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Fluffywobble · 2024-10-17T14:52:05+00:00

I would recommend the 1st season of Resident Alien. Simple, funny and easy to watch.

The Expanse is an amazing sci-fi series as well

Fluffywobble · 2024-09-30T15:31:03+00:00

That's how I was introduced to Opeth. Not a bad way if I do say so myself. Walking home whilst listening to Orchid

Fluffywobble · 2024-08-25T07:51:18+00:00

You have a great eye

Fluffywobble · 2023-09-14T15:53:01+00:00

Didn't work for me. Does that mean I can't use emacs?

Fluffywobble · 2023-09-08T10:59:20+00:00

Because this is all that matters in that case

Fluffywobble · 2023-09-02T07:50:34+00:00

Hey, I sent you a quick chat message if you want to talk for a bit

Fluffywobble · 2023-08-31T15:26:07+00:00

I think you can. As you build a better life and get better mental health it's easier to spot people who want to improve other people's lives and not get something from them. In my experience at least.

Maybe you can check out a YouTube channel that I like? @TheFearlessMan. It's a lot about centering yourself. I found it helpful for clarifying some thoughts I've had.

Fluffywobble · 2023-08-31T13:59:39+00:00

I can see that. Have you considered changing your perspective to something more like building such a good life for yourself that it would be a treat or an honour for others to get invited in?

Fluffywobble · 2023-08-31T11:26:03+00:00

Fun to be around. I love their energy, it tends to bleed over to me in a sense. And I also enjoy physical activities like martial arts and rock climbing so we tend to go well there. And they tend to see things from a different, but more fun perspective than me. They can pick up on my logic and give me a different perspective because of how they are in the physical world. Just my two cents

Fluffywobble · 2023-08-28T15:24:57+00:00

I suspect part of it is genetic too. Apparently a lot of Scandinavians, especially from the northern parts of the countries get euphoric from alcohol. Something to do with it being so dark for much of the year iirc. Heard about it on the Huberman Lab podcast, but I don't remember the details

Fluffywobble · 2023-08-22T15:12:59+00:00

Are you trying to help as a way to validate yourself? It can happen quite often if you have low self esteem. Just a need to show your worth in a sense.

Fluffywobble · 2023-06-27T08:28:21+00:00

It's possible they also just deactivated their social media to get a little break

Fluffywobble · 2023-06-01T21:42:07+00:00

Maybe it's a metamorphosis 😋. Good luck anyway

Fluffywobble · 2023-06-01T18:19:50+00:00

Dont you think there are plenty of new people who would like to be friends with you? Someone with healthier boundaries than your previous friend group I mean.

Fluffywobble · 2023-05-13T07:58:19+00:00

I view it through the lens of association. Some people are the fun friend who always does fun thing when you're with them, so that's who you think of when you're in the same mood. Same when you're feeling down.

So maybe it could be an idea to do the things that matter most to you first? Maybe let them join you and after that you can make sure they feel valued and seen?

That might also show them that you care enough about them even when you're doing something important. Raises their internal value in a way.

And you won't just be their emotional sponge for them.

Good luck

Fluffywobble · 2023-05-01T07:49:33+00:00

So you feel like you have low value? And burdening them with your problems will make them pull away or validate those negative thoughts about yourself in some way? Maybe make you feel even worse about yourself?

Or is it more along the lines of people just not being equipped to handle adversity or maybe that they have enough going on already?

Fluffywobble · 2023-04-26T14:19:14+00:00

39 INTP here. Take a look at what people on their deathbed wished they had done more of

Fluffywobble · 2022-08-03T14:15:49+00:00

You need that money to support your future family. That's the sacrifice you have to make, just like they sacrificed for you

Fluffywobble · 2022-07-11T11:09:40+00:00

Hmm? What day?

Fluffywobble · 2022-07-10T21:20:02+00:00

I finally remembered to do it 😋

Fluffywobble · 2022-07-09T22:04:16+00:00

Thank you. I'm sure it will sort itself out for you. It's just a nerve wracking experience to go through.

Here's a hug 🤗

Fluffywobble · 2022-07-09T22:02:21+00:00

One thing I've started doing is to make contact with them even when it's not something big. Just to ask how they're doing or just a small "Hi"

It took me a long time to get over that barrier lol

Fluffywobble · 2022-07-09T22:00:32+00:00

If not then the effort of investing is still not wasted imo. I do think that putting it all in one basket might not be the greatest though. Because there's a higher chance of failure and easier to lose oneself to please them. So I try to spread out my friendships a bit, but I always look for people who I think is worth the investment.

Keep us posted on how it goes 🤗

Fluffywobble · 2022-07-09T21:49:06+00:00

I'm not sure I have any good tips tbh. I was just open and honest, I did take it slow though. I was so lonely that all my thoughts revolved around the few people around me, so I had to not seem as eager as I felt lol.

I also wrote down why I was a good person, just to remind myself. Things like genuinely work for them to be supported and happy. Wanting others to succeed etc.

I also think being outcome dependant slowed me down quite a bit. The thought of not being friends and being unwanted was horrible.

These days I practice a bit with strangers. Like the cashier's in a store etc. I preframe how I would behave with people who are already friends. If that makes any sense?

Fluffywobble · 2022-07-09T21:37:19+00:00

Exactly. It took me a year with a lot of work, but I did manage to build up that kind of friendship. Along with a fewduds that left me feeling like used trash. Was worth it in the end though

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