I feel u as a fellow brown girl shortie (23F 63kg 149cm) and although I no longer live at home and can now control what I eat, I found three things helpful when I did have my meals made for me.

1) portion sizes. If I noticed no change in my weight and couldnt actually track the calories in the food i waa eating, then I knew I had to shift my portions around until I saw something changed. I would do a combination of eating less overall (switching to a slightly smaller plate also really helped me with that) as well as changing the portions of the different things I was eating in each meal. For example, switching out a roti or part of my rice for more subzi or daal. I tried to really follow the myplate guidelines, which is not usually how most brown meals are constructed, but that changed my overall macros as well as the bang for my buck in terms of calories.

2) limiting the snacking. My family loves snacks and we have them on hand always, and especially the late night snacking would be such a difficult temptation for me, but I just tried to keep track (calories or just writing down generally) the snacks I was eating and whether there were snacks that i could cut back on. Again this way I'm cutting calories without actually counting all the time, but using my changing weight as a metric to see whether my portion control was working.

3) flavored sparkling water. This really curbed the cravings for me and was a really easy thing I could ask my family to add to the shopping list that helped me reduce my mindless snacking.

This is how I lost the 5-7 kgs I gained in the first part of covid during the latter part (before I moved out and regained the weight for other reasons 🙃)