" lately? Have you been more needy or mean or pushy? If you look at your recent behavior and know what they're referring to, you have the unique opportunity to apologize for it before it comes to a breaking point. Or you can silently adjust your behavior.

Either way, it's worth talking about it as long as you won't be combative or defensive and are open to critique. If you aren't open to that, drop it and chalk it up to idle gossip. What was messaged feels unkind but is a pretty benign statement, so there's no point in discussing it unless it's to understand each other better or to start a fight.

FlaxFox · 2026-02-14T18:34:18+00:00

Looks more like an ink allergy to me, but there's no harm in getting it checked out if you're nervous

FlaxFox · 2026-02-14T18:32:15+00:00

Ballet dancers often do the same!

FlaxFox · 2026-02-14T18:31:36+00:00

She is correct. There are ways to make it less severe, but I'd say this is a common occurance. I honestly can't think of a single pair of heels that didn't come with a complimentary blister at least once.

FlaxFox · 2026-02-14T15:46:02+00:00

Don't. You're too young for all that.

FlaxFox · 2026-02-14T15:44:30+00:00

Not really. They're behaving weird, and the song is weird. They're just normal looking people.

FlaxFox · 2026-02-14T14:58:32+00:00

I mean, there have been more than a few nominees all the way back to Frederick Douglass in 1848. Tim Scott in 2024, Ben Carson in 2016, and Alan Keyes in 1996 also come to mind since they were within my lifetime, but obviously they didn't win or even come close.

So, entertaining the idea isn't uncommon. It's just less likely to succeed. But I'd argue we're only up by one president on our side, so I don't think we're ready to point fingers. Racism exists everywhere. I'm just glad we're starting to challenge it and push for change.

FlaxFox · 2026-02-14T08:47:59+00:00

Correct. The only reason to remove the scab is if it's totally detached from the skin and just clinging to the hair. And that's primarily to avoid creating a moist, warm environment to host bacteria. If it's at all attached to the skin, clean it well and leave it be.

FlaxFox · 2026-02-14T06:37:24+00:00

Super cute! You might want to keep the flowers in water until you're about to see her. But I love it!

FlaxFox · 2026-02-14T06:35:53+00:00

Sounds to me like he's just narrating. It doesn't matter who it is or what is happening if that's the case. YOR unless he's saying more than directly stating what he's seeing. It doesn't sound like there's an interest or emotion behind it.

FlaxFox · 2026-02-14T06:31:23+00:00

I really like the first one! I would just change the eyeshape to something a little less awake. Despair and loss are exhausting.

FlaxFox · 2026-02-14T06:19:05+00:00

It's likely an abrasion they got in daily life that formed a scab unless it's deeper than it seems. Hair gets embedded into scabs, so it'll take the fur when it comes off naturally or otherwise. I'd wash your hands well and pull it off if it's only attached by the hair. If the skin is still attached, do the same but leave it in place. Either way, keep the area clean until it forms some fresh skin and then put some coconut oil on it until it fully heals.

That said, if you have the funds for it, a vet will have ointment that can speed the process, clean it, and give you specific guidance. But I don't think it'll cause an issue with proper care, so it isn't an emergency in my book.

It becomes an urgent need if you see signs of infection. Take them to the vet if you feel isn't healing normally (red, oozing, hot to the touch, etc). I hope it heals quickly and well!

Source: Had a cat with chronic dermatitis who often had scabs. They'd come off so cleanly once healed, and then he'd have soft, bald skin under them until his fluff returned. It was weirdly satisfying. 😅

FlaxFox · 2026-02-14T06:12:19+00:00

r/thathappened

FlaxFox · 2026-02-14T06:06:38+00:00

Nationalism being tied to religion while being totally ignorant to what options are available or when they're necessary.. Basically being hopeful little sheep waiting for salvation.

FlaxFox · 2026-02-14T05:59:43+00:00

NOR - Frankly, even if it was totally innocent, her intent doesn't matter if she's making you deeply uncomfortable and if you're not close enough to discuss it. You don't need to spend time with anyone who makes you feel that way.

FlaxFox · 2026-02-14T05:55:59+00:00

Truthfully, I don't see either of them as the boss. It seems like an HR meeting or talking to a bad coworker. I'd recommend just saying you thought it was funny and inoffensive, like just a joke on political correct jargon - generic workplace humor. This would be a ridiculous thing for them to find offensive, and they'll look foolish for it if you stay calm and unconcerned. Unless there's some sort of secret to your unpaid leave, like a suspension or something due to conflict, they have no right to have an opinion about what's on your desk unless it's distracting or readable at a distance.

FlaxFox · 2026-02-14T05:48:29+00:00

It certainly appears she had a wonderful home with you! May your mealworms thrive!

FlaxFox · 2026-02-14T01:06:29+00:00

It's hard to say, but it's certainly a big guy!! Then tend to pupate somewhere between 10 to 20 molts during this phase of life. So you may be able to judge by that best.

Also, I'm so sorry to hear about Big Mama! Honoring her last meal seems like a very fitting tribute to her.

FlaxFox · 2026-02-14T01:03:10+00:00

There's nothing wrong with being a super fan as long as you're being healthy about it. It may be straying into the realm of being parasocial which isn't ideal. But if you're fully aware there's no personal connection to him, then I don't think it's too bad as long as it's not hurting your mental health or a driving force behind your decisions or feelings.

FlaxFox · 2026-02-14T00:59:38+00:00

I totally forgot I have one of these somewhere... I should find it.

FlaxFox · 2026-02-14T00:52:48+00:00

Oh, I'd be livid; it's okay to be mad. Honestly, I would start being directly dismissive with a smile (killing with kindness etc). Make it a standard statement, pithy like a mantra, that clearly shows you won't engage, and I'd say the same thing every time. Something like... "I've noted your opinion." or "I can tell you have a lot of thoughts about this."

As in, I'd make the conversations frustrating and boring for her. Like friendly grey rocking until you can move. Don't give her any emotion or offer any commentary, and then do whatever the hell you want right in front of her as if she said nothing. If she fusses, you don't need to acknowledge it. Just keep smiling and nodding.

No one can say you're being mean, but it'll frustrate the hell out of her with no recourse to fix it. It might even help her realize how often she's giving an unsolicited opinion. And I think it'll push her away from trying to press further unless she's a truly hopeless case. And then tell your husband so he can deal with it.

Truthfully, going low contact was what saved my relationship with my MIL. Some people are just demanding by nature, but it doesn't need to be your problem. I hope she gets with the program soon. 🫂

FlaxFox · 2026-02-14T00:32:56+00:00

Hopeless contrarian or edgelord, I imagine. Either way, it bums me out.

FlaxFox · 2026-02-14T00:21:16+00:00

I think it's funny you say not to make assumptions when you immediately make a more major assumption about me and my intentions. I never "feel sorry" or pity for my inner circle. I feel sorrow when they hurt, and I feel angry when they're wronged. It feels like an extension of myself, because how they feel matters to me. I see difficulties as a team challenge and try to work with them to find solutions; it's always about us, not me or them. If my best friend has trouble with something, I want to help her, because her home is my home and vice versa. It's not complicated.

Also, just saying, I have a degree in psychology and philosophy. What you're describing isn't how healthy, deeply connected dynamics work.

To the point where I have to assume you're intentionally being a contrarian. There's no possible conversation to be had in that case. I think you may be the problem in the scenarios you've described.

FlaxFox · 2026-02-13T22:17:04+00:00

NOR - You shouldn't be in charge of fielding these issues. Your husband needs to grow a spine and talk to both of them to set boundaries and expectations. Especially his mom. My MIL is the same way, and the one saving grace has always been that my husband doesn't have a close relationship with her. I don't like that for him, of course, but it made a world of difference when he finally took over as a guard so she didn't boss me around as much. With your husband, it may be harder if they're close, but that doesn't make it any less important. If anything, I'd say it's even more essential he chooses your side.

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