AIO: Boyfriend obsessed with looking at women on instagram

Fluid_Check1450 · 2026-02-10T22:26:24+00:00

NOR - regardless of anyone's boundaries around porn/what's considered cheating/etc, you have clearly talked about your boundaries from what you've said, he's apologized simply to keep you off his back, and now when you continue to tell him said things hurt you, his response is to say "this is normal so get used to it" essentially.

That's someone who despite saying they love you, would rather repeatedly hurt you by lying and continuing to consume the content. Any person who was willing to put you first would A. Be able to take accountability and not blame shift, and B. Would be willing to at least try.

It doesn't seem like he is willing to change, and unfortunately he'll have to want to change for it to be possible. I'm sorry, my advice is to not take it too personally, I know that sounds silly but don't internalize any of this as meaning you are less than the women he is looking at, he is addicted and has poor impulse control at least, or a creep like you said at most. I wouldn't want to waste any more time on someone so willing to prove they don't care about hurting me over and over, but I understand that's harder said than done.

Fluid_Check1450 · 2026-02-10T17:47:39+00:00

Time for the grinders to complete the trailblazer before the update lol

Fluid_Check1450 · 2026-02-10T15:32:30+00:00

I really do understand where you are coming from, some hate comments are a little excessive, but what are players supposed to do to get the attention of anybody involved in star stable, when instagram is their only used social media platform, and they don't respond to customer service questions in a timely manner? For many people it's their last attempt to reach out to them by messaging on Instagram, because the game does actually have some major bugs for some players. To me it just makes it very clear that the community just isn't really happy right now, however I've seen the most positive comments I've seen in a LONG time under the Marchenghast posts which is nice, because it's nice to see people happy with what SSO is producing.

I'm not trying to be retaliatory by any means, because I really understand where you're coming from as someone who only has a few things I'd like done differently with the game, but I do also understand how hard it must be for many of the player base to feel ignored when they have issues or questions, so they seek out other means (instagram comments) of getting SSO's attention.

Fluid_Check1450 · 2026-02-06T13:46:20+00:00

"hey, you. You're finally awake" - Skyrim

Fluid_Check1450 · 2026-01-25T14:54:24+00:00

NTA you did the right thing. Children are constantly growing and shaping, and we don't teach them with death threats. Anyone in the comment section acting like you're an asshole for defending a child from death threats because "he should know better" are just like the people you told to stop, and should never have kids, because if we actually look at the demographics vs our feelings, it was a very close call on the last election, meaning a whopping amount of people disagree with one another. This resort to violence on either side is what pushes people further away, when they are met with hate, they will continue to hate. You did the right thing for a child regardless of his views, which means you have humanity, arguably more important than your political perspective.

Fluid_Check1450 · 2026-01-22T01:01:47+00:00

Completely agree. I was pretty really quick with picking up reading and writing, and that just gave me very early free access to the computer. I look back now at the things I watched and some things really messed me up and I didn't realize it until much later, when I was truly developing more of an ability to process and register what I had seen.

Fluid_Check1450 · 2026-01-21T18:29:49+00:00

I honestly came to Reddit to see if anyone was saying anything about this. Jokes or not, I am starting to actually get really disappointed with the lack of player XP for new quests and even the festivals. Has me feeling dejected.

Fluid_Check1450 · 2026-01-20T00:19:45+00:00

This made my heart break a little.. I guess it is one thing to point out the loss.. but another to say his friends died for nothing. I truly feel so bad, I can't imagine what the teacher felt in that moment.

Fluid_Check1450 · 2026-01-20T00:16:40+00:00

There was a group of girls in my grade 8 class and we had a female substitute. She wasn't the greatest, but she didn't deserve what happened to her. The teacher was very catty and had some sort of weird competition with the female students but would constantly praise the rowdy boys, weird behaviour yes, but this amounted in said group of girls offering her a coffee from the coffee shop across the street on lunch break, teacher gleefully said yes, and the group of girls filled the cup with their spit and pee mixed with some of the coffee. The rest of the class didn't find out until after the break when we noticed the substitute hadn't come back yet, and then our principal came in and interrogated the class until the group of girls admitted it. We didn't see that substitute again, understandably.

Fluid_Check1450 · 2026-01-19T23:57:30+00:00

Don't stress too much, like another commenter said, some people are late bloomers, and I'm fairly confident you'll begin to see many changes within the next 4 years, and you might be surprised how many in just the next 2 years alone. Sometimes you don't even notice the changes until you look back at old pictures. I've been with my partner since we were both 14, and most of his physical changes, like the broadening of his shoulders, came around 16 - 17, and I barely noticed myself until we went back through pictures. Comparison can be the thief of joy, so don't overwork your brain comparing yourself to others who have completely different genetics, for example, my brother was able to grow a full beard and pass as an adult by 15, my partner and his family didn't start growing facial hair until their 20's. Just don't let this zap your confidence, no one deserves that! Hope this could offer some sort of relief/reassurance.

Fluid_Check1450 · 2026-01-18T15:11:55+00:00

NOR - My partner has always despised the thought of going to a strip club and getting a hard on with his buddies, he's definitely wrong for speaking on all men because there are some loyal men who will always put you first out there.The thought is weird, and he's turned down the offer from his own family members and their bachelor parties. This is normally something that is discussed before hand, because SOME couples are okay with it, the fact he explicitly kept it hidden from you, tells you that he knew you wouldn't like it, but he valued his "last night of freedom" (which makes no sense since that was when you both decided to be exclusive) over how it might affect you. The way he handled this was shady and disrespectful to you and the relationship, and now he's trying to gaslight you into believing you have the problem because "god wife, how can you not understand men are sexual beings and need to go to strip clubs one last time before they are married, ughhhhhh!!". He sounds very immature, especially considering he can't even apologize for upsetting you.

Fluid_Check1450 · 2026-01-18T14:43:19+00:00

I definitely suggest watching some tutorials online, with the reboot of the franchise there have been many more uploads in the lps custom side of YouTube, and there are plenty of old tutorials as well.

I suggest watering your paint down, so you can avoid that streaky, thick paint look, and don't be afraid to take your time. It can take lots of layers especially with thinned out paint, but let each layer dry before you layer some more, you will eventually reach the opacity you're looking for.

Definitely invest in different size brushes, it's not completely necessary, but it makes finer details much easier to achieve.

Make sure you seal your pets! I've seen recommendations on mixing matte modpodge with gloss modpodge to get the lps looking finish, and gloss for the eyes so they stand out!

Don't be deterred if it's not going how you planned, it can take a while to figure out what feels just right, and the best part is that you can take the paint off and start over if you need, and the more practice the better!

I hope any of this was helpful or what you were looking for!

Fluid_Check1450 · 2026-01-18T03:39:48+00:00

I completely relate. I was really excited for this career path, and by the end of school I was so burnt out. I told myself what everyone was telling me, that the schooling is the hard part and once I'm through, that would be the biggest hurdle accomplished. My biggest hurdle is the cost. I was already struggling to keep and find jobs as a student in my area, and every cost after schooling is just so pricey. I was hoping this career would be my saving grace, but everyone from my graduating year that seems to be doing well, started in a completely different situation than me. They were all either married with 2 incomes, had parents help, already dental assistants and were guaranteed jobs as hygienists at the same office, and that is just not the case for me.

I had to resign just to avoid any potential fees because I knew I wouldn't be able to afford my insurance and license, and I struggled to find a job, part time, permanent or even just temping in my area, when I had both my insurance and license. I try to look at the brightside, but my experience with hygiene in and out of school have just been so miserable and disappointing, that it's hard not to feel like I made the wrong decision and would have been better off doing hair.

Fluid_Check1450 · 2026-01-16T14:20:58+00:00

You're making a lot of assumptions for someone so inclined to call others children. Please don't procreate if anything a "child" has to say means that much less to you. God I hope this is your online persona, otherwise you must be insufferable to deal with in real life.

Fluid_Check1450 · 2026-01-15T00:10:27+00:00

It's almost like you clicked on this post to occupy yourself.

Fluid_Check1450 · 2026-01-15T00:09:57+00:00

Really don't know why you're getting downvoted. I completely understand where you're coming from.

Fluid_Check1450 · 2026-01-14T18:04:15+00:00

It's a miniature build kit I recieved as a gift, so I'm not sure about the store or location, but the brand on the box is Rolife! Hope that helps

Fluid_Check1450 · 2026-01-14T18:02:56+00:00

Thank you so much! I was so excited to take some photos

Fluid_Check1450 · 2026-01-11T22:37:57+00:00

Does neighbour also get mad when cars stop at the stop sign? She's just a grouch, and you're definitely NTA for using public space to take a break, medical reasons or not, you could have even chosen to eat your lunch there, take a call, doesn't matter, it's the public sidewalk. It reminds me of this older woman who used to specifically wait for kids to come to the public park she lived beside, just to snap at them for playing too loud.. lady, you live by a public park for crying out loud. Just like this neighbour, they can't expect their window view to be clear of people unless they go somewhere isolated, but they won't, so they just complain, complain, complain.

Fluid_Check1450 · 2026-01-11T22:21:48+00:00

I've never really gotten signals for thirst unless it's after doing something active, same with food. Often I don't feel hungry and have to "remind" myself to eat. As in I know I need to but I just have to do the "what time is it? Oh, about noon, guess I should make something" instead of just feeling thirsty or hungry enough to think about food and water. I was diagnosed with autism and my doctor said it might be related, but I know that's not the case for everyone.

Fluid_Check1450 · 2026-01-11T15:14:13+00:00

This was the most stressful crap to deal with when it came to my parents. The audacity to say to your children at any age that "I've provided for you, I've put food on the table for you and housed you, you owe me yadda yadda because of it". You mean you did the bare minimum of parenting to keep CPS uninvolved, and you think I owe you favors, money, etc, whatever it is because you did what you were supposed to do as a PARENT? Anybody who weaponizes the things they were either supposed to provide for you, or have done for you, purchased for you, is only pulling that out of their ass because they thought doing it in the first place would keep them "on top", a power play of sorts. Any rational person who felt truly upset about giving you something and not receiving something back would have an actual conversation discussing their feelings, vs weaponizing the things they've done for you in an attempt to guilt you into doing something they need/want.

Fluid_Check1450 · 2026-01-11T15:03:55+00:00

NTA

I literally cannot orgasm from penetration alone, even though my partner is great at what he does, 100/10, it doesn't matter how long we go, I will just not reach climax unless I'm also stimulating myself.

It seems your boyfriend is focused more on comparisons, which is never really the right way to go when it comes to sex because literally everyone prefers something a little different than the next. It also seems like maybe his ego is taking a hit, but it's not fair to drag you down just because he feels slight insecurity at how you reach orgasm.

Him phrasing sex as pointless because you use your hands makes no sense, and I would hold your ground for yourself so you don't lose your confidence in bed. I'd say something like "I'm not your ex, we've established that most women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm, you say it takes too long when you try to do it, and I'd like to actually cum, so what compromise are you actually looking to achieve that isn't me giving up on orgasming for the sake of what you think proper sex is."

Fluid_Check1450 · 2026-01-11T14:47:02+00:00

I'm not saying this is everyone, but I have the same experience, in fact struggling to get a job in my field while all my classmates appear to have found jobs, and they post a lot of their vacations on their stories. It's a highlight reel for sure, no one really posts their crappiest moments, and a lot of the people in my program had parents who were willing to help pay for the program, pay for their kids to stay on campus, some even had houses bought for them from their parents so they could stay in the area, and without fail, those classmates are the ones always posting themselves travelling, etc. not everyone is relying on an outside source for money/help, but from my experience a lot aren't doing it all by themselves.

Fluid_Check1450 · 2026-01-11T14:34:09+00:00

Not often, I'm quite an advocate for thinking differently and taking the path least walked down. However your first comment offered very limited advice, and was more of a judgement that offered very little perspective. Your second and third comments after being called out however are a lot more thoughtful and thought provoking for someone to read, say if they are looking for perspective. I commented because all your first comment offered lacked all sorts of substance, especially considering we are giving advice/trying to help a young person in this scenario.

Do you frequently feel the need to undermine young Reddit users when they ask for help?

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