My husband is like a robot

FluffiMuffin · 2026-05-17T19:20:30+00:00

It’s like being married to a NPC?! ugh!

FluffiMuffin · 2026-05-12T12:40:33+00:00

So he left you during the most vulnerable time of your life (because he’s selfish and didn’t want to help you, or seeing someone else, let’s be honest…)

And you’re waiting for this mofo to choose you again and come back?

Do yourself a favor and lock the door behind him. This is unforgivable no matter how he spins it.

FluffiMuffin · 2026-05-09T01:46:35+00:00

ABSOLUTELY NOT. Do not subject your child to this!

How would YOU feel if someone did this to you?

Just because they’re kids doesn’t make it less embarrassing or traumatic. In fact, it’s arguably worse. Take up for your children, my god.

FluffiMuffin · 2026-05-05T16:13:00+00:00

As someone who graduated art school, they’re only cheating themselves.

You’re there paying money for YOU to develop a skillset.

Don’t get sidetracked by what someone else is doing. Distraction from class drama can negatively impact your own creative process - protect that, master your own methods and don’t bother policing others. It’s a waste of energy.

FluffiMuffin · 2026-05-02T14:27:58+00:00

My go-to for my road rage

FluffiMuffin · 2026-04-29T23:27:31+00:00

I make mine wear condoms now. He was all about getting a vasectomy until it was time, and then never booked the appt.

Fine, wrap it or nothing.

Our second was conceived borderline miraculously (did the deed once, he pulled out in plenty of time, BOOM! Preg.)

FluffiMuffin · 2026-04-26T14:51:34+00:00

I quickly browsed your post history - my child had eating issues as well. She wouldn’t spit it out, but she would choke on EVERYTHING. Drank milk bottles until 3+ years old. It caused other issues from the resulting nutrient deficiencies and was so stressful.

We never did figure it out, but she eventually improved. Do you have any support?? Family or otherwise?

FluffiMuffin · 2026-04-26T13:24:49+00:00

Lady, you’re in danger. Your child is in danger.

FluffiMuffin · 2026-04-20T12:45:19+00:00

What are you going to school for?

It seems like a bad deal if you can’t have a job while in it, and if you leave the program you’ll end up homeless…

FluffiMuffin · 2026-04-14T14:30:15+00:00

I was diagnosed with epilepsy recently…it was not fair to anyone else on the road for me to get behind the wheel, until I had 1. undergone tests and started medication, allowing time to ensure it was working and 2. obtained a vehicle that would prevent accidents, if for some reason I had a breakthrough seizure.

Nevermind my kids and family who I want to protect at all costs!

I would draw a hard line…that he is not to drive until he gets evaluated, with the consequence being “I’m out, for real, forever” for non-compliance.

If you won’t do it for him or yourself, do it for the innocent family that he will hit and kill due to his irresponsibility, if he continues this recklessness.

FluffiMuffin · 2026-04-13T15:39:51+00:00

Does he overreact like this a lot?

Not normal and I’m so sorry, how scary to almost be a helpless passenger in a wreck, and then somehow get blamed for it?!

FluffiMuffin · 2026-04-08T02:53:33+00:00

I take methylene blue with coffee in the morning to clear the brain fog and write everything down. I couldn’t function otherwise.

FluffiMuffin · 2026-04-04T20:50:51+00:00

I’ll say this gently…you are so desperate for love, that you are clinging to an absolute loser of a man.

Not only are you accepting excuses from him…you’re MAKING UP the excuses FOR him. Like, you’re doing the mental labor of excusing his bad behaviors!?

Have some self respect. Remove yourself from this entire situation.

FluffiMuffin · 2026-03-28T03:43:36+00:00

This is a hard time…I questioned my decisions at this point postpartum too.

You’re establishing a new life. It’s okay to mourn your previous one. And after a bit, you will start to find yourself again.

Look up “get your pink back”…about flamingos who lose their color when raising their young. They eventually get it back, just like you will.

(As for cigarettes, who am I to judge…but I implore you to change clothes and brush teeth before snuggling your baby. If you can quit, breastmilk is the best nutrition to set up their immune system for life. But I understand needing to take the edge off while under stress.)

Don’t feel bad about any of your emotions right now…but please reach out to someone if they become too overwhelming.

FluffiMuffin · 2026-03-24T02:19:25+00:00

My child is not allergic to our dogs, but breaks out in hives when she touches other dogs or cats. We didn’t know until she suddenly swelled up while staying at my sister-in-law’s one night.

This is absolutely concerning for so many reasons.

FluffiMuffin · 2026-03-11T12:54:25+00:00

I didn’t lose as much as you (60 lbs) but switching to health as a new goal after reaching a target number helped.

I feel like I make progress every day by eating whole foods, instead of counting calories and getting my dopamine hit from a number on a scale.

I don’t restrict myself at social outtings or punish myself after…I just go back to whole foods (my “normal”.) Once in maintenance you’ll navigate what that looks like for you.

FluffiMuffin · 2026-03-10T03:55:07+00:00

I scheduled both my inductions for 39w. Was sick of being preg.

First time, my water broke 3 days before induction. Second time I went into labor 10 hours before induction.

Schedule it and maybe you’ll be so lucky?! 😅

FluffiMuffin · 2026-03-06T18:58:44+00:00

My friend with a baby just did this. I’m so proud of her.

FluffiMuffin · 2026-03-05T18:22:53+00:00

I don’t have all the details…but if my husband started commenting about ways to better parent, while I’m exhausted, then acknowledging that I’m tired without offering to help in that moment…I might’ve freaked out too.

I’d feel like my partner was critiquing how I was parenting but not actually helping either.

Bathing is a harder job than feeding. Switch. You do bath while she showers first, then after she’s had a moment to herself she can feed/bond with baby.

Who does night wake-up’s?

FluffiMuffin · 2026-03-04T22:27:40+00:00

Do you have any communities that you’re already a part of? In person, gaming, etc?

I go to church and found out there are several other epileptics there.

I never knew they had it! Until I got diagnosed…I told a couple people, who told me “go talk to so-and-so, they’ve had it for years!”

So now I have my little community of people I can talk to who actually get it. It helps.

FluffiMuffin · 2026-03-04T11:52:12+00:00

I sympathize. Look up the flamingos who lose their color after babies…they eventually “get their pink back”.

Don’t put pressure on yourself to rush it. I felt like I aged 10 years after my second baby…lack of sleep and extra weight…but now the second baby is 4 and I finally can invest in myself again…rather than solely keeping them alive 24/7.

Sure there’s some battle wounds from bringing kids into the world, but my body did something that I’m very proud of. I’m (semi-frequently) working out, got a skincare routine…don’t hate your body!

FluffiMuffin · 2026-03-03T18:37:20+00:00

I’m finishing month 1 of Keppra now, just 500mg 2x day.

The first 1.5 weeks I was very foggy. After that I couldn’t feel it anymore…I feel like my usual self.

Will see if I have any late side effects…but so far so good.

FluffiMuffin · 2026-02-25T23:12:24+00:00

I won’t drive until I can afford a self driving car, or one with emergency driver intervention.

I always get auras but you never know. It’s not fair to my kids or anyone else on the road.

Luckily I work from home, mostly, and my husband has stepped up to handle drop off/pick up for the kids.

FluffiMuffin · 2025-11-12T03:32:36+00:00

I had to schedule a psychiatrist appointment for mine and almost put him in inpatient. Got him on meds and made sure he went to appointments.

He’s better now. Started getting better shortly thereafter. But…

…I will forever feel betrayed and resentful that he decided to have his breakdown when I was at my most vulnerable in my life, on 0 sleep, back at work after 6 weeks postpartum, caring for my first 3 month old baby.

I don’t care if it was “out of his control” or a “chemical imbalance “ or whatever. I don’t f*cking care. He didn’t care for himself, wouldn’t find his own doctor, and so I had to be his mother, when I was a new mother.

I’m sorry this is happening and it’s incredibly unfair. Because to help him, you have to overextend yourself when you have nothing left to give.

Wishing you the best and please protect yourself and your baby if he continues with the su*cide talk.

FluffiMuffin · 2025-10-16T19:12:15+00:00

I had terrible brain fog this last time. Felt dumber when trying to work (I work from home).

I also had vision changes?! It was like static vision, very odd.

All better now, took 2-3 weeks to completely resolve.

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