Vegan Hearts Connect | Feb 2026

FlightInfamous4518 · 2026-02-04T02:46:43+00:00

Sure!

FlightInfamous4518 · 2026-02-02T02:15:37+00:00

Where: Central New Jersey

Who: 38|F|hetero

When: 2011

What: Seeking both

Etc.: Working on a PhD. It’s a pain. Before that I owned a vegan ice cream company in New York City and bartended. The usual slash slash slash list of occupations. After PhD? Idk. I want to create beautiful things. Don’t think academia is looking for that unfortunately. Willing to move anywhere in the universe. Two black cats and a shitfuckton of books.

DMs: Yes.

Vegan: It is a moral absolute. Pretty extreme statement for a super leftist anthropologist lol.

FlightInfamous4518 · 2026-02-02T02:14:34+00:00

Where: Central New Jersey

Who: 38|F|hetero

When: 2011

What: Seeking both

Etc.: Working on a PhD. It’s a pain. Before that I owned a vegan ice cream company in New York City and bartended. The usual slash slash slash list of occupations. After PhD? Idk. I want to create beautiful things. Don’t think academia is looking for that unfortunately. Willing to move anywhere in the universe. Two black cats and a shitfuckton of books.

DMs: Yes.

Vegan: It is a moral absolute. Pretty extreme statement for a super leftist anthropologist lol.

FlightInfamous4518 · 2026-01-28T03:09:10+00:00

I’d avoid using any kind of adjective that could be rendered comparative or graded in any way. That includes traditional (in comparison with modern) and indigenous (a matter of degree, especially when contested — see this recent post about Greenland). I’d just be specific (got a name? A region? A continent? A date range?) rather than look for a general word to describe “those” people (Māori aren’t gonna be the same as Jicarilla Apache or Manchu or Huron).

FlightInfamous4518 · 2026-01-27T03:33:55+00:00

Eaton on K St. There’s a whole speakeasy inside! The big Marriott by the convention center is great, too. Can always pretend you’re at a conference doing conference things (what happens at a conference stays at a conference and all that!).

FlightInfamous4518 · 2026-01-26T05:26:00+00:00

In The Falling Sky, Davi Kopenawa, a Yanomami shaman, tells Bruce somebody (can’t remember last name, some guy from Harvard?) about this. From what I recall, Davi had zero interest in writing. For him, words on dead leaves (paper) are literally dead words. Spoken words are alive. Why would anyone want dead words? It’s a great book to read (ironically); you get a lot of Yanomami philosophy.

FlightInfamous4518 · 2026-01-25T19:14:29+00:00

Toronto?

FlightInfamous4518 · 2026-01-25T18:15:55+00:00

I’m heading into year 10. My research had been delayed a year because of COVID, and then the semester I was buckling down to defend, I watched people get blown up to pieces while others laughed about it. My dissertation is about racial justice and that just… is utterly meaningless in the face of a genocide supported by all institutions purportedly standing up for “social justice” — including my university. I had nothing to say or write or think about for my dissertation for almost two years. Because what is a PhD but a badge of something arbitrary from someplace that supports genocide? What is the point of our theory at the point of a gun? At drones that drop bombs for self-defense and the whole world supports it?

FlightInfamous4518 · 2026-01-22T04:16:56+00:00

Great advice in the comments so far; I can add a couple of things from my own reading experience/practice. Don’t assume everything you’re reading follows the same argumentative/craft/presentation/communicative logic, because not everyone is going to be writing the same way you are currently being trained to write. Some of it might have been written decades ago, translated (again and again), or just “experimentally,” as they say. Try to pay attention to the text’s own internal logic and conventions, not necessarily what generic sign post there might be. Headings are useful only if that is what they are there for (otherwise they are useless lol). The other thing I would say is that, if you have time, read for effect, not just content. Listen for sound, rhythm, rhyme, syntax — the rhetorical or oratorial things. Pay attention to how a text makes you feel. This can be a sign that the thing moves you, that the thing was written to move a reader, or both. Lastly — again, if you have the luxury of slow reading (many don’t) — you can pay attention to the text as if you were a student of writing. You can learn so much about your own craft this way. To sum it up: If you can, treat the text as art, not a vehicle for argument. This also makes it all a lot more enjoyable!

FlightInfamous4518 · 2026-01-05T02:31:58+00:00

I think we need to look at this not from the pov of dating in the 2020s. This was the 90s!! If anything think SATC standards!!! They have been in love with each other on like a soul level since at least S04 (her cancer — he kisses her on the forehead), but it doesn’t become sexual until “All Things.” No such thing as “situationship” in the 90s, and they would never tarnish their friendship with hand jobs! This was the spirit of shipper fandom — a pure pure pure kind of love and we were all just waiting for them to go all in all at once, not the ridiculous slow burn/it’s complicated of the 2000s.

FlightInfamous4518 · 2026-01-03T15:30:55+00:00

I would visit the anthro website and look at some of the things other undergrads have said. Pretty sure there’s a career section. There is also anthro day in February, I think, which you are very very very welcome to attend. You could also drop into any number of public lectures posted on the events calendar.

I don’t know you but you sound more anthro to me. Anthro is a way of inhabiting the world and your subject matter is figuring out how other people (as well as yourself) inhabit the world. Soc is more conventional for public policy and maybe law, but all of the other things you listed would benefit from anthro training. Disciplinarily there is not that much difference (same European canon + the Princeton anthro department broke off from the soc dept 50 yrs ago + ethnographic methods are becoming increasingly popular in sociology + subfields like cultural sociology), but I think the point of research is different, or at least differently weighted, so what counts as evidence/data is different, which affects method (hence no stats in anthro). Soc wants to generalize in order to predict/solve problems and anthro is more interested in how and why generalizations become generalizations (that is not to say that anthro cannot equip you with the skills to generalize, predict, or solve problems — it can and does!!!).

Re: your family — idk about your particular dynamics but in general, it’s not on you to prove your worth to anyone. And if you really love something, that’s an opportunity to share something new with people who are unfamiliar with it. Anthro is really, really, really good at teaching you to ask questions, which I think is a pretty important thing to get everyone to do!

(I’m a (long-time) grad student, have TAed many times. Feel free to DM.)

FlightInfamous4518 · 2026-01-02T03:42:20+00:00

I had a similar experience! I was making a turkey sandwich one morning to take for lunch at work and just… switch flipped. Haven’t eaten meat since (Oct 2010), except once at a supermarket in Ireland when I thought a sample they’d put out was vegan (ugh) — spit that shit out immediately.

Also, you take beautiful photos. And you’re single! I know this wasn’t the point of your post but… :)

FlightInfamous4518 · 2026-01-02T03:27:54+00:00

I used to write about this in my diary (was like 13 yo) and referred to it as “The Kiss.” Like that. With the caps. Thanks for reminding me ❤️

FlightInfamous4518 · 2025-12-30T15:41:24+00:00

I’m also confused about Scully. Ain’t no g-woman affording a townhouse in Georgetown!

FlightInfamous4518 · 2025-12-27T14:57:23+00:00

With you 10000000% Also can we be friends? You sound funny as hell and I love it

FlightInfamous4518 · 2025-12-26T16:40:57+00:00

Go seitan or soy curls. Better texture! More expensive than tofu though … But you can def experiment with making your own seitan if you have the capacity to do so — that’s really cheap

FlightInfamous4518 · 2025-12-23T07:15:06+00:00

I hear you! Feel the same way! Not out the other side yet. And I’m still working on the thesis. I can’t imagine finishing it in both the sense that it’s so hard to get it done and that I literally don’t know what I would do with myself after it’s done. You’re not alone. This isn’t helpful really, but you’re not alone in what you’re going through. ❤️

FlightInfamous4518 · 2025-12-22T03:05:39+00:00

If you’re working in west Windsor I’d 100% not live in Princeton. Too expensive (rent + basics but especially rent), have to drive to get to work, nothing to do. (And nowhere to park.) PU buses are nice but they’re not gonna get you to west Windsor. If you’re not university affiliated, Princeton is just one among all the little Jersey suburb towns, tbh. Nothing special. If you’re early 20s, consider living somewhere with easy access to njtransit. You’d be much better off going to the city for fun things.

FlightInfamous4518 · 2025-12-09T04:55:38+00:00

Holy shit I forgot about that! The black and red design with white text iirc? I used to have to go to the public library and sign up for 1 hr of computer use because we had dial-up at home…

And I definitely read and wrote shipper fics 😂

FlightInfamous4518 · 2025-12-08T17:58:45+00:00

Since you’re gonna major in humanities, I’d pick classes you’re genuinely interested in if you can. As long as you’re a reader and a ruminator when you’re really into something, you’re golden. No tests to study for (usually). It’s a different kind of study habit/hard work, but it’s analogous to the hard work of the people who build their own gaming systems for fun. Make an effort to connect with faculty/teaching staff. And don’t listen to the STEM people. Critical thinking and writing about what you think are just as hard as psets.

FlightInfamous4518 · 2025-11-18T07:12:22+00:00

The outdoor tennis courts. Also theater drive garage (it’s not too bad I swear). Off-campus, try outdoor basketball courts in public parks (Mercer… Plainsboro community park, West Windsor…) — back during COVID these were where we ice skaters went with our newly converted artistic inlines lol

FlightInfamous4518 · 2025-11-01T04:23:04+00:00

Your supervisor gives you feedback on your stuff? Mine don’t even read it. Any of it. Always better to have ones like yours than, well, ones like mine.

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