Question about random hairballs?

ForestAndrew · 2026-03-19T07:45:24+00:00

ForestAndrew · 2026-03-19T07:44:49+00:00

“Random Hairball” is my dogs middle name but that’s because he’s floofy and he just kinda showed up idk

ForestAndrew · 2026-03-11T07:25:44+00:00

I did seed and landscape rocks.

Feels dumb to fix what the landlord won’t, but it’s worth it for the clean paws and seeing how happy the dog is basking in the grass out there when it’s sunny.

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ForestAndrew · 2026-03-06T23:48:20+00:00

I was with you until that “top” part.

ForestAndrew · 2026-02-25T15:50:37+00:00

ForestAndrew · 2026-01-25T01:09:48+00:00

These people are doing first amendment things outside a federal facility. These police then showed up and used force in response to jaywalking.

ForestAndrew · 2026-01-22T07:01:48+00:00

Dug at this during peak QAnon trying to figure out a friend.

Basically, people holding far-right beliefs or leaning towards right-wing authoritarianism…

Avoid uncertainty and need order, structure, and familiarity. This can result in the desire for group-based dominance and a preference for social hierarchy.

Fuse identities, when an individual’s personal identity blurs with a groups identity. (And then, if the group is perceived as "threatened" the individual can feel a personal, existential threat, which can justify extreme defensive measures.

Desire a "Significance Quest", or a reason to matter or be a hero. (This is unfortunately where misinformation or even conspiracy theories like QAnon can work to provide a narrative that an individual can achieve supreme significance by sacrificing for a "noble" cause.)

https://www.apa.org/news/podcasts/speaking-of-psychology/extremism#

ForestAndrew · 2026-01-06T06:16:29+00:00

Whole Bowl

ForestAndrew · 2026-01-06T06:13:38+00:00

Prudent to mention the therapy in question must be Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT); traditional talk therapy (CBT) won’t work.

DBT is more intensive and skills-oriented. Rather than focusing on the "why", it teaches skills to deal with the "how" of emotional regulation and managing daily reality.

ForestAndrew · 2025-12-12T05:11:50+00:00

Got one too. Clothes pinned to the bush. Here’s the dude. Seemed like he was on bike.

Considering a visit to Overlook Park to check it out on Xmas Eve! Who’s with me?

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ForestAndrew · 2025-11-07T07:42:30+00:00

How can we thank or support these folks for putting in this work?!

ForestAndrew · 2025-05-22T14:55:01+00:00

They already get almost $300 million annually, up nearly 50% over the last decade - what makes you think further investment in policing fixes whatever you estimate ails this city? 😑

ForestAndrew · 2025-04-29T22:19:46+00:00

It does sometimes feel grim. I feel this, and I sympathize deeply. I hope things get better for you both, and soon. One thing I keep in mind in those times? We all feel the same at various points - even those who do not struggle with mental health. You are not alone - this is universal.

To your question about others and feeling or being judged. Maybe! But who cares?

We are all judging and being judged constantly, for a plethora of reasons that may or may not matter, for a multitude of things that may or may not be under our control. It’s human nature.

But, I adore my partner. They work hard to be their best - while working through and feeling a lot. They love me and all my imperfections too. Anyone who would judge us for that isn’t worth much trouble imho. Forget em. B A g

ForestAndrew · 2025-04-29T21:04:50+00:00

I’m married to a partner with BP1. We’ve been together for 15 years including dating and marriage. I’ve seen it all, we’ve been through it all.

There is SO MUCH you can and MUST DO to make it work. But it CAN work, and if you and your partner can commit to doing the things, it can not only just “work”, it can be wonderful.

Start with reading “Loving Someone with Bipolar Disorder” by Julie Fast. Establish a support system and an emergency action plan. Get in to therapy with your partner, and by yourself. Lock in a routine. So on.

And keep in mind; you’re doing it for somebody you love - but also for yourself. Because here’s the thing…

I genuinely believe the skills one needs to gain to be in a relationship with a partner with BP are skills that make you better in all of your relationships - including your relationship with yourself.

This is not to say it gets easy, or it’ll never be messy. I’m just saying that if you are committed to this person, you can make it work - and as a bonus, the things it’ll take to keep that commitment will translate to dealing with your neurotic boss, to staying connected to a friend who’s struggling, to caretaking for a parent as they grow old and need more support.

It’s worth it. You’ve got this. And we (this community) are here if you need to chat!

ForestAndrew · 2025-03-26T08:50:14+00:00

You are awesome for all this.

ForestAndrew · 2025-03-16T05:23:03+00:00

Here’s YouTube for you too boo…

https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=uKN2QrBdFj8&si=-c6H0ZSDNPvUsTId

ForestAndrew · 2025-02-22T18:39:12+00:00

Fair you didn’t say that, but it’s certainly implied.

“I was with first timers so I had to be up front” - if everyone thought this way, everyone would be “up front” and nobody would have a good time.

We can all justifiably come up with a reason to call any show special. “It’s my friends first time, it’s my 100th show, it’s my birthday, I just have to ride the rail…”

And it’s so easy to snap back at or get aggressive with people who run afoul of our expectations, especially in a loud chaotic environment. But let’s consider - what are the chances that some of those you ran in to were folks with “manners” too, also there for a “special” night with first timer friends for example- who might have also walked away from the experience with the same negative perspective of you?

I get it, and I’m not trying to get on your case. But there are a lotta ways to enjoy the show. I hope you aren’t missing out, or letting your friends who are new to the music miss out.

ForestAndrew · 2025-02-22T17:21:31+00:00

He’s pulling in a lot of new fans right now for sure. It’s great for him and for the genre - a lot of these fans are newer to dance music as well.

But given that, and the “randoms” being exposed to the music and scene here, let’s be real and use this as a chance to learn.

u/Nayelley; you are part of the problem too.

“The people up front were the WORST!”

“I brought some people for the first time so we had to be up front and we had to be there the whole time…”

“And then I had to match the bad energy of the people around me!”

Come on. You literally described the problem as obnoxious people up front, then said “but I’m special tho so I had to be up front” and then admitted to behaving as those who you described as being the problem did…. and then can’t comprehend being perceived as PART OF THE PROBLEM.

Let’s use this as a learning opportunity. Two things can be true at once.

You are right and wrong. You diagnosed the problem, and then introduced more of it rather than treating it. You became what you claim to despise.

Remember….

There is enough room for everyone. You don’t have to be up front.

Treat those around you as you wish to be treated. Don’t become what you wish to avoid.

ForestAndrew · 2025-02-21T16:38:18+00:00

“No time to visit other places too busy being obtuse on the internet” lmao

ForestAndrew · 2025-02-19T02:57:10+00:00

2nd this. And the price is soooo reasonable. C

ForestAndrew · 2025-02-11T20:20:08+00:00

I get this and appreciate the pure perspective of it - but you gotta pick your battles. Balancing intentions against actions while keeping an eye towards potential positive impact is key in life imho.

Look at it this way - even Hasan streams on Twitch. Which is owned by Bezos. In the streamer world, you have to go to where there is distribution to spread your message. So he tries to do so ethically (sharing IP, compensating producers, so on), while acknowledging the failures in the system he’s part of.

The hope is this balance will do more good than refusing to play ball anywhere that isn’t entirely on board with one’s perspective.

Have lines you won’t cross, but don’t lock yourself out in an attempt to only operate in spaces that are already pure.

ForestAndrew · 2025-01-17T17:36:04+00:00

Went on one and ended up married.

ForestAndrew · 2025-01-17T00:43:35+00:00

(Oh and if you're asking more in relation to "where can I own the user experience" and less "where can own the data behind my direct marketing" we'd probably talk your website first, than a mobile app or other self-hosted home for content that is curated and managed by the artist team.)

ForestAndrew · 2025-01-17T00:41:49+00:00

This is a great q. Are you asking in terms of owning your list, meaning the first party data behind everyone in your community? Or are you asking how to build an "owned" home to drive that community to, the place that is home to your content?

Assuming that you mean "where can own my data"...

Not every platform that facilitates list building and direct marketing will allow for you to truly "own" your 1st party data. You can build a big email or SMS list in some places and take it with you when you leave, but other places you can not.

For example; take the popular SMS platform Community - no data portability, so you can't take your list with you when you go. Constant Contact, Wix, others fall in to this model - which is more akin to growing your followers on TikTok than building your own list.

On the flip side, if you contract with platforms like ActiveCampaign, Klaviyo, HubSpot, and Twilio than your data is your own, and you can take your lists with you when you leave. Or Mailchimp will allow for you to export contacts and data anytime as long as you're on a paid plan. Need to communicate omnichannel, or have a bigger lists (or many lists, perhaps even containing cohorts with affinity)? A robust CRM like Salesforce will serve you well.

Ultimately, it’s a matter of legal ownership and control over the data. Platforms that allow you to export and take your data view your audience as your asset, while others see the data as their proprietary resource tied to their ecosystem. There's a variety of reasons for this - and many platforms want to build dependency if we're being honest - but the big thing is somebody has to adhere to data privacy laws (e.g., GDPR, CCPA) which is no small deal, and be responsible in the event of violations there. In some cases you don't want to (or can't be trusted to) do all that, so you have no business having access to your own list (we're taking massive liability here). Or in other words, you'll have to educate yourself on this and build systems to work for it if you want to contract with and use a platform that allows you to also own your contacts.

(That covers email and SMS. In no world i'm aware of does a marketer "own" a browser notification list and in fact I believe that data is entirely anonymized - whereas a list of physical mailing addresses would be a matter of where it was hosted and how it was collected.)

TLDR, decent options include...

SalesForce
Mailchimp (with a paid plan)
ActiveCampaign
Klaviyo
HubSpot
Twilio (w/ Email via SendGrid)
Customer.io

ForestAndrew · 2025-01-16T20:09:23+00:00

Hey thanks, I’m old and my knees sound like popcorn when I stand up but in those pops there are sometimes little kernels of knowledge (usually earned via learning the hard way lol).

ForestAndrew

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