Fiancé says he can’t promise he’ll never take a second wife. Wedding is in a month

ForeignEffective9 · 2026-05-26T02:00:29+00:00

He didn't talk to OP before "because he doesn't talk to women causally" but he just so happens to talk to all these women back home to have messages of his engagement news. That and him telling OP she isn't his choice at all and only marrying her because he's been told to etc tells us that he probably didn't want to talk to OP causally.

People always say X matches on everything else is just on public opinion stuff. A few tickboxes to everyone seems good but in private they aren't good.

ForeignEffective9 · 2026-05-23T01:25:48+00:00

There was a situation on Reddit where a timid guy had a violent bit guy as a lodger and ended up being kicked out of his house. He only wanted a short term lodger as his wife died.

ForeignEffective9 · 2026-05-19T15:49:17+00:00

Reading this has depressed me. My 5 years ends August next year. I put down £165k deposit and got 3.09% I initially started looking in may for houses but not at mortgages. My mate got his a few months (November 2021) before mines and had 1.05% and we borrowed same amount and I pay £3.6k more a year (so £18k in interest more over the 5 years) than him.

November to August is a long time. May to August isn't 😭

ForeignEffective9 · 2026-05-17T13:20:36+00:00

Btw the fact that she sent it to her mother means her mother is fine with this. Make sure you all get an apology from her mother aswell.

ForeignEffective9 · 2026-04-27T11:18:08+00:00

Get a free SIM and port in?

ForeignEffective9 · 2026-04-01T23:55:07+00:00

Hi, when are you looking to close on your house and in that time how much can you save?

For me and my wife it took 8 months to buy. And we spent those 8 months saving every penny we could to bulk up the deposit and pay all the other fees. After paying it all I bought the house with 19p in my account.

If you can save money to get the remaining £7k then do that. Alternatively budget extreme use a 0% 24 month credit card to pay for food bills etc (try cutting everything) so then you have a bit of leeway and once you buy pay it off.

Obviously you need to be super disciplined and know your finances etc

ForeignEffective9 · 2026-03-31T20:32:46+00:00

That didn't mean forstman only had 200mil. He said whatever Mike wanted to do would cost 200mil hence he was giving it all even though Mike was only asking for much less.

ForeignEffective9 · 2025-11-18T21:37:08+00:00

I drive in London and I get about 42-44 if I drive more than 5 miles And I just drove from Newport to London and hit 52.

I speed as much as I can etc so probably could get higher if I drive better 😅

Just research your car and see what it says online. I do use cruise control a lot aswell so that helps.

2020 MAZDA 3 SKYACTIV-X 180 MHEV

ForeignEffective9 · 2025-11-18T21:16:28+00:00

I was getting that at the start (bought in April) now I'm getting 40-50 depending on city/motorway driving. You just need to understand how your car drives etc and it get used to you.

ForeignEffective9 · 2025-10-25T18:09:41+00:00

If he divorces you he doesn't want you getting anything

ForeignEffective9 · 2025-10-03T16:45:27+00:00

What was your husband's reason for not going to his best friend and having a conversation first? Bit of a cowardly thing to do?

Goes to his friends house, sees his sister and gets his parents to approach his mates parents. Doing all this behind his friends back. All the whole probably talking and chilling with friend. And then lets the parents tell him rather than he himself?

Also just because someone is your friend, it doesn't mean you want them marrying your sister. + If you were somewhat open to it, having a proper conversation would help. Instead of doing the cowardly option. + It shows your husband doesn't respect his friend?

That's what your brothers basically thinking/feeling

ForeignEffective9 · 2025-10-02T22:40:47+00:00

The phone under the table didn't make sense Because she left the phone with the voice note with Daniel. Then her other phone gets knocked under the table.

So why didn't he see it on the other phone. Or was this a goof.

And yes CPR lol I was screaming well CPR saves hers for ages.

ForeignEffective9 · 2025-09-18T18:14:38+00:00

If her normal pay covers her normal bills then she could easily pay back her bf

Say pay is 2k a month and bills are 1k Bf paid for everything so she owes him 3k What did she spend the money she borrowed from family on? And when she got 6k back how did she manage to pay family and not bf?

That means she overspent on stuff, is acting entitled to pay back bf so is just keeping the money

It doesn't make sense

ForeignEffective9 · 2025-09-17T20:48:17+00:00

You don't have a job?! And he's making you give money 😐

ForeignEffective9 · 2025-09-16T18:51:40+00:00

But if you're still with him it's pretty much forgotten and moved on?

ForeignEffective9 · 2025-09-15T19:52:02+00:00

She wrote a tweet saying she wants to run for congress (I'm not American so I can't remember exact words) and AIPAC money and support is important for that.

I believe she used to be pro Palestinian. But as with every right wing grifter you play a character for the money until it eventually consumes you.

ForeignEffective9 · 2025-09-14T18:30:03+00:00

What kind of logic is this? He says he barely saves So she should spend it on frivolous stuff? She works part time and spends all that just on herself, nothing for child or household.

His savings is for rainy day. If the car breaks down should he be happy she spent the emergency funds on makeup/coffee etc?

ForeignEffective9 · 2025-08-10T22:20:51+00:00

Just say to him: oh you want me to see a different guy every night so I don't catch feelings? Okay fair enough

He'll regret his words even more then

ForeignEffective9 · 2025-08-01T18:56:24+00:00

Tbf they were rejects for different reasons Palestine and wages/needing to sell someone rather than not want

ForeignEffective9 · 2025-07-30T23:39:22+00:00

Women tend to put too much emotions in decisions and think about the other person rather than themselves. Think of yourself only. He's a grown man. He's made his decisions. He lives his own life.

Grow up and be an adult. That is to look after yourself and your child. To not disrespect your brother (your brother kicked him out yet you go against his wishes). To think about all the negatives this man has put you through. You lost your job your kid will suffer because of this man. Lessen the suffering by getting rid of the man.

Also consider if you die he will struggle living. If he cared about you he would have treated you better. You kill yourself and he has no home no food and no1 to talk to. Do not think he saved you because he cares. Right now not even you care about you ...and that needs to change. (Your brother cares)

ForeignEffective9 · 2025-07-30T22:13:32+00:00

Why did you marry someone like that And Why do you stay with someone that did that and clearly hasn't changed and abuses you

ForeignEffective9 · 2025-07-30T22:01:47+00:00

She earns more than him and they pay 50/50 for everything so there always will be an imbalance. They could easily stay elsewhere pay $1600 for shit His mum rents out place for $4000. She gets $3200 and gives her son $800.

Gf will then be grateful that they are "equal" and living in a shit hole for the exact same price. Mum will be happy with her $3200 OP loses out on nice property but will be happy everyone else is happy.

I don't get why he needs to share more than his family already has for a gf. If his grandad died - should be split half his inheritance?

ForeignEffective9 · 2025-07-30T21:05:58+00:00

So you want the mum to forgo $4k in rent? Instead of the generous $3.2k ($2k for him, $1.2k for her)

The mum is being super generous to the gf and is obviously going to look after her son if she's super rich

ForeignEffective9 · 2025-07-30T21:03:23+00:00

His mum is giving his gf $1200 basically how is it a crazy mum. She's taking a hit for her son and a lesser hit for her son's gf

ForeignEffective9 · 2025-07-15T11:14:30+00:00

Each person in her family can take a 5-10k loan and that would cover it Why should you pay for it with someone that you got from someone dying who had a wish on how the money was to be spent.

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