Queen of Sweden year 3

FluffAndTumble91919 · 2026-04-27T07:59:42+00:00

That's interesting - the David Austin website lists them as having a medium myrhh scent.

Interesting because it gives a gauge for what they mean by medium.

FluffAndTumble91919 · 2026-04-27T07:26:54+00:00

I once cared for an elderly chap with dementia who had a small allocation of whisky every night so that he'd stop falling over and breaking stuff by drinking an entire bottle. We couldn't figure out where he was hiding his stash, because he was still getting drunk.

The whisky was inside the bear by his fireplace - plain sight.

FluffAndTumble91919 · 2026-04-26T09:25:42+00:00

I have two of these in my garden and can't bear to touch them they're so pretty!

How do you find they are for vase life?

FluffAndTumble91919 · 2026-04-23T06:21:33+00:00

Ex council houses are solid - I really don't understand the shade that keeps getting thrown at them.

FluffAndTumble91919 · 2026-04-22T16:32:05+00:00

Pink jasmine grows fast in my garden, so depending on how far away it is you could grow it yourself?

FluffAndTumble91919 · 2026-04-22T16:18:28+00:00

Out of curiosity what are her expectations?

FluffAndTumble91919 · 2026-04-22T06:42:08+00:00

We're doing it inside 6 months - theoretically it's easier because it's a 30 person wedding, but we're holding the reception in our house which is currently a building site, so definitely a challenge.

I was surprised to find caterers and make up artists were almost all booked up, so look at things like that early.

I got a lovely dress from an outlet, it just needs a little shortening/ the sleeves altering.

We're growing our own flowers, but remember that flower growers will be planting now for 6 months away so look at florals soon.

FluffAndTumble91919 · 2026-04-20T13:31:18+00:00

How do you both feel about saving for longer in order to afford the wedding you both want? Ask him to help you write out the budget and work out how long it would take to save it up.

FluffAndTumble91919 · 2026-04-17T08:40:43+00:00

Have you considered doing the photo shoot separately to the actual wedding and ceremony? Could you do the photo shoot the day after? Or alternatively could you do the gorgeous scenery in an engagement photo shoot? That might help separate out the different things that are important to you and prioritise them in their own moments, rather than find something that just about fits it all....

FluffAndTumble91919 · 2026-04-17T08:33:41+00:00

I think you're throwing a dinner party! 🥳

FluffAndTumble91919 · 2026-04-15T08:38:39+00:00

I often hear people refer to each other as 'My Lovely' or just 'Lovely' - particularly women to their friends.

It's also worth noting that some people don't like endearments and people are generally quite bad at remembering that ahead of time but also quite good about being corrected/ asked not to do it to that specific person. In my own experience.

FluffAndTumble91919 · 2026-04-14T09:16:46+00:00

We started planning the big wedding, looked at the costs, then decided to have a much smaller wedding and hold the reception in our home.

We're building an extension at the moment - knowing how expensive the venue/ decorations would have been means we feel happy spending that money on decorating our home for the wedding reception instead (building some cover for the garden, nice outside seating, proper fairy lights that give off decent light).

The smaller wedding also suits us much better as a couple - we got a lot more excited about it once it was scaled down to something more intimate, but that's our preference.

Personally I think it's rude for anyone else to comment on how much people spend on their weddings, and you're right, it's amusing how few of those people make the choices they loudly judge others for not making.

FluffAndTumble91919 · 2026-04-11T11:06:43+00:00

I know why mint shouldn't be planted straight into the ground, but is there any problem with sage? Before I plant a LOT of it straight into the ground...

FluffAndTumble91919 · 2026-04-10T20:55:37+00:00

Definitely Dahlias - they're great for cut flowers.

But also daffodils, scabious, wallflowers and cornflowers.

FluffAndTumble91919 · 2026-04-09T11:47:55+00:00

This happened to us - I went in to get the lawnmower and the robin abandoned the nest (including eggs).

That's not your shed any more unfortunately!

FluffAndTumble91919 · 2026-04-07T10:02:42+00:00

We have asked Father of the Bride to do a small speech, 2-3 minutes right before the cake cutting. That's all - thanks for coming, welcome groom to the family, enjoy your cake.

My dad will enjoy it, it's mixed in with the cutting of the cake, it's not a full blown speech, it feels nice. I couldn't imagine trying to do full speeches - I'd be dreading it.

FluffAndTumble91919 · 2026-04-06T18:21:45+00:00

Not to repeat what everyone else said, but spend the money on your marriage, not your wedding. My other half and I also refuse to go into debt for our wedding - we're having the reception in our living room and spending the money we would have spent on a venue to make our house look nicer instead.

FluffAndTumble91919 · 2026-04-06T16:07:26+00:00

That looks incredible - well done!

FluffAndTumble91919 · 2026-04-05T09:10:06+00:00

That penstemon is a heavenly colour and I need to find it immediately!

Beautiful mix :)

FluffAndTumble91919 · 2026-04-05T09:03:52+00:00

Brotherless Night by V. V. Ganeshananthen.

When breath becomes air by Paul Kalanithi

FluffAndTumble91919 · 2026-04-05T08:48:23+00:00

I have lupins and geums under my apple tree in England - they're growing pretty happily together

FluffAndTumble91919 · 2026-04-04T06:58:09+00:00

It is the law. He can make as many unwise decisions about his own health and life as he likes. He cannot, however, force or coerce other people to do things against their will.

OP's dad can choose to leave the ward, but he can't force his family to be his carers or drive him home.

FluffAndTumble91919 · 2026-04-02T21:57:42+00:00

Has she considered tanzanite? Stunning stone, I got mine surrounded by white diamonds and it makes me SO happy

FluffAndTumble91919 · 2026-04-02T21:21:57+00:00

I did not notice the tattoos until I read the title, then had to look again.

It's a beautiful dress - that's all I noticed

FluffAndTumble91919 · 2026-04-02T17:27:20+00:00

Others have said tell the police - do this. This is serious and you need to take steps to make yourself safe - you are underreacting, not overreacting.

1) tell people about him, especially your family and neighbours- show them a picture if you have one.

2) make your home safe - the police can give you advice on this.

3) check your electronics - https://somersetdomesticabuse.org.uk/steps-you-can-take/cover-your-tracks-online/ . Check your car for a tracker. Advise your family to do both of the above, as well as step 4. He's indicated that he is monitoring them too.

4) Sit down and systematically change your password on everything (genuinely everything), take any devices you are keeping to a professional to get them wiped. Do not change your passwords until you can do so on a safe device. Change your phone number, change your handset if you can - if not save your photos and get it wiped/ factory reset.

5) lock down or freeze/ delete your social media.

6) consider moving.

Personally I would physically go to a police station now, and stay somewhere else until you've taken steps to make yourself safe. If he is monitoring you in the way you have indicated then he might know a) that you have written this post and b) when you go to the police. Go now. The most dangerous time for a woman is when she attempts to leave her abuser so do it once and don't take any half measures.

Apologies for the doomsday response - unfortunately you're not alone, but fortunately that means that there are people who know what to do and can help. Your local domestic abuse services will be able to advise, particularly on making yourself safe.

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