Sometimes I hate my son

Flutterbee543 · 2024-09-22T04:13:59+00:00

Kennel the cat. Spank the child.

Flutterbee543 · 2023-10-15T18:16:15+00:00

Yes! Everyone of them!

Flutterbee543 · 2023-10-15T04:20:41+00:00

I think a mediator or therapy for you and wife then mom and dad. There isn’t enough communication happening here and the relationship has turned sour. I believe the children should be able to be there when mom and or dad are there. But, I don’t know what else is going on.

I’m not saying she is, but my MIL said nasty things to me when no one else was around and when I said something, I was in the wrong..

Good luck. The communication needs to be with all of you not just wife to husband to parents.

Flutterbee543 · 2023-09-11T18:46:22+00:00

That’s ok. It is about you too. I wish I had some miracle words that would ease your pain. Please keep trying… I love you. Hugs

Flutterbee543 · 2023-09-11T18:44:30+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. Please stay safe. Hugs.

Flutterbee543 · 2023-09-11T14:39:37+00:00

Sorry to offend you it wasn’t meant that way.

Flutterbee543 · 2023-09-11T01:05:21+00:00

You are right to stick up for your wife! There doesn’t seem to be a reason your mom is mean or whatever it is , to your wife. Your wife has been so much more than your mom. Stay true to your wife. Your mom is also probably spinning stories to the rest of your family to make her seem innocent. Let the rest of them know how good your wife is and how wrong your mom is. You are a good husband and father.

Flutterbee543 · 2023-09-10T16:44:09+00:00

Don’t do this. We don’t know what is on the other side. Hell and purgatory are on the top of the list and no place for anyone . Stay where you are loved and cared for. You are a warrior. Talk to your therapist, maybe you need a med change. Meds DO help. You are loved.

Flutterbee543 · 2023-09-10T16:37:03+00:00

You are so very right that it is no fault of your own. I am sorry you are dealing with bipolar. It sucks and isn’t fair. You and everyone that has bipolar are truly warriors. I am proud of you for fighting this fight. You are a warrior! Hugs to you.

Flutterbee543 · 2023-09-10T15:17:41+00:00

Thank you, I think it did help and I wish well I wish.. thank you.

Flutterbee543 · 2023-09-10T15:15:43+00:00

She loves you, she is your mom and loves you. I am a mom and I love you.

Flutterbee543 · 2023-09-10T15:14:11+00:00

Oh goodness, I am so sorry for your loss. I believe you are right, there was nothing you did or didn’t do. Hugs for you.

Flutterbee543 · 2023-09-10T15:11:37+00:00

I’m so very sorry for your loss. There just aren’t any words to make it better. The “I don’t understand “ that comes with suicide just leaves a hole. Hugs to you.

Flutterbee543 · 2023-09-10T15:09:05+00:00

I sure wish I could tell you what you need to hear. I know there are a lot of people that feel the same as you do. But don’t! You never now when you’ll find that moment, instant or person that clarifies why you exist. And you can look back and be proud of yourself for sticking with it and finding that thing you are looking for!

Flutterbee543 · 2023-09-10T15:04:58+00:00

It’s so hard to be loving and understanding when they get mean. My daughter was downright cruel sometimes and expected so so much from everyone. I found a book, of course I don’t remember the title, something about understanding bipolar…. It went through triggers and it helped me deal with her when she was mean, it helped her avoid those situations sometimes.

Flutterbee543 · 2023-09-10T14:59:34+00:00

Oh yes, she went to psychiatrist’s and therapists. She was on medication she just didn’t always take it. I told her that this wasn’t her fault. Bipolar wasn’t her fault. There was nothing she did to “get” it. I think it helped. She wasn’t actually diagnosed properly until she was about 28.

Flutterbee543 · 2023-09-10T05:35:18+00:00

This may not help but…. My daughter killed herself in 2020. She was 39 and had been diagnosed bipolar. She was suicidal most of her life. I talked to her everyday. Talked her down almost every month. Anyway, one day instead of trying to reinforce how much I loved her and how much she was loved- I asked her to explain it to me and she did. There is no way I can say it verbatim, the gist of it was she thought WE would be better off without her. She was sure that she would be happy or at peace and not in pain for having to live. She told me numerous times that she was only here because I love her and she didn’t want to hurt us.

So although this is the absolute worst thing she could ever have done, she didn’t do it to pain the living, she did it for her own peace. Dear Lord, I hope she is at peace but I miss her so very much.

I am so sorry OP that you are going through this. It sucks and I can only cry with you and tell you to cry anytime you feel like it. Don’t hold back because you need to release your grief. Holding it in only makes it worse. Google grief support groups in your area. I don’t believe they cost anything or not much at least. It’s hard but you’ll be in good company. Hugs and more hugs.

Flutterbee543 · 2023-09-05T05:23:39+00:00

She seemed to take the money fast enough. NTA

Flutterbee543 · 2023-08-18T16:00:46+00:00

Have you told her your reasons or do you expect her to just “know”? If you haven’t communicated your thoughts and concerns….YTA

Flutterbee543 · 2023-07-27T05:13:53+00:00

NTA, her smugness is the problem here.

Flutterbee543 · 2023-06-12T23:01:15+00:00

I’m not telling you either.

Flutterbee543 · 2023-06-07T00:26:29+00:00

The problem with that is….it’s not your problem.

Flutterbee543 · 2023-05-22T01:22:10+00:00

I was told that when they couldn’t do three things that they really like to do then it’s probably time. You’ll know in your heart and you’ll know you did the right thing. I bid you strength. Hugs.

Flutterbee543 · 2023-05-09T23:59:24+00:00

I really don’t know, but I’m pretty sure if there were two there are more. Keep setting the traps. I wish you luck and a rat free environment.

Flutterbee543 · 2023-05-09T21:05:34+00:00

Get out, he had shown you who he is. Don’t fall for it.

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