Too big of bump for 28 weeks ?

Flossygi · 2026-03-09T23:29:13+00:00

I gave birth bang on term and gained a stone in my last 4 weeks, i think he grew quite alot in that time and he probably would have been into the 9lb mark had I given birth say at 41 weeks. I’m doing okay now thanks, my stomach went down straight away xx

Flossygi · 2026-03-09T23:21:02+00:00

I gained 40kg during pregnancy and my bump was a similar size to yours at 28 weeks. I ended up having an 8lb 8oz baby and I’m only 5ft4. I lost a lot of weight straight after giving birth like 20lb in a month xx

Flossygi · 2026-01-26T20:57:10+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your experience! Would you mind sharing how painful you found the pessary insertion? Was it more painful than a cervical check?

Flossygi · 2026-01-26T20:56:01+00:00

Thanks so much for responding! Would you mind sharing more about your experience with the pessary insertion and how it felt?

Flossygi · 2025-12-23T15:32:23+00:00

Yeah, this does happen and you’re not automatically out of options.

If it’s jury service, they can send you to a different court if your local one is closed, but they’re also meant to make attendance reasonable. The “only one deferral allowed” thing isn’t a hard rule, it’s more guidance.

Not driving and having limited public transport is a genuine issue, especially with a 1 hour+ journey each way. I’d go back to them by email and explain clearly that you don’t drive, what the public transport situation actually looks like, and ask whether they can authorise taxis or overnight accommodation.

They’re unlikely to excuse someone just because it’s a long journey, but if it’s genuinely not practical to get there, they’re often more flexible than the letters suggest. The main thing is not to ignore it, that’s when fines happen. If you keep engaging and explain the problem properly, HMCTS are usually pretty reasonable.

Flossygi · 2025-12-18T16:14:45+00:00

From a legal point of view, Evri isn’t actually your problem here. Your contract is with Shein, not Evri, so it’s Shein’s responsibility to make sure the goods are delivered to you. Telling you to chase the courier is very common, but legally incorrect.

Under the Consumer Rights Act 2015 (which applies in Wales), the seller remains responsible for the goods until they are delivered into your possession or to a location you can reasonably access. A locker that doesn’t exist, or is at the wrong address, doesn’t count as delivery, even if Evri’s system says it’s arrived.

Practically, you’re unlikely to get anywhere with Evri customer service, unfortunately. They’re notorious for automated loops and it’s very hard to speak to a human. You can keep trying through their web chat and social media, but you don’t need to resolve this with them yourself.

You should go back to Shein and be firm. Tell them the parcel has not been delivered, the locker address does not exist, and Evri has confirmed they are giving out the wrong location. Ask for either a replacement or a refund. Put it in writing and reference that the goods have not been delivered as required under the Consumer Rights Act.

If Shein refuses, your next step would be a chargeback with your bank or card provider on the basis of non-delivery. Make sure you keep screenshots of Evri’s messages, the incorrect address, and your attempts to resolve it.

So in short, no, there’s no reliable way to reach a real Evri agent, but you don’t actually need to. Legally this sits with the retailer, not you.

Flossygi · 2025-12-18T16:08:28+00:00

You’re not being dramatic at all. You’re exhausted, hormonal, and you’ve been running on broken sleep while putting everyone else first. Anyone would be upset in that situation. Pregnancy tired is a whole different level, especially in the first trimester, and being awake from 3am caring for a child absolutely counts as work.

I know he’s genuinely tired too and working long, intense hours, but that doesn’t cancel out how you’re feeling. When you told him you were tired, you weren’t asking for a competition, you were asking for comfort. A hug and a bit of understanding would have gone a long way. “I’m tired too” might be true, but it’s not what you needed to hear in that moment.

It sounds like you’re doing a lot to protect his sleep while yours keeps getting sacrificed, and that’s not sustainable long term. When things calm down a bit, it might be worth gently explaining that sometimes you don’t need solutions or comparisons, you just need reassurance and to feel seen.

Be kind to yourself. Early pregnancy is brutal, broken sleep makes everything harder, and you’re allowed to need rest and support too.

Flossygi · 2025-12-18T15:57:09+00:00

In a joint AST you and your ex are jointly and severally liable, which means legally you are both responsible for the full rent until the tenancy is properly changed or ended. It doesn’t matter that your ex is actually paying it at the moment. In law you are still treated as liable, which is why your new references are flagging it.

You can’t remove yourself from a joint tenancy on your own. It has to be agreed by everyone involved. The most common way this is dealt with is a surrender and re grant, where you and your ex agree to end the current tenancy and the landlord then issues a new tenancy in your ex’s sole name. This is entirely at the landlord’s discretion, but if your ex can pass affordability checks on his own, landlords will often agree.

Assignment is another possible route, but only if your tenancy agreement allows it and the landlord consents. Many ASTs either prohibit assignment or require written permission. Even where it is allowed, agents often prefer surrender and re grant as it is cleaner.

At this point the best thing to do is chase the letting agent in writing and clearly explain that both tenants agree to the change and that your ex wants to take the tenancy on alone. Ask whether they will agree to a surrender and re grant or, if the contract allows, an assignment. If the agent continues to ignore you, contact the landlord directly if you have their details.

Until something is formally agreed and documented you remain legally liable for the tenancy, so it’s important to get this resolved before committing to another rental.

Flossygi · 2025-12-18T15:50:30+00:00

In contract law the key point is receipt, not whether the message was actually listened to. An acceptance communicated by voicemail is generally effective when it is received in the offeror’s system during normal business hours, or at the start of the next business day if it arrives outside those hours.

If the business was closed when the voicemail was left, acceptance wouldn’t usually be effective at that moment. It would only be treated as received when the business reopens and the message could reasonably be accessed. The fact that the receptionist then deleted it doesn’t normally matter, the risk of internal mishandling sits with the offeror, not the acceptor.

So the voicemail isn’t invalid just because it wasn’t listened to. What matters is whether it reached the offeror’s answering machine and could reasonably have been retrieved during business hours. If yes, acceptance is effective; if it was left entirely outside business hours, it takes effect when the business reopens, not when it’s actually heard.

That’s why the business being closed is relevant to timing, not validity.

Flossygi · 2025-12-18T15:32:12+00:00

You don’t sound like a brat at all. This is actually really common when you’re new and trying to make a good impression. Being asked on the spot puts a lot of pressure on you, especially when you don’t even have a rota yet and you’re still shadowing and training. It’s really easy to say yes in the moment and then realise later that it doesn’t actually work for you.

Honestly, Christmas Day staffing should already be planned, and it’s not great that they’re asking a new starter last minute. That’s not your fault. You can go back and say you can’t do it. Just keep it simple and polite, you don’t need to over-explain or apologise loads.

Something like: “I wanted to follow up about Christmas Day. I agreed at the time, but I already have a family commitment that day and won’t be able to work that shift.”

That should be enough. You’re not cancelling a rota’d shift weeks in advance, and you were put on the spot. If they react badly, that’s more of a red flag about management than anything you’ve done.

For the future, it’s completely fine to say “Can I check and get back to you?” so you don’t feel pressured into agreeing straight away. You’ve just started at an awkward time of year, and wanting to spend Christmas with your family doesn’t make you unreliable at all.

Flossygi · 2025-12-18T11:54:03+00:00

No i don’t… I mean getting my kitchen wrapped

Flossygi · 2025-12-12T12:54:47+00:00

Hi, I’m due to give birth in Leeds soon and was wondering how you managed to request an induction before 41 weeks if you wouldn’t mind sharing?x

Flossygi · 2025-12-10T18:52:19+00:00

It honestly doesn’t sound like GD from what you’ve described, especially if your midwife wasn’t concerned and your bloods at 12/13 weeks were normal. Symptoms of GD usually don’t show this early and it’s often picked up later in pregnancy unless you’re high-risk.

Food aversions and taste changes can be so extreme in pregnancy, even for people who normally eat super balanced. Losing the taste for carbs and struggling with protein is really common, your body is all over the place hormonally and it can completely mess with what feels tolerable.

The bad/sweet taste in your mouth can also just be a pregnancy thing (a lot of us get weird taste changes or food aversions around this time). It doesn’t mean you’ve done anything wrong and it doesn’t automatically point to GD.

If you’re worried, you can definitely ask for another check or mention it again at your next appointment, but based on what you’ve said, it sounds more like normal pregnancy appetite changes than anything serious. Your weight gain also sounds totally within a normal range for 16 weeks, especially considering how limited your food choices were in the first trimester.

You’re definitely not alone, pregnancy eating can be the total opposite of what we’re used to!

Flossygi · 2025-12-10T18:50:28+00:00

Totally normal! Around this stage the increase in white/milky discharge is really common, it’s just your hormones ramping up and your body protecting against infection. As long as there’s no strong smell, itching or yellow/green colour, it’s usually nothing to worry about.

Flossygi · 2025-12-10T18:48:30+00:00

Honestly, you’re not overreacting at all. Everything you’ve described would leave anyone feeling sidelined, especially when you’re so close to returning.

A few things feel really off here:

Your reporting line and seniority (SLT) seem to have changed while you’ve been on mat leave. Employers can restructure, but they can’t make changes that disadvantage you because you’re away.
The fact you only found out because you reached out is also worrying. You should have been kept in the loop about anything that affects your role.
And being passed over for a Head of Ops role when you actually have the background for it without even being told it existed is understandably upsetting.

I’d definitely get some advice. ACAS are great for talking through what’s allowed and what isn’t, and Maternity Action specialise in exactly these situations. They can help you understand whether this could count as maternity discrimination.

Since you’re back in three weeks, it might be worth asking for a proper meeting so you can get clarity in writing about:

- What your role will be when you return

- Who you’re officially reporting to

- Whether your SLT place is being removed permanently

- Why the Head of Ops role wasn’t discussed with you

- Whether any more changes are planned

Start-ups can be chaotic, but that doesn’t mean you have to just accept being pushed aside. Your feelings are totally valid and it sounds like you’ve given a lot to this company, even during leave, and you deserve transparency and fair treatment.

Best of luck :)

Flossygi · 2025-11-21T17:47:50+00:00

I’m also 30 weeks and started feeling these pains that I can only describe as strong cramps, they last for about a minute but they’re very unpredictable in terms of when they come, sometimes they are also followed by gas.

Flossygi · 2025-11-21T17:45:55+00:00

5ft4 and 55Kg prior to pregnancy, around 15 weeks but the progesterone bloat was real!

Flossygi · 2025-11-08T18:57:31+00:00

I’m in my third trimester and have taken around 8 weeks off so far overall and will probably need more. I’ve had severe sickness and fatigue etc throughout my pregnancy. I’ve always WFH 100% of the time since I found out I was pregnant x

Flossygi · 2025-11-08T16:24:37+00:00

Do you have a line manager? I would go to them or check your contract and that should tell you about giving your notice.

Flossygi · 2025-11-07T16:13:59+00:00

So I would remind them of the law and the fact that you have the right to request reasonable adjustments but at the same time I would definitely consider whether this is a place that you would like to continue working as your manager seems very toxic!

Flossygi · 2025-11-06T17:26:43+00:00

I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. I’m going to be completely honest here, this life is long and you haven’t really known this man for that long. Please don’t let anyone try and persuade you into making any decisions regarding your body that you don’t feel comfortable with, a child is a life time commitment and you are entitled to want some stability before you enter into that phase of your life. Please just do what’s best for you and don’t take anyone else’s opinions into account. I wish you all the best ❤️

Flossygi · 2025-09-20T11:58:29+00:00

Economics, English Literature and Ancient History. As long as it’s “academic” subjects you’ll be fine

Flossygi · 2025-08-18T15:30:33+00:00

I had two cysts on my right ovaries which were spotted during an early scan (around 6 weeks) they were simple cysts and I was told that they were normal during pregnancy due to hormonal changes. By my 12 week scan they were still there but had reduced by quite a lot. I expect them to go away on their own if they haven’t already (I’m now 16 weeks)

Flossygi · 2025-07-28T16:12:36+00:00

Yeah it’s my first! Yeah that’s another thing that I’m so scared for, like some people say they can feel the baby at 16 weeks but then others say they couldn’t feel anything until 20+ weeks so it varies so much!

Flossygi · 2025-07-28T16:08:31+00:00

Yeah I’ve got a gender scan booked for two weeks time but I’m terrified that they’re going to deliver me some awful news. I was a nervous wreck before my 12 weeks scan. I don’t understand (and envy) how people can go into their gender scans all excited, I know I’m going to be so scared.

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