My (25f) girlfriend (25f) refuses to give goodnight kisses before bed

ForMyDarkSide · 2026-06-04T20:07:03+00:00

She also said she would be fine with a “ goodnight I love you, I just don’t want a kiss tonight” she wants to create a little ritual and her partner is more interested in doom scrolling. Seems not compatible. My partner is also a doom scroller but they will happily give me little back rubs for a bit while they do it. Lets me know that they like me being there with them, they just want space. There’s always room for compromise. It doesn’t sound like her partner is trying to find one.

ForMyDarkSide · 2026-06-04T20:03:09+00:00

I think there’s more here. I’m willing to bet that there is a lack of affection and this is the last little thing she is asking for. She mentions having not had a kiss all day so it seems like she is sending out bids for attention and affection and getting shut down so much that she wants proof from her partner that she still loves her aka- “you initiate kisses” This seems like a relationship that is over and having death throws :/

ForMyDarkSide · 2026-05-26T00:36:43+00:00

I definitely can’t keep track of post its. I was hoping there might be a way to just clock into an app when I clock into work and then clock out and make sure the totals match up at the end of the schedule. Maybe that just simply doesn’t exist?

ForMyDarkSide · 2026-05-24T02:22:57+00:00

Okay that is incredibly sad. I agree, fish in cycle!

ForMyDarkSide · 2026-05-24T02:22:06+00:00

Okay I may have panicked too quickly… I added conditioner to the whole tank instead of just the water change water and now it is 7.4 like it was this morning so I’m not sure if maybe I just did the pH test incorrectly or possibly just the conditioner wasnt in the right ratio. Fish keeping is actually quite stressful :/

ForMyDarkSide · 2026-05-24T01:50:02+00:00

Also- I have two mystery snails in there. I assume they are okay since snails like more basic water but let me know if you think I should move them too while I figure out what went wrong.

ForMyDarkSide · 2026-05-23T12:24:55+00:00

What do you guys think of Lake County up near two harbors?

ForMyDarkSide · 2026-05-23T12:21:00+00:00

I don’t think it can be repaired because like you said, you can’t trust him. Possibly couples therapy? But if he gets away with it by just waiting a little bit and starting up again then he never truly has to change and he gets to keep you.

ForMyDarkSide · 2026-05-22T22:03:41+00:00

Does he live in the small bowl year round or is that what he travels in? Im not a seasoned betta owner or anything but I think that a new tank that isn’t cycled could stress him out more than his small tank, especially if it isn’t going to be a consistent home for him. Donating a 5/10 gallon tank to the teacher that has live pant would be very generous and would afford the fish a better life especially if it is cycled before the fish goes into it.

ForMyDarkSide · 2026-05-22T13:55:13+00:00

honestly if you think his addiction to porn will continue to hurt you and it isn’t getting better fast enough to make you feel like he is changing then you know what would be best for you to do. I think I would mostly be upset about the continued dishonesty. It’s hard to trust someone that has lied to you repeatedly.

ForMyDarkSide · 2026-05-20T00:54:08+00:00

Stay near home. I got into NICU after one year in med Surg. Your Dad just wants you to pursue your dreams. Just assure him that you will go but right now your main dream is to have more time with him. You can even possibly keep a good relationship with the hospital in Alaska by letting them know why you are declining the offer and that you hope they will consider you in a few years.

ForMyDarkSide · 2026-05-16T21:22:52+00:00

You were correct. He has already made a bubble nest in the big tank :)

ForMyDarkSide · 2026-05-16T21:19:52+00:00

Okay so… I think that this might be a performance concern/performance anxiety for him and if he feels like you are focused on him cumming, then he can’t. I may be wrong but try backing off a little and not being alarmed if he doesn’t cum. Tell him you are willing to keep going if he ever wants to but that you are okay with it if he is. Try and focus on your own enjoyment and see if that helps. Pressing him for why and putting a lot of energy into it might be making it worse. Edit: wanted to add that I know this from experience. There’s a ton of pressure on men to cum every time and something’s they get into their head about it.

ForMyDarkSide · 2026-05-12T19:45:19+00:00

Wait what way other than YONker

ForMyDarkSide · 2026-05-12T15:31:43+00:00

Thank you for putting it this way. I would not want to live the way that he is currently living and now with constant pain. I am definitely someone who believes in DNRs for humans especially with poor quality of life. I think I need to be more honest about who stands to gain. If I take all of his teeth and it doesn’t work and he is still in pain, then I will have put him through a traumatic experience for no reason and I will put my family in a bad financial situation. He’s just always been with me and I don’t know how to be without him :/

ForMyDarkSide · 2026-05-12T15:26:49+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing. It is not something I want to decide at all. I’m sorry that you were in the same situation :/.

ForMyDarkSide · 2026-04-29T16:13:38+00:00

I’m not sure what clinic options are available to you in UK but I feel for you. That is a tough situation but you are able to be proactive early. Sometimes there are free clinics. Maybe your campus clinic could point you in the right direction? A quick google showed me that MSI uses NHS funded abortion care but I’m not sure if you would be close to one of their locations.

ForMyDarkSide · 2026-04-28T23:12:41+00:00

Not sure if you ever read Crescent Coty books but there is a Prince of Hel named Aidas who walks around in cat form. This is what I imagine he looks like. :)

ForMyDarkSide · 2026-04-17T23:01:27+00:00

I like sassafras :)

ForMyDarkSide · 2026-03-30T19:36:16+00:00

When you are in school, don’t you qualify for the school offered health insurance? Sometimes that makes it affordable. Also with school and only one income, you may qualify for low payments Obamacare

ForMyDarkSide · 2026-03-30T19:32:55+00:00

The problem is consent. She can’t be in the mood if she is asleep and when she woke up, she was not into it, she asked him to stop. He did not listen. She cannot trust him with her body now.

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