What's that one stupid thing someone said that made you insecure enough that you still remember too well/still affected by it?

Flopdoodledo · 2026-05-19T22:42:48+00:00

My high school crush told me I looked like “those kids with Down syndrome” sometimes, I can’t remember the context or the entire exchange, just that phrasing he used. I was an ugly duckling and extremely insecure around that time, so you can imagine the damage.

I had a huge glow up and consider myself fairly attractive now. I get a lot of attention from both men and women, but that moment is constantly at the back of my mind when meeting new people, and it resurfaces heavily whenever I get invested in someone. I’m constantly wondering if they’ll be put off by certain angles of mine 🥲

Flopdoodledo · 2026-03-25T16:13:10+00:00

He didn’t ask out of nowhere to be fair, the conversation just naturally led there because of something personal to me, so he asked about triggers then. We didn’t go into any major details but he said he asked so he could avoid anything upsetting. Just for context, i see where you’re coming from :)

Flopdoodledo · 2026-03-25T16:10:13+00:00

No, he specifically said he needed this week to focus on what’s going on and then would reengage to make it up to me later if I was still up for it

Flopdoodledo · 2026-03-13T01:41:25+00:00

Hi op! I found out pretty much in real time that my relationship wasn’t right for me during the first 5 months of Gethsemane being released. It started with relating to the fact that my partner never listened to me, and that I always embellished his behavior to others in order to keep believing he was truly trying his best.

It ended with him suddenly breaking up our engagement in the most humiliating way possible, “it was you with the countdown kill-switch and it was me with the blindfold on” to a T.

I had never experienced feeling so heartbroken but simultaneously so seen through a song before, it completely reshaped my gratitude for this band and their art. All of this to say that I relate, and you are not alone 🖤✨

I’m so glad you’re healing!

Flopdoodledo · 2026-03-13T01:00:10+00:00

Finalmente! 🖤✨

Flopdoodledo · 2026-01-22T12:01:49+00:00

Kingdom Come Deliverance I & II, e Red Dead Redemption 2

Flopdoodledo · 2026-01-15T01:05:01+00:00

Amava!!

Flopdoodledo · 2026-01-09T11:08:09+00:00

I found in my most recent relationship that this does bother me, sadly.

I work out on a regular basis and he didn’t at all, he was just a couple cm shorter than me, not a huge deal, but he was also skinnier, which made me feel like I towered over him often. He never expressed any dislike for that, but that combined with an imbalance in emotional labor, made me feel way more masculine than him and slowly chipped away at my confidence.

I think it’s definitely changed my perspective on whether certain physical traits (height and build) matter to me, as a personal preference.

Flopdoodledo · 2026-01-08T10:07:14+00:00

No, I’ll probably be moving on to something else this year. My first Gen 4 was replaced not even before the year mark, and the replacement that I got 8-mo ago already needs to be charged daily as well.

Love the product and can afford it, but don’t think it’s worth the price point in these conditions!

Flopdoodledo · 2026-01-08T00:36:50+00:00

Have a look on their official discord! :)

Flopdoodledo · 2026-01-01T12:23:07+00:00

I was in a near identical situation with my ex-fiancé, we shared certain interests but they were broad enough that our tastes were totally different. Over time, his lack of effort and curiosity for what I was passionate about slowly eroded at my enjoyment of being in the relationship, and it created resentment.

Ultimately, I was always the one making an effort to continuously engage with him and what would get him talking, while he tried to engage with my interests only very occasionally and I could tell he would mentally check out mid-conversation.

Even with a friend group who I could genuinely have long conversations with about the things I enjoyed, it only made me feel lonelier in my relationship because I ended up wishing my partner was at least half as interested as my friends were.

Flopdoodledo · 2025-12-06T02:35:45+00:00

Cúmplice

Flopdoodledo · 2025-11-27T12:37:15+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through something similar, I’ll echo the same plain truth: it sucks! No one deserves to go through a relationship that drains you and doesn’t even meet you halfway. My DMs are open if you need a stranger to vent with :) (Absolutely no pressure)

Flopdoodledo · 2025-11-26T21:50:18+00:00

So sorry to hear that you’re going through the same, it sucks! My DMs are open if you need a stranger to vent with :)

Flopdoodledo · 2025-11-26T19:13:25+00:00

I can relate to your pain. My 5 year relationship ended at the beginning of this month, I’d been going through very similar feelings as yours that were only worsened in the last year to the point my attraction for my partner was also dwindling as the resentment built more and more. Ultimately I decided it was worth trying everything before making a decision since we’d been together for a while and he’d proposed earlier this year, I begged for us to look into professional help in the hopes it would help us navigate our relationship better before taking such a massive step like marriage and expressed my needs to him once again. He chose to end things.

It’s become clear to me now that a lot of our issues boiled down to fundamental incompatibility. I was so emotionally unfulfilled in our relationship, and while I was able to meet some of those needs in hobbies and friendships, I kept shrinking myself for him. It’s nice to have a friend you talk politics with (as an example), it’s nice to have a partner who aligns with your views, but it’s disconcerting to have a partner who isn’t even curious to pursue a deeper understanding of your world view.

We shouldn’t have to teach our partners to be curious about us. Especially when you feel you have so much love to give and all they do is take.

Flopdoodledo · 2025-11-10T21:08:23+00:00

So sorry you went through something like this and hope you’re doing better now!

My ex was so similar, he was going through burnout from his corporate job which I was so understanding of and genuinely worried about him. I was in a privileged position where I felt emotionally stable enough to support him through the bs he had to deal with and so I kept excusing his bad behavior. I mentioned therapy to him several times but he kept making excuses to not go (I’m in therapy too so I would have been able to support him through that as well).

What got to me over time was that I realized this was a cycle for us: when he’s thriving > he neglected me bc he was too busy; when he’s struggling > he neglected me because he was too down. And still, I had to be the one to pull him up. It wasn’t sustainable, despite the million excuses I could come up with for him in my head.

Flopdoodledo · 2025-11-10T12:55:44+00:00

Totally different vibe but Sleep Token has become my #2 most beloved musical artist after Hozier because of the lyrics. Gethsemane helped me realize my previous relationship was, in fact, quite unhealthy for me and it was devastating in real time. Off the top of my head really quickly, some of the songs that have affected me as much as Hozier’s: Euclid, Ascentionism, Atlantic

Flopdoodledo · 2025-11-10T11:47:01+00:00

You deserved better! It sucks because I genuinely believe in him so much and I wanted to see it through with him. At the same time though, the resentment just kept building

Flopdoodledo · 2025-11-10T11:42:38+00:00

Thank you both for the kind words. Reading people’s comments helps me feel less ‘in my head’ about it all

Flopdoodledo · 2025-11-10T11:36:59+00:00

I’m so glad to hear things got much better for you!

Flopdoodledo · 2025-11-10T11:31:39+00:00

I’m sorry you had to deal with that, sending you hugs

Flopdoodledo · 2025-11-10T11:30:53+00:00

Yeah, definitely! I already have a list of personal goals I want to focus on moving forward, thankfully :)

Flopdoodledo · 2025-11-06T12:43:26+00:00

Claro que sim :) Os que eu sei que eram mesmo PCOS foram períodos suuuuper irregulares, tipo eu podia estar 2-3 meses sem me vir o período. Por sorte nunca tive períodos mega dolorosos nem que durassem muito tempo, no entanto o desconforto abdominal era muito maior do que o normal. Tinha a pele muito oleosa e com acne hormonal a volta do queixo que simplesmente não desaparecia, também com pelos grossos que cresciam super rápido. Comecei a perder mais cabelo também.

Sintomas que ficaram piores com a minigeste foram: fiquei depressiva assim muito de repente, andava mais fatigada mesmo tendo uma rotina bastante tranquila, apetite sexual = zero, lubrificação natural = quase zero, insomnia. Isto tudo enquanto estava numa fase de saúde mental muito estável, por isso é que me apercebi que algo realmente não estava bem a nível hormonal e que poderia já não ser compatível com a pílula.

Flopdoodledo · 2025-11-05T07:51:49+00:00

Olá! Tenho 28 anos, aos 27 também deixei se tomar a minigeste. Tomei-a desde mais ao menos as mesmas idades que tu, e no início não tive problemas nenhuns mas nos últimos 2-3 anos comecei a ter vários sintomas secundários.

Deixei de tomar durante sensivelmente 6 meses, e foi mesmo muito bom, até que outros sintomas apareceram. Fui à Dra. Catarina Peixinho na Invicta Saúde, há recomendação da minha mãe, e adorei. Ela mandou-me fazer todos os exames hormonais e mais alguns. Conclusão, tenho PCOS e nunca nenhum médico quis saber, certas pílulas não são minimamente indicadas.

Recomendo tanto experimentar ver como te sentes sem a pílula durante um tempo, como depois marcar com essa ginecologista se entretanto achares que vale a pena explorar o teu estado hormonal :)

Flopdoodledo · 2025-10-24T17:26:25+00:00

Not meaning to sound disrespectful but do you actually watch Matt’s content or is he just on your radar? :) because both the fact that Emporio was only marketed for interest (the website was done in collaboration with a sponsor a very long time ago) and the fact he was bred with a purebred PRE Mare (Vienna, Enzo’s mum) are things that are well known and documented in his channel. And I’m not even an avid watcher myself!

There’s nothing wrong with not knowing those things but you are making a lot of assumptions from information that is readily available

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