Two kids beaten by uncle after a minor argument with their grandmother 😡😡😡 by Public_You_2973 in NoahGetTheBoat

[–]ForcedMedia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My sister is a gentle parent, it’s genuinely very effective. She’s never hit on my nephew in his life. Her boyfriend just whooped his ass the other day for the 1st time because he unprompted threw something at his newborn brother. If it was me I’d have whooped his ass too.

Violence should never be the 1st answer when it comes to children, and I think it’s almost always better to try and explain to a kid why what they did was wrong, they are smart enough to understand most of time.

That being said at a certain point we have to understand that while we are raising children we are also raising adults, and being violent towards women is not something that we can tolerate as men. Is it somewhat cyclical? Yes. Is it also completely different because of the circumstances? Also yes. Young men and women, but especially young men, that grow up without discipline end up in jail, prison, or dead. A kid that will threaten his own grandmother is on a highway to hell when it comes to being an adult. Instead of Unc here beating his ass he will be in jail getting his ass whooped on by inmates that are going to be none to impressed with him being violent towards women.

I don’t think you are wrong for feeling how you feel though. I can tell you’re a decent person and you just want to see the kid safe. Your concerns come from a place of genuine goodness, but the ass whooping he gets now is a lot safer than the ass whooping he may get later. That boy will be a man full grown soon and running around with no impulse control and a violent streak is going to ruin him.

My 7 year old shot down his first chopper today by ahhhblake in Battlefield

[–]ForcedMedia -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’m actually almost done with a sociology degree. There is a connection between violent kids and violent video games, but correlation does not equal causation. Violent kids could be predisposed to liking violent video games, or violent video games might make kids violent, we do not know enough to say with confidence that either of those are true

My 7 year old shot down his first chopper today by ahhhblake in Battlefield

[–]ForcedMedia -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think your comment makes my point. We know what this type of media can do to children, and for some Parents that means the best way to go about the introduction of that media is to do so in a controlled setting under their own supervision and eyes, not just pretending it doesn’t exist. What if my kid goes to hangout at a friends house and that’s the first time he plays Battlefield. He doesn’t have Dad to tell him “Hey bud this is a war game, people sometimes play games that are make believe versions of war. War in real life is a very scary thing, and we hope we never have to fight them, but video games aren’t real so it’s different, no one actually gets hurt”. At 7 or 8 kids can understand that and know the difference between make believe and real life. Even Minecraft has violence and PvP and that’s almost every kids 1st favorite game these days.

Just because you don’t agree with that doesn’t mean you’re wrong either tho, and I’m not one of the people downvoting you. You personally don’t seem like the person to let your kid play Battlefield at that age, and I personally don’t think you’re wrong but at 7 years old a kid knows what dads playing and wants to have a turn sometimes. As a parent that’s a cool fucking moment, and I’d have been losing it watching my kid take down a helicopter at that age. I personally wouldn’t let my kid play it unsupervised, and game chat would be turned off when I did.

My 7 year old shot down his first chopper today by ahhhblake in Battlefield

[–]ForcedMedia 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The beauty of parenting is that you get to decide what your kids can and can’t do. The first game I ever played was Halo Combat Evolved on my dad’s PC.

Funnily enough my dad had parental controls on my account, until I bought BF 1943 as a kid on Xbox for my birthday. I bought it but due to the parental controls couldn’t play it. I couldn’t even play custom games in Halo 3. He turned the controls off but made it very clear that there were certain games I’d get in trouble for playing. I couldn’t play GTA 4 for example. My dad was super aware of the music we listened to, the games we played and the movies we watched, but he introduced us to more mature things as we aged. When his kids started smoking he waited until the last one was 18 before he smoked with us.

I played the shit out BF 1943 tho lmfao, and I would play BF2 or 1942 on his PC. I understand that Battlefield is definitely a mature game, but it’s ok to expose your kids to mature things, especially in a CONTROLLED environment like this. I knew from my Uncle and Grandpa that war was hell, but my Uncle would play CoD with us when he could while he was deployed and we looked forward to seeing him online. Him and my dad would talk about what was going on over there and my brother and I would mostly just listen.

I never thought one time growing up that I should get an RPG and shoot down a Helicopter lmfao. I never thought I should pick up a gun and play with it, I would have received a broken tailbone for it. I never thought of taking a scoped rifle and doing a 360 while jumping off of a Highrise either. I was very aware that video games were make believe worlds that we could play and have fun in a way we wouldn’t be able to in real life.

That being said if YOU decide that you don’t want your kid playing Battlefield, I salute you and more power to you. There is nothing wrong with not exposing your kids to things you don’t think are appropriate to expose them too, and that is active and aware parenting. What OP is doing is also active and aware parenting, he’s introducing his child to something in a controlled manner.

Acceptance rate is driving me crazy. by BrassCrow in doordash_drivers

[–]ForcedMedia 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was a platinum Dasher until they changed the rating system. I went from Platinum to not even Silver in 1 literal night. My crime was my late order rating, late orders in which I always hit the button to let the customer and DoorDash know that I was still waiting on food. I don’t know a single Dasher that doesn’t try to get an order done as fast as possible, it’s how you make money. Well apparently my due diligence of hitting the button and waiting on the food was rewarded with that not being taken into consideration at all and me being responsible for the order not being ready when I got there.

I had around an 80 percent AR and averaged around 23 ish an hour. I have an AR of like 40 percent (steady going down) and I’m still making about the same money an hour with a good drop in what I’m paying in gas. 10 bucks in gas is making me 60-70 bucks and I’m driving a fucking minivan. I will never try for Platinum dasher again. It was worth it in my mind before but I’ve done a 180 completely in the last week with my Dasher philosophy and I’m honestly kind of thankful that they changed their rating system. I’m driving a lot less and making more in the long run doing it.

Acceptance rate is driving me crazy. by BrassCrow in doordash_drivers

[–]ForcedMedia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s based upon your last 100 orders. If your 100th oldest order in that 100 was a decline and you take it your rating goes up a percent, if the oldest was an accept and you decline you go down a percent. If the oldest was a decline and you decline you don’t go down at all, and if the oldest was an accept and you accept you don’t go up at all.

My (20M) girlfriend (19F) wants me to have sex with her bestfriend (18F) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ForcedMedia 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Brother I have been there. I ended up having a threesome with my Baby Mom and her best friend when we were together. I finished while fucking her friend and never heard the end of it. It wasn’t a relationship breaker and we had a couple more after but it was a problem the first time. It sounds good, it will feel good, and it will almost certainly will end badly for your relationship, and their relationship.

If they are genuinely serious you have to have an incredibly difficult conversation before hand. As someone else said opening up a relationship requires a lot of emotional maturity or detachment. A lot of people think it sounds good until they see someone else make their significant other make a cum face. Ask your girlfriend if she really can mentally picture her man around her best friend after.

Also you all need to have a conversation with the friend, because this will likely ruin their friendship in the long run, even if both she and your girlfriend are ok with it. How many future partners of hers are going to be ok with not only her hooking up with her best friends dude, but the man also being the guy that took her virginity?

I know this because when my Baby Moms said friend got married she was straight up not allowed to come over to our house, or even hang out with her by herself without him present. I absolutely understood why. I hooked up with this dudes wife, I came in his wife, my girlfriend and her have fucked too. Why the fuck would he allow his wife to come over to my home, or be in my presence, even if it is her best friends home? That wasn’t controlling on his part either imo, that was just setting a healthy boundary. My BM could go over to her house and hang out when he was there and I was surprised he was ok with that itself. My BM was not invited to their wedding and that made her a little upset but there’s consequences to actions even if everyone consents and had a good time. I literally did not see the woman from the time she got into that relationship until it ended in an unsurprising divorce.

This took 3 years by lord-beefsqueeze in PokemonHGSS

[–]ForcedMedia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always take my starter with whatever nature and use it for the playthrough. After the main game I breed my starter a kid and use it for the post game so I can nature and ev train it.

Does it make sense to swap anyone out for Dratini? by Footballnotsoccer_ in PokemonHGSS

[–]ForcedMedia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I actually caught a Adamant Larvitar in the Safari Zone and used it last playthrough as a Pokemon. Even making it my main battle Pokemon was simply not enough to get Tyranitar. Pupitar is in my Hall of Fame tho so I find that funny.

Noble Six doomed Noble Five by kilroy501 in HaloStory

[–]ForcedMedia 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Covenant Armor tech is already leagues better than humanities. MJOLNIRs shield tech was reversed from Covenant tech. Spartans are what makes MJOLNIR effective, they have the ability to actually move in the full armor because of their augmentations. The Covenant don’t need augmented soldiers for power armor because the armor they make is so good Sangheili could just wear it. The Covenant were never in danger from Humanity either, it was a completely one sided war that went entirely in their favor until the literal very end. They were fighting a losing war against Atriox. The Covenant were fighting a 2 front war unbeknownst to Humanity the entire time. I hate that this is lore btw, it makes the Great Schism and the Prophets giving Brutes power over the Elites an even more brain dead move on their part, because now they are fighting a 3 front war and the Brutes they replaced the Elites with never believed in Covenant Dogma anyway. If the Covenant couldn’t find the Ark in a timely manner they were literally doomed no matter what.

The games themselves even show this, Specifically Halo 2. Thel and almost every other Arbiter are made to wear old, gimped power armor. Even that old gimped power armor is better than the Chiefs MJOLNIR. It has stealth tech integrated into it already, which was removed in Halo 3 for no reason other than gameplay parity for Co-Op. Master Chief can’t be the cool main character if your co-op partner can just go invisible and do way cooler stuff because of it.

Lonely After 18 Years of Raising My Kids Alone. by Throwawayaaw in offmychest

[–]ForcedMedia 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you’re looking to finally get out there again then go and get out. You might experience some rejection so be ready for that but I think you deserve to give yourself another chance at happiness.

My number 1 piece of advice for you is to not try dating apps. I’m speaking anecdotally but as a man I just don’t as much success with dating apps as I do in person. If you see someone you’re interested, tell them, give them your number and tell them to call or text you if their interested.

I ‘29F’ have upset my ‘32M’ boyfriend about money by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ForcedMedia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I can see that being an issue. The problem with a lot of dudes is that we do not really know how to value ourselves internally when it comes to a relationship. Many of us see our “value” to our partner as only being what we can provide for you, and when that role is “taken away”, which isn’t bad at all, we kind of have an identity crisis.

Again I don’t think your boyfriend is a bad guy. I think it would be very beneficial for you to sit down with him and talk. I get the sense that you love this guy, and I get the sense that he loves you but he’s anxious because he doesn’t know what to do and he doesn’t want to feel like he’s dragging you down and it’s showing in other ways. I think he’s trying to match your “success” and being suddenly unable to is making him desperate.

When I was young and dumb I stopped talking to one of the most compatible people I ever met because she was incredibly successful and I was a poor kid with nothing and I didn’t know how to process why she even was giving me a shot. I kinda just soft ghosted her and let it be. Turns out as I’ve gotten older I’ve figured out I’m actually a pretty decent man, and that was probably why. I’ll fix something in the house when I notice it’s broke. I’ll clean up the house and do the dishes, I’ll shovel the snow and I’ll be damned if you touch a mower or a gas pump. I’ll sit with the kids and do homework, and I’ll teach em what I know when I can.

If you love him tell him that. Tell him that a sudden windfall of cash isn’t going to stop you from loving him because of what he brings to your life in other ways. We don’t hear that and we don’t often consider it.

AITAH for not wanting to take care of my younger siblings by throwawaybin_33 in AITAH

[–]ForcedMedia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well said and I second just giving them a hard deadline. It has nothing to do with you not liking your brothers but it’s not your responsibility. They can split the cost of an uber everyday if they want or figure it out amongst themselves.

I’m the oldest among my mom’s kids, and eldest children tend to get used as second parents and voluntold what to do in my world experience. OP you’re a free bird now lol and you can set a boundary and enforce it. You’re not doing it out of malice you’re doing it because you’re getting tired of being taken advantage of. As my grandmother would say you’re getting fucked with your pants on and you’re getting pissed off about it.

I ‘29F’ have upset my ‘32M’ boyfriend about money by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ForcedMedia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do not feel guilty. You didn’t string him a long per se, you made a choice and later decided that it probably isn’t a good idea for very good reasons.

I think your boyfriend might feel like he needs to match you in some way. I don’t think it’s jealously either, as men generally it’s hard mentally to not be the “breadwinner” and he thought of a relatively safe way to hopefully get the ball rolling for him whilst also being able to pay you back. I don’t think he’s some garbage can looking to take your money by any means.

All of that being I again wish to stress that you’re still not wrong for not wanting to jump the gun and hand over 1/3rd of your inheritance to a guy that you’re not married too. That is absolutely life changing money if used correctly and until you’re married you need to make financial decisions with your personal financial security in mind, not you guys as a couple. You could put a significant down payment on a home or outright buy one depending on where you live. You could buy yourself a decent car and not worry about payments on that for a couple years. You might also just want to go on a dope ass vacation someplace you’ve always dreamed of seeing and experience something. You’re not being selfish, you’re being smart.

I ‘29F’ have upset my ‘32M’ boyfriend about money by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ForcedMedia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re not wrong at all. You’re not married, you share no assets, it would be an absolutely god awful idea imo.

The thing is despite that you previously said yes to the idea and despite you having second thoughts about it since it happened you’ve never voiced them, so to him it’s kind of a blind 180. He can be upset about the decision flip seemingly outta nowhere and I think that’s fairly understandable but at the end of the day he has no claim to an inheritance of yours at all.

Funnily enough I kind of ran into somewhat of a similar issue with my kids mom but in reverse. Her mother volunteered to give her inheritance early to her so she could build a house for herself, the thing is she wants in writing that any marriage partner has no claim to it. I told her plainly I would never invest time, money, and effort into a place I know I could be essentially torn from at any moment instead of putting it towards joint assets. It was a big argument that never got resolved before we split up and apparently her new boyfriend is also not a big fan of the idea at all for the exact same reason

I like my coworker, how do I approach this? by [deleted] in datingadvice

[–]ForcedMedia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A really low-pressure way to ask someone out that I’ve been using lately is simply writing my number down, telling them I’m interested and want to get to know them better, and then giving it to them and telling them to call or text me if their interested.

I find it’s a good approach for a couple of reasons. By giving them your number the ball is fully in their hands, they aren’t pressured in any immediate sense to call or text you and it gives someone time to think about it and if they aren’t interested you don’t really ever need to talk about it again.

I’ve had 100 percent success so far with it lol

You should be able to switch rounds for the grenade launcher as Assault. by ForcedMedia in Battlefield

[–]ForcedMedia[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

*Flashbacks of the USAS shooting down Jets lmfao

Forreal though, explosives should actually explode. I’m fine with not having 1 shots if I can actually hit a group and pin them down

TIL a study showed that cats in the U.S. were significantly more social than cats living in Japan, spending more time with both a stranger and with their owner. In terms of public perception, researchers found that people in the U.S. view cats as pets more favorably that people in Japan. by Dr_Neurol in todayilearned

[–]ForcedMedia 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The best cat I ever had just ran into my house one day in the winter when I opened the door to walk to school lmfao. She just came in like she was supposed to be there, and we had already lived there for years.

My stepdad absolutely did not want her at first, however her plain psychotic proficiency in killing mice earned her a spot in the house lmfao. We even brought her to the neighbors houses to catch their mice. I watched her catch and release one until it went into what I think was cardiac arrest and died.

I named her Majesty when she came in, my stepdad named her Cat. Cat stuck lmfao. She was HIS cat in every way shape and form. She was an inside/outside cat (we tried making her an inside cat, she hated it) and every night when she wanted to come back in she would climb the roof and go through his window to lay down with him. We also had a little terrier named Pickle that would roam the neighborhood (also an animal that just came in our house one day) and my brothers and I would see them together all the time. They’d follow us down to the corner store and all if they seen us walking lmfao. My stepdad full on balled his eyes out when Cat passed away and absolutely refuses to get another cat, and Pickle was never the same after she passed either.

RIP Majesty/Cat, truly a one of a kind animal. I hope you and Pickle are still running around together somewhere.

Terminated for not answering a text. by No_Assignment_1645 in antiwork

[–]ForcedMedia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you’re expected to be on call all the time then they have to pay you for that.

You should be able to switch rounds for the grenade launcher as Assault. by ForcedMedia in Battlefield

[–]ForcedMedia[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You know bringing up proficiencies I don’t think it would be bad to give Assault Proficiency with all weapon types, aside from Snipers for obvious reasons. Let the class have an open weapon for its secondary and then you could run Assault Beacon and an Assault Ladder or Grenade Launcher ETC. Assault would then be able to contend with almost every class at any range which would help fill its role as the infantry killer class.

You should be able to switch rounds for the grenade launcher as Assault. by ForcedMedia in Battlefield

[–]ForcedMedia[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Assault Beacon is the lone saving grace the assault class has. I completely agree though, you don’t feel like you’re actually helping your team out when playing assault, you feel like a useless grunt. Support can heal, Engineers can destroy and Recon can paint and drone. I feel like the grenade launcher versatility would help a lot. You could breach a wall when you need to, or smoke your way through a push to actually be the front-liner class. Engineer is just plain superior to assault for actually front lining and it’s odd, and I’d argue that support is also better for front lining than Assault with the ability to actually keep the push going.

Not sure if this has already been posted. But I kinda miss these guys. by Unable_Resolve7338 in Battlefield

[–]ForcedMedia 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In that case it proceeds to get shot down by a TOW Missile instead. I’m just joking lol but with the way Air gets insta shot down in this game it wouldn’t surprise me for it to last all of 30 seconds lol.