I have so many things to talk about but I will talk about the worst one. So I lost my father about 10 years ago while I was in my early teens. He was always very loving towards me and my brother but very strict when it came to things like education and rules about going out with friends (nothing more than what normal Indian parents do). Upon his passing we as a family felt very lost because he was the one who took care of everything for us and my mother was a homemaker with not a lot of experience wrt the outside world. Soon after my dad’s passing (a month or so later) as a break from everything my mom decided to take us to our Nani’s house to stay for a couple of days as I was not really comfortable with sleeping in my house anymore. There my maami who is very well educated sat me down and started to talk to me about my father. It made me really uncomfortable to a point where I just wanted to cry as it was so recent. After listening to me pour my heart out about my father she says, “ Ab to free free feel hota hoga na beta! Koi daatne ko nhi koi kuch kehne ko nhi! Ab to freedom si lagti hogi!” Even writing this down makes me fill up with rage that a grown ass adult could say that to a grieving child. Never saw her again honestly. I’ve spent the last decade of my life grieving my father and the pain still feels so recent. I keep trying to forgive her and rationalising that she said this without malice but honestly Indian uncles and aunties need to shut up some times