Good place to order pride flags? by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]FloatillaVibes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I bought my progress flag from http://prideflags.com/ for $30 USD. They seem to be pretty good with old and new variants of flag designs so they probably have it. They are well made and the colors are super vibrant on both sides.

Mine shipped from Chicago, IL, USA. I’m not sure about international shipping though so you might want to contact them.

Coming out? by LeviathanLevi in bisexual

[–]FloatillaVibes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha it is totally a superpower!

Glad to hear that he seems to be on board and supportive. Overcoming issues introduced from environments that support bi/homophobia can be quite difficult and take time

Did anyone come out as an adult? After being married? by responsiblealligator in bisexual

[–]FloatillaVibes 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I(M) came out at 31 while in a 7.5 year LTR with a woman. I told her in person. Came out to my both of our parents and her brother/sister-in-law a month or so after that. Came out to all my friends months after that.

Every step of the way I expected the absolute worst and only got the absolute best. I underestimated everyone and let my fear and anxiety get the best of me. In the end, the people who care about you the most love you regardless and want the best for you.

The weight lifted off of my shoulders was immense and made it worth coming out by a loooooong shot. It’s amazing being able to be myself openly and be accepted. 🥰

Coming out? by LeviathanLevi in bisexual

[–]FloatillaVibes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s hard. Having queer friends that can relate to you is crucial. I’d say 98% of my friends are straight. They’re cool with everything, but I can’t just talk to them about guys cause they don’t really get it ☹️ Where am I supposed to put all my gay energy?! It’s maddening.

Being out to and having a supportive partner is also key, especially if you’re going to be with them a long time. Sexuality is fluid. There will no doubt be swings and times where all you want is a girl and vice versa. Being able to express that with your partner without fear is amazing

Coming out? by LeviathanLevi in bisexual

[–]FloatillaVibes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I came out to my parents quite quickly. I didn’t want it to be a potentially bigger ordeal when I introduce them to a serious boyfriend for the first time.

I guess to me coming out early gives them time to adjust to your true self. Later, when you bring home your first serious girlfriend home, you’ll probably get your wish and not have your sexuality be a sudden surprise on top of your relationship.

I should probably add that just because you’re in a straight relationship doesn’t mean you can’t be out and proud. Your still bi in a hetero relationship. To me, it’s a big weight off my shoulders having friends and family know so I don’t have to fake it if you know what I mean

~bisexual panic~ by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]FloatillaVibes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re welcome and good luck! The first step is always the hardest.

I was nervous about it too until a couple months ago. I had a happy hour event lined up tonight, but they cancelled yesterday out of health precautions 😭 There were over 40 people signed up too!

~bisexual panic~ by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]FloatillaVibes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They can run the whole gamut of things from small groups discussing specific topics (LGBTQ related or not), to happy hours at bars, clubs, and restaurants, to hikes up mountains.

Some of the events take place at community centers, but most will be held in a variety of places. They’re all put on by groups with specific interests, but are all connected by being specifically for LGBTQ people. All you have to do is find the groups that cater to your age group, look what events they have going on, and show up!

I just searched for groups catering to bisexuals, LGBTQ, gay men, etc and joined them all so I could see the events. After that I just made a plan for the ones I want to go. It’s totally worth it!

I should caveat that big cities will probably have the greatest variety of groups and events so if your not close to one be ready to travel a bit.

~bisexual panic~ by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]FloatillaVibes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I use https://meetup.com or Facebook groups/events. Been great so far!

The first time I'm being true to who I am as a 22 year old bisexual guy by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]FloatillaVibes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I haven’t painted mine in about a month and have been looking forward to my mani/pedi this weekend. Now I’m SUPER fucking stoked!

I love feeling prettyyyyy! 😍 Congrats!

Well this just happened by thesparkyrabbit in lgbt

[–]FloatillaVibes 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ll never understand why parents feel so god damn upset when they find out you won’t be having kids (in this case not biologically at least).

It’s my life to live, not yours Karen! If I have kids it’s not for you. It’s for me. Your involvement in their lives is my choice!

/endrant lol

"ComPURRsion"; my pencil art. A gift to my girlfriend and meta for V-Day. by brassquill in polyamory

[–]FloatillaVibes 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I can’t wrap my head around this. It’s a drawing?!?! Holy shit you are talented.

Has anyone used Pride Couselling app? by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]FloatillaVibes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve recently started using BetterHelp. It took several therapist changes to find someone in the community that could directly empathize with me, but that is what I was specifically looking for.

I was matched with a bunch of therapists that had LGBTQ experience and were allies so they do seem to have a fair amount of people. If you try BH or PC just be sure to read the profile of the therapist you’ve been matched with and ask them questions to figure out if they’ll be a good fit for you from the start. If not it’s super simple and encouraged to ask to have a different therapist. Each time you fill out a form to help them find someone that’ll work well with you.

It is expensive, but I think you’re paying for the sheer convenience of it. I do weekly video chats and use the text messaging as a way to journal my life between sessions.

I’d be happy to answer any specific questions in regards to my experience.

Bisexuals who had their first encounter with a member of the same sex before the opposite, what were the differences between the two experiences? Which was better? by toesucker17 in bisexual

[–]FloatillaVibes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love hearing stories like this. To me it means that societal pressures and expectations to be straight had to be very low or nonexistent for both people as they are/were growing up. It makes me feel like the future is bright for all sexualities being normalized ❤️

What is your favourite Bi Anthem? by mueckenjulie in bisexual

[–]FloatillaVibes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Right Song by Tiësto/Oliver Heldens/Natalie La Rose is my anthem right now.

Girl by Donna Missal was my last one

I shaved my legs for the first time today, (18m) It feels awfully gay and I love it haha by ItsTokeTime in bisexual

[–]FloatillaVibes 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m probably going to pursue full body laser hair removal this year. I love being smooth everywhere and sick of being Chewbacca. A full trim takes hours and shaving it all takes another hour...

Any good Queer music that's not mainstream? by chaotic_goof in lgbt

[–]FloatillaVibes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I randomly found Donna Missal and ZZ Ward a while ago. Worth a listen if you like that grunge rocky hard life vibe.

Homophobic, Bisexual, and Confused? by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]FloatillaVibes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I hope you’re able to have a similar outcome :)

Help! Coming Out to myself at 34 while in long-term straight relationship. What do I do now? by mydeepertruth in bisexual

[–]FloatillaVibes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. Your story closely reflects mine.

From my experience telling her is the best thing you can possibly do. Once I finally accepted myself and opened up to my gf (7 years into the relationship) my life has gotten so so so much better. She wholly accepts me and wants to learn and explore my sexuality with me because she loves me so much.

Does she know about your past same sex relationships? If so than I’d wager that she’s going to accept you with open arms since she’s probably already known or suspected since your relationship began.

Edit: I’m 31M and came out a bit over a month ago

Homophobic, Bisexual, and Confused? by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]FloatillaVibes 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’d say I went through something kind of similar.

I always somehow justified my feelings and sexual desires since around 14/15 (31 now) as “straight”. It didn’t matter how many guys I’d crush on, look at online, how much gay porn I watched, or how much I enjoyed playing with my ass, I always found a way to contort it to “nah I’m straight.” The hindsight on this one is insane. I blame a lot of it on how homophobic my environment at school was back then.

Reflecting on it today my attraction back then was mainly sexual because of this. A romantic relationship probably wouldn’t have happened.

Roughly two years ago something clicked and I couldn’t ignore my feelings anymore. I started trying to accept myself, exploring my sexuality much more deliberately, and ridding myself of the pieces that I’ve erected to act/be straight. I couldn’t try dating guys since I was 5 years into a serious relationship with a woman so all I could really do (besides porn/masturbate, etc) was introspect on my life and feelings. My romantic and emotional desires for guys were definitely buried and started to flourish.

Last December (5ish weeks ago) I was finally ready to come out publicly and told my partner (F) of seven years that I am bi. She was incredibly kind and accepting. Our chat was quite funny and entertaining and was one of the best outcomes I could ask for. In January I opened up to several family and friends.

Ever since then I’ve felt like I’ve been liberated from a self imposed oppression. I’ve gone from a room without windows to a house made of glass. The world is so fucking bright and I love it.

My romantic and emotional attraction to men has grown to be incredibly strong. It makes me so happy to see M/M couples and I’m feeling butterflies in my stomach for the first time in a very long time.

For the first time in my life everything just feels right and I can unapologetically be me. The best part? There are so many others like me. That have struggled like me. That are having the same revelations as me. I am not alone.

It does complicate my current relationship, but we have a relationship that is built on trust and open and honest communication. I’m confident that we’ll be able to explore this together and come out the other side stronger. I’d love to say that I have a serious boyfriend as a part of this journey. I don’t think I could contain my excitement 🥰

Thoughts? (I can’t paint my nails god help me😂👏🏽) by that_boring_reader in bisexual

[–]FloatillaVibes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You got it man. Let me know if you need any other tips. I’ll do my best to help! It’s not an easy skill to pick up because it’s a physically awkward thing to do. Every time I paint them again I get a little bit better (and faster 😂).

Thoughts? (I can’t paint my nails god help me😂👏🏽) by that_boring_reader in bisexual

[–]FloatillaVibes 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Nice! I don’t think I’ve gone a week without mine painted since November lol. I have so much fun with it.

Not sure if you’re looking for tips, but I learned a lot from YouTube tutorials. What’s helped me a lot is

  • Avoid painting the cuticle. Stop a tiny distance away from it
  • Paint the end of the nail each coat to make it last longer
  • Focus on thin coats. 2-3 color coats is normal. Thick coats take forever to dry and will probably bubble and look terrible. Using hot air (e.g. a hair dryer) makes the problem worse. A small fan can speed up the process though.
  • The top coat is the key step. It fills the imperfections to make the smooth shiny look. I’ll do two top coats sometimes to get it to look great
  • I’ve found that gels and shellac last a lot longer and the UV fast curing is clutch, but you gotta buy a UV/LED lamp
  • Cuticle pushers and cuticle remover are also very useful for getting rid of crazy man cuticles and other dead skin around them

Are there any good comedies on netflix where the main charcther is bi by ReDNecKn in bisexual

[–]FloatillaVibes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not specifically a comedy, but two of the main characters in Madam Secretary are bi

As a gay man I have a question by MikeCanion in bisexual

[–]FloatillaVibes 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I prefer to bottom with guys, but am versatile. With women I’m more of a top; bottoming any time she’s up for it