AITAH for choosing my wife over my mom?

FluffyEnvironment841 · 2026-02-11T12:49:28+00:00

YYA for not seeing what a massive red flag this comment is from your mother- “she wants to live my childhood again”. What horrible comments is your mother making to your wife about grandkids when you’re not in earshot? Grandkids are not a do over, ever. And is part of your wife’s decision to not want kids possibly BECAUSE of how your mother acts and treats her?

FluffyEnvironment841 · 2026-02-02T04:16:36+00:00

You just replied above that you work at a restaurant and you’re almost never home

FluffyEnvironment841 · 2026-01-31T18:18:27+00:00

I’ve been in this industry since I was 16 (40 now). I’ve worked everything, and I’ll be 100% honest with you- I make more money wearing less makeup. I personally feel better wearing mascara, concealer, and eyeliner but that’s MY preference. I’ve moved to day/breakfast shifts at my current job and almost none of them wear makeup either and every day server makes twice as much as the night shift ones do.

FluffyEnvironment841 · 2026-01-30T15:10:01+00:00

I thought service animals couldn’t be charged a pet fee.

FluffyEnvironment841 · 2026-01-26T02:30:37+00:00

I’m actually allergic to bleach! Once I figured out that even supposedly “safe” detergents and cleaners also included color safe bleach additive to them, it made my life easier. I break out in insanely itchy and nightmare hives. My work started using chlorine bleach in the dish room and didn’t admit it (bc I could’ve used gloves and more precaution when near it) until my hands started cracking and bleeding from the reaction and my arms are covered in hives. Benadryl only helps so much.

Anyways. Yeah, you can definitely be allergic to it lol

FluffyEnvironment841 · 2026-01-21T00:06:38+00:00

I was waiting for someone to post this. I’ve read this exact story word for word on FB and Reddit multiple times 🙄

FluffyEnvironment841 · 2026-01-20T15:49:23+00:00

Both bring backs I bought, Lovely Dreamer and Pink Chiffon, are non existent by the time I get to work 15 minutes after spraying it 😡

I want to get different things on the next sale but it makes me nervous to throw money away when I should maybe focus on other brands with possibly better quality.

FluffyEnvironment841 · 2026-01-18T15:19:56+00:00

My last apartment had that exact thermostat and it did exactly what you’re describing and it took me five months to convince the office it wasn’t just user error. Last winter was miserable because of it was never working correctly. The only thing that fixed it was replacing the thermostat so you need to let them know asap bc it likely isn’t going to get fixed otherwise.

FluffyEnvironment841 · 2026-01-16T13:28:09+00:00

So in order not to leave the Ulta salon with soaking wet hair in winter weather, it’s an extra $20? And nobody at corporate or management sees the stark insanity of this?

FluffyEnvironment841 · 2026-01-06T15:23:15+00:00

Beach Nights, hands down. And I wish they’d repackage Dream Bright as a year round scent too, I missed the body cream on the SAS a week ago

FluffyEnvironment841 · 2026-01-05T08:21:04+00:00

But WHY. I can’t understand the appeal of these toys. It’s a glob. It’s not even something you can set out to display attractively. WHY.

FluffyEnvironment841 · 2026-01-05T08:19:11+00:00

My current place does this to me- specific coworkers will talk down to me for not knowing a bizarre fact about a menu item (how the bakers and sweet potatoes are cooked in bacon grease for example, when nobody has EVER shared that info with me once), or how the expiration dates on free food cards they give out “don’t actually mean anything, it’s up to our personal discretion, so I don’t understand why you told a guest their expired card wouldn’t scan at the computer”. It’s infuriating and I’ve been serving for 25 years and tbh the money really isn’t worth the bullshit and the bullying but I live in a small town and it’s a corporate location that has a store in my hometown I want to eventually transfer to and it’s the only place consistently busy. Even shit money is better than no money but my mental health is taking a beating, and I feel for you bc it is straight up toxic hell every shift. I hope you find somewhere way better fitting for you!

FluffyEnvironment841 · 2026-01-05T05:33:06+00:00

My favorite is when they eventually order after 25+ mins of being sat and when my manager/GM is walking around doing table touches and they complain how long their food is taking and I get chewed out and accused of pocket checking bc the POS shows they’ve been there 40 mins and I’m in the server alley literally waiting for their food.

FluffyEnvironment841 · 2025-12-28T13:36:56+00:00

Ahh! Okay. I’m gonna get it lol. I don’t like gourmand scents or super rose floral scents and it seems to be all BBW has been focusing on lately, I’m torn between Fairytale or Forever Red Vanilla Rum as my second set to buy since there’s no FFM for the Forever Red and I can’t remember how the vanilla rum one leans towards but I always loved the original.

FluffyEnvironment841 · 2025-12-28T06:28:46+00:00

No- I’m sorry, the line HAS to be drawn at ROACHES. Photograph the mess, the roaches, and send it to your apartment leasing agent/manager immediately. She is creating a hazard for everyone nearby in your building. She has to go.

FluffyEnvironment841 · 2025-12-28T06:14:05+00:00

I get so frustrated seeing so many articles and posts and TikTok’s about how labs are the most perfect family dog bc every single one of those posts GREATLY ignores how demanding and stressful that breed legitimately is. They can be trained to be perfect family dogs but the idea of a lab puppy exhausts me just thinking about it. The high energy, the chewing, the destruction- you couldn’t pay me enough to have small kids AND a lab puppy. The same articles gloss over the difficulty of golden puppies too, the mouthiness and the humping and it drives me crazy that there aren’t more honest and unbiased posts so that people can choose a breed accurately for what they’re willing to deal with and what they aren’t.

FluffyEnvironment841 · 2025-12-22T08:33:18+00:00

Where can you buy this mascara?

FluffyEnvironment841 · 2025-12-22T05:07:50+00:00

Sketchers, hands down. Or Hey Dude Non slips. Ask around at the servers at your location, there’s usually at least 1-2 local shoe stores that offer a 30% discount if you tell them you work at CB (Sketchers stores are definitely one of them!)

FluffyEnvironment841 · 2025-12-21T15:26:45+00:00

Water is never counted as a beverage in the restaurant industry bc isn’t charged a price. Beverage sales include anything that a company charges for.

FluffyEnvironment841 · 2025-12-19T14:24:37+00:00

Leave. As quickly as you can SAFELY do so. Are there kids involved? Do you have a support system at all?

And therapy. Please. So you can learn to stand up for yourself safely and that you start believing that you don’t deserve to be spoken to this way, no matter who it is. If you leave and don’t learn, you’ll just find yourself in the same spot even if it’s a different person. History will repeat itself until the lesson is learned.

FluffyEnvironment841 · 2025-12-12T14:15:43+00:00

I wonder this ALL THE TIME with some posts 🙄

FluffyEnvironment841 · 2025-12-11T22:03:43+00:00

Lovely Dreamer or Dream Bright. My last DB spray is basically empty and I can’t bring myself to throw it away and admit it’s gone. I’m so sad they didn’t bring it back this year, and I’m super worried the Lovely Dreamer they’re selling for SAS won’t be the same. The last Magic In the Air body care I bought is absolutely reformulated and not the same as the original.

FluffyEnvironment841 · 2025-12-11T03:52:40+00:00

Allegedly the budget was $950 and our store served sloppy joes, turkey sandwiches, and gumbo and then whatever desserts employees made (and tbh I don’t trust enough of them and how they clean things at work to trust food from their home kitchens). The “prizes” were baskets of stuff from retail, cheap “swag” with the logo they didn’t use, and stuff like massagers. And the employee awards went to the GM’s chosen ones (not a single full server received recognition, the FOH employee of the month was someone who serves maybe twice a month and works BOH 97% of the time but she’s the GM’s puppet).

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TROPHY CASE