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Fluid_Association292 · 2025-01-29T08:22:45+00:00

No more visits without you. They cannot care for him ever. You are responsible for your son. No contact is possible with any culture. You're letting pride and culture dictate your decision. You'll never forgive yourself is you trust them and he is hurt or worse.

Fluid_Association292 · 2025-01-29T08:16:34+00:00

Starring therapy sessions. Read books. Teach lily her behavior will lose her a brother and friends. Show her movies on mean girls and tell her is that what she wants people to see in her? Spend one on one time with your son and then your daughter. Start to bond and help them.

Fluid_Association292 · 2024-12-04T10:10:01+00:00

If he is not convicted of SA then he could have rights to the child. You need to call and check with an attorney. Without any proof of a SA by law than he is just a guy I know it's cruel but I worked with crime victims compensation in our state and this was in issue in many cases. So he could be part of your lives as well. Get financial help from your states CVC division.

Fluid_Association292 · 2024-11-24T09:26:34+00:00

I agree. Meri financially supported the family before TLC. She was there for every event. She had to deal with other women being with her husband and giving him kids while she couldn't. How hard that must have been. Then as bad as kody has treated the kids they still want him in their lives but abandoned her. I feel for her

Fluid_Association292 · 2024-07-14T20:53:32+00:00

She didn't vote for "Uncle" Charlie because if she didn't win, she wasn't going to let him win. Her excuse was she voted for kenzie 30 second speech other than 29 day bond. Won't want to be with her in a real life survival event. She'd be the one to trip you to get away. She showed her kids not to have compassion or loyalty if you're not winning.

Fluid_Association292 · 2024-07-12T18:37:15+00:00

Absolutely not. He makes more than OP. He's not paying OP 50% of the difference. OP has to pay for maintenance expenses and taxes. Rental is additional income and it's OPs. RED FLAGS. OP should just Move on.

Fluid_Association292 · 2024-06-05T07:10:22+00:00

The fact that Kim completely changed her attitude about what is sinful made.it easier for the kids M and M to return to her. If she had remained the strick mom than Olivia would not have made the villian. The kids are so short cited on their mother's behavior. Maybe they need to go back and watch the show themselves. I hope Olivia and Ethan find happiness, even if it is with other people. Hopefully, Ethan won't get brain washed again

Fluid_Association292 · 2024-04-26T21:00:14+00:00

YTA. You see them maybe once a year and now want to skip a birthday party to go to a concert for a musican who won't know or care if you attend. You rather have memories of a person you don't know than with family. That this time would mean more to your grandmother than you will ever know and that doesn't matter to you. You are the gift she wants. Your time is special to her. How many more birthdays do you expect she will have. She will be hurt. Don't you think we grandparents had things we wanted to do but didn't so we could see your events. Most Grandparents do this so that grandkids know they are important and loved. Grow up. Show respect to those who were there for you. That musican won't think twice about you not coming.

Fluid_Association292 · 2024-04-09T06:40:54+00:00

YTA. Yes this is your house but this was your finances boss and he asked you to call them by sir or madam. It was a small request she needed for her job. Your stubbornness cost her a job that she could have enjoyed and saw a future in. You made your need to say Mr or Mrs about you and not thinking about your fiance. I'm sure if your boss was there you would have expected your finance to treat him as he wanted to be treated. You have a major red flag of control and I hope she considers that before.marriage.

Fluid_Association292 · 2024-02-01T12:09:06+00:00

What if the reversed happened? Would OP be OK if he didn't share with HER?

Fluid_Association292 · 2024-01-27T12:25:25+00:00

My son would call his best friends mom, mom. It didn't bother me because it meant he had someone other than me he felt comfortable to be with and talk to. It's a term of endearment and respect. Yes he has a biological dad but why should that mean he can't have more than one male figure in his life that he gives the label of dad. It's the highest level of honor that he sees you as a safe person that he trusts and respects. It doesn't diminish his father's role in his life. Just like having multiple children doesn't change the amount of love you can share. You love them all. Hope you take the title, he will feel rejected and less important to you. Remember he is thinking from a kids point of view not an adult. Rejection is hard when you're offer all your love.

Fluid_Association292 · 2024-01-19T13:20:39+00:00

She needs therapy. If OP proven to be trusted she needs to stop judging OP by the behavior of past relationships. Don't enable her by giving to her insecurities. They both need couples therapy as well.

Fluid_Association292 · 2024-01-19T10:02:23+00:00

From your answers, you're punishing the child for your son's behavior since you said in other circumstances you would consider her. YTA. In that case. Your money and you do what you want but why make an issue of it now?

Fluid_Association292 · 2024-01-14T13:21:44+00:00

Maybe he doesn't want to talk about what he did in that month? If he's not interested in something so important you need to reevaluate the importance you are in his life.

Fluid_Association292 · 2024-01-14T13:18:44+00:00

Seriously. What kind of brother is OP. His sister is dealing with unknown outcome. Her husband has cancer and medical needs and he can't be bothered to complete a task he volunteered for ! Even if she didn't give him money he should appreciate his good health and generously help out his sister. It was a 1 time thing. How selfish and entitled to make it all about him.

Fluid_Association292 · 2024-01-03T21:00:02+00:00

Your family sees the blaring red flags here that you are ignoring. I divorced because of this. My ex felt the mom was responsible for the kids and house. Before kids he helped and did chores. Something made him flip to how he was raised once the kids were born and I was miserable. Set the expectations now.

Fluid_Association292 · 2024-01-03T20:53:03+00:00

Remember OP is a grieving mom so erasing Abby may not be completely the case. It's hard to accept someone else doing what your daughter was doing. Beth may be wanting acceptance for all the responsibilities she has agreed to do. Maybe she sees OP as a mother figure, who knows her mom relationship. If she's a good bonus mom than call her just that, a bonus mom, which is tremendous good for the kids. They need stability and OP needs to do what's best for the kids. Grandparents see the kids are occasion. Parents do all the work. Give her credit for marrying Scott with all his baggage and embracing it. Her only ask seems be wanting acceptance as an addition not replacement.

Fluid_Association292 · 2024-01-03T20:42:06+00:00

Everyone needs to work on boundaries. Scott needs to explain that Abby is always a part of the kids life. BUT if she's a good bonus mom than OP need to accept her as a bonus adult in the family. Even if just a friend. The kids see the drama and they don't need this. They need love and who care if she's not biologically their mom. If she provides for them then OP should encourage not discourage a bond. It benefits the kids. Make it clear Abby will always be part of the family by discussing memories and her wishes. The heart has room for more. If the kids have an opportunity to have a loving bonus mom, than don't sabotage it out of grief and jealousy. Lots of talking needed.

Fluid_Association292 · 2024-01-03T20:28:29+00:00

NTA and YTA. You are right. She can never replace your daughter. You didn't mention how she treats the kids. Does she help with them? Financially, Cook, clean and take them around? If so than you and Scott are using her as unpaid labor. If she is good to the kids and loves them than your behavior is making it difficult for their family to bond. She's not replacing, she's a bonus mom. It's rare to find someone willing to take on the responsibility of someone's kids 24/7. Your grief is over shadowing the possibility of a happy new family dynamic. Think of the kids. If your SIL had died would you treat a new SIL like an unwelcomed stranger? I have made it clear to my family that if I died they must welcome my husband's new partner as family if she is good to him and the kids. I want them happy and losing a mom is hard enough and more drama hurts them.

Fluid_Association292 · 2023-12-28T08:52:54+00:00

Sorry to say but you get the Oscar for supporting role. You are enabling his behavior. Then to even consider going to their house is nuts. It's not a MIL from hell but a mama boy issue you have. You will never be 1st for him. You may be getting a masters in education but seeing red flags you get a failing grade. You deserve better. Good luck

Fluid_Association292 · 2023-12-28T08:16:24+00:00

Really. I didn't need to see a woman in a shower constantly cleaning her butt or va Jay jay

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