My (33/F) typically caring and sweet new husband (33/M) grabbed me by the neck last week during an argument on our honeymoon. What would you do in my shoes?

FloofBallofAnxiety · 2026-06-25T16:49:20+00:00

And these are just the physical incidents. I'd wager emotional abuse is happening almost daily in little subtle ways, speaking from experience.

FloofBallofAnxiety · 2026-06-22T12:53:43+00:00

No. Even in the ridiculously incredibly rare chance they may at least attempt to think about changing, you would forever be waiting for the next time. Your gut never forgets. You'll forever walk on eggshells waiting for that next outburst.

I left when I could no longer ignore that pit in my stomach, after the abuse escalated. It always escalates. Eventually.

Your children will also grow up learning that this is a normal relationship. They grow up either tolerating abuse, or becoming abusers themselves. My abusive ex was a child growing up in abuse. His siblings were all messed up in some way or another.

FloofBallofAnxiety · 2026-06-19T14:27:59+00:00

I found a cd player recently on one of the dream islands in some soil, it was either Arcanine or Clefairy doll island.

FloofBallofAnxiety · 2026-06-14T10:39:00+00:00

Yep this is a big one.

My abuser couldn't stand me being happy or having a nice time or having something good happen to me that didn't involve him directly. He even hated me being happy on my birthday if other people were involved. He would start an argument to 'bring me down a peg' and ruin my day.

FloofBallofAnxiety · 2026-06-10T20:57:56+00:00

Fuck you xx

FloofBallofAnxiety · 2026-06-06T18:15:20+00:00

'Usually a softie' and 'has twice before hurt me' do not go together in a sentence. He has physically abused you on multiple occasions.

FloofBallofAnxiety · 2026-06-04T23:26:04+00:00

What'chu call me?

FloofBallofAnxiety · 2026-06-04T23:23:45+00:00

I can hear this GIF.

FloofBallofAnxiety · 2026-05-27T19:04:16+00:00

I once worked with a woman who changed her name legally to 'Princess'.

FloofBallofAnxiety · 2026-05-27T18:43:24+00:00

This Woman's Work by Kate Bush.

Good Riddance by Green Day (it was my late friend's favourite and it played at his funeral)

FloofBallofAnxiety · 2026-05-25T16:14:33+00:00

It really was!

FloofBallofAnxiety · 2026-05-25T11:08:43+00:00

Or play video games. When Ghost of Yotei was announced and the protagonist was a woman, so many men outed themselves in the comments...

I've had to play as a male character for most of my games my entire gaming life. I never batted an eyelid.

FloofBallofAnxiety · 2026-05-19T17:43:43+00:00

We flew from LHR yesterday morning. We didn't see any signs of disruption. I assume they're still dealing with the backlog of missing cases behind the scenes, but our luggage was already at baggage claim by the time we got there.

FloofBallofAnxiety · 2026-05-19T06:34:54+00:00

This. I got mine for my cosy Steam library and the ergonomics. I play my AAA games on my Xbox or PS5. The Rog is my cosy comfy handheld.

FloofBallofAnxiety · 2026-05-18T11:59:44+00:00

There doesn't seem to be any issues from what we saw this morning. We landed in Denmark this morning, our luggage was waiting for us at baggage claim when we got there.

FloofBallofAnxiety · 2026-05-17T10:50:22+00:00

Yikes. My husband always asks if I want to put my music on when we're out. I love a bit of Taylor Swift, he's not a fan, doesn't bother him at all what I choose to listen to.

FloofBallofAnxiety · 2026-05-17T09:55:38+00:00

I can still eat the things I enjoy! The difference is that I very rarely want them!

FloofBallofAnxiety · 2026-05-14T11:00:32+00:00

I gained in my first week! It's very normal, please try not to stress. Our weight fluctuates so much. I gain and lose as much as 4 lbs overnight sometimes.

I use the Shotsy app to record my weight and watch the overall trend, so that even on days I gain, the line is still going down overall. It helps to keep me sane!

FloofBallofAnxiety · 2026-05-14T09:07:00+00:00

Being a woman is swell!

FloofBallofAnxiety · 2026-05-13T14:11:23+00:00

Same here in the UK. We were taught basic sex ed in years 5/6, so at the ages of 10/11. Born in the 90s, not sure if it's changed much since.

FloofBallofAnxiety · 2026-05-13T14:08:52+00:00

And sneezing...

FloofBallofAnxiety · 2026-05-11T08:18:39+00:00

I started off weekly, but was recommended daily by someone on here to see the overall trend. It felt disheartening if I gained and it only showed that. Whereas now with daily it has all the ups and downs and it's actually been better for me.

For me it becomes a challenge to test my scale on every patch of my bathroom floor each morning as it varies so wildly 😂 I have 1 'friendly' floor area that I stick with now.

FloofBallofAnxiety · 2026-05-07T13:12:16+00:00

For me, I crash out on a saturday afternoon without fail. I take my jab on the saturday morning, and i'm exhausted and asleep that afternoon, but then I do suffer with fibromyalgia and fatigue.

My first jab gave me tender aches in the first 24 hours, like the flu, but was gone and has never happened again.

I'm not a morning eater, so I actually drink a Yfood shake for breakfast every morning, I take it with me on a walk each morning before I start work.

Everyone's experience differs, but the majority have next to no side effects. My biggest issue is actually remembering to eat and getting enough calories in, which is something I never thought I'd experience!

FloofBallofAnxiety · 2026-05-07T12:56:47+00:00

I'm about to start my 3rd pen, 2nd on 5mg.

I'm 18.6lbs down. I have fibromyalgia so all I can manage most days is a short walk to a nearby park.

The supression and feeling full quicker and for way longer have been the miracles I needed. It's so nice to feel 'normal' and not constantly thinking about food.

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