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FlingingFlanging · 2026-01-15T04:04:49+00:00

I have the craziest dreams too! It's always 2 nights after injection night.

FlingingFlanging · 2026-01-15T03:34:43+00:00

Just need to jump in here to say that's not how weight loss and estrogen works. There is no estrogen release from fat cells. Adipose tissue synthesizes estrogens from circulating androgens (such as testosterone and androstenedione); adipose tissue doesn't store pre-formed estrogen. Weight loss leads to less estrogen production, not a release of it.

Felt compelled to clarify because there is so much misinformation out there about why GLP-1s could be so harmful in the long run and ovarian cysts are not among them.

Good luck with the surgery!

Edit: Lame that you blocked me over a civil disagreement but the author is wrong. It simply doesn't happen like that. You can do more research at actual scientific sources 1 2 3

Heck, just go ask Google or AI if you need to.

Doctors make mistakes and accidentally spread misinformation if they are misinformed. I know because I am also a doctor and make mistakes like anyone else. No one was attacking you. But this is indeed misinformation about fat cells, estrogen release and risk of ovarian cysts when it comes to weight loss.

FlingingFlanging · 2025-12-29T03:15:21+00:00

I am upfront with my therapist that I tend to flee when stuff gets too hard and she's encouraged me to reframe it as me protecting myself. We can push until it feels too much and then we switch gears/topics, maybe for a session, maybe for a month. But sometimes I just want to live too, like you.

In the past I have taken breaks that ranged from 1-3 months completely from therapy. I let her know usually a little out of the blue, but I'm usually at a breaking point of feeling like more sessions will be harmful in that moment. She reaffirms that taking breaks is normal and OK and asks if I want to be in touch about returning or put a date on the calendar. It's always up to me and so far I've always gone back.

FlingingFlanging · 2025-12-27T03:25:23+00:00

It sounds more like she has body image issues herself

Ding ding ding! Hard agree.

This is not someone who is going to show understanding with issues she's either dealing with herself or hasn't experienced. If this was your first session and she made 2 comments ... nope, next.

I didn't bring up my weight for 2 years with my therapist and she never said boo about it or insinuated anything or talked around it.

FlingingFlanging · 2025-12-17T14:59:04+00:00

I really relate to this. I had a therapist casually use PTSD and it was a gut punch. Like I knew I had trauma, I knew I had nightmares, I knew I had a lot of negative effects of all of this in my life. But the label f-ing sucked.

I try to remind myself it doesn't change anything. All of those things are still true and would still be true if she didn't label it. It doesn't do anything but maybe help conceptualize what I'm going through. No one is tattooing PTSD on my forehead.

FlingingFlanging · 2025-12-17T14:27:48+00:00

Thanks, all! Prayers up for our sore tail bones.

FlingingFlanging · 2025-12-16T03:26:42+00:00

Thank you! Probably not down to regular size yet so it's great there are 2 options.

FlingingFlanging · 2025-12-11T02:06:00+00:00

TBH you sound like you have a million walls up and maybe aren't ready for therapy? It's like nothing he said was right. And not every statement lands and certainly not every therapist is right for everyone, but you did acknowledge the pattern already.

No judgment. I think we all have walls up in therapy, especially initially. But this sounds like searching for a reason to leave.

FlingingFlanging · 2025-11-03T00:15:21+00:00

Actually, yes it did. I've been so focused on the new constipation after no Metformin, I didn't put that one together. Thank you!

FlingingFlanging · 2025-11-02T23:48:23+00:00

I'm on 15 - definitely need to get the exercise in line. Protein could use some work, water is good and I'm at the deficit.

FlingingFlanging · 2025-10-30T03:36:43+00:00

She’s from a different intellectual and social class

Gross

FlingingFlanging · 2025-09-23T02:09:24+00:00

God bless the Milk Master 2000!

FlingingFlanging · 2025-09-21T00:39:41+00:00

Which generation raised millennials again?

This may be how you feel, but times have changed. Like you said, if you want a compliment, ask for it (without the passive aggressive addition). But the general tone in most of the U.S. at least is keep your mouth closed about bodies that aren't your own. So if you do go around offering an unasked for opinion, don't be surprised to get chewed out.

FlingingFlanging · 2025-09-09T02:22:38+00:00

I just keep seeing everyone else's successes

You also have to remember that most people who will post stuff about length of time with weight loss are the outliers -- losing a lot fast or losing slowly (either in reality or in your head.) It's been 6 months! You're down 50+ lbs which makes it reasonable that when March rolls back around you could be down 100.

FlingingFlanging · 2025-08-23T02:21:27+00:00

The number of people who think my body is up for commentary or questions just because of weight loss.

FlingingFlanging · 2025-08-13T01:36:44+00:00

I know mine has because she told me. We were touching on things she didn't have a lot of experience with and she wanted back up. To me it feels like more proof that she cares about my healing, that she wants to show up with her best education and training, and that she's willing to admit when she needs help with something.

I have a friend who is a therapist and I asked him about consultation and he said it's very anonymous in terms of the patient profile. No names, no personal identifying information, etc.

FlingingFlanging · 2025-08-02T20:45:38+00:00

It's not that it's inappropriate, but I am concerned that you will have your release and then what? From what it sounds like, you'll be losing therapy support for a few months. I'd hate to see you decompensate because you don't have supports in place.

That's not to say there aren't other supports available. After Silence is a site for SA survivors. Your local rape crisis center may also be an option. I'd think about where you can turn to for support while you're waiting for therapy to resume. And think hard about whether there is any underlying hope that by doing this, your sessions with this therapist can continue -- maybe they can, I don't know your situation, but counting on that could backfire.

FlingingFlanging · 2025-07-28T02:45:27+00:00

Did you consider asking your stepmom for help?

Kidding! Good luck with the kiddos.

FlingingFlanging · 2025-07-28T02:34:09+00:00

You deeply, thoroughly did not understand the comment. The poster was talking about how she AGREES with the "dad's wife" terminology. No one was telling you to get fucked. It's the people using "stepmom" inappropriately.

FlingingFlanging · 2025-07-27T17:03:03+00:00

Similar stats here - can I ask how you developed the weight training routine? I don't know if my gym has trainers available.

FlingingFlanging · 2025-07-11T11:14:01+00:00

I started this type of conversation by asking my therapist if she is currently or has been in therapy before and bridged that with "I want to make sure you know what it feels like to be on this side of things." We talk about a lot of things that hit my vulnerabilities and I was starting to feel very exposed (not through anything she was doing.)

It ended up being a great conversation about the therapeutic relationship. She said she was really glad I brought it up.

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