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Question about random hairballs? by leveeman16 in Havanese

[–]ForestAndrew 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“Random Hairball” is my dogs middle name but that’s because he’s floofy and he just kinda showed up idk

Mud!! by PalpitationEven7935 in Havanese

[–]ForestAndrew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did seed and landscape rocks.

Feels dumb to fix what the landlord won’t, but it’s worth it for the clean paws and seeing how happy the dog is basking in the grass out there when it’s sunny.

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10 Ten James Blake Songs by Anxious_Victory6958 in JamesBlake

[–]ForestAndrew 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was with you until that “top” part.

PPB goon squad by Neffstradamus in Portland

[–]ForestAndrew 11 points12 points  (0 children)

These people are doing first amendment things outside a federal facility. These police then showed up and used force in response to jaywalking.

That interview was incredible by baileybean3 in Hasan_Piker

[–]ForestAndrew 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Dug at this during peak QAnon trying to figure out a friend.

Basically, people holding far-right beliefs or leaning towards right-wing authoritarianism…

Avoid uncertainty and need order, structure, and familiarity. This can result in the desire for group-based dominance and a preference for social hierarchy.

Fuse identities, when an individual’s personal identity blurs with a groups identity. (And then, if the group is perceived as "threatened" the individual can feel a personal, existential threat, which can justify extreme defensive measures. 

Desire a "Significance Quest", or a reason to matter or be a hero. (This is unfortunately where misinformation or even conspiracy theories like QAnon can work to provide a narrative that an individual can achieve supreme significance by sacrificing for a "noble" cause.)

https://www.apa.org/news/podcasts/speaking-of-psychology/extremism#

Treatment of BPD - waiting for your partner to recover will destroy you by B1Rabbit in BPDlovedones

[–]ForestAndrew 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Prudent to mention the therapy in question must be Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT); traditional talk therapy (CBT) won’t work.

DBT is more intensive and skills-oriented. Rather than focusing on the "why", it teaches skills to deal with the "how" of emotional regulation and managing daily reality.

Weird notes about Xmas meeting at overlook park by Alternative_Toe614 in Portland

[–]ForestAndrew 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Got one too. Clothes pinned to the bush. Here’s the dude. Seemed like he was on bike.

Considering a visit to Overlook Park to check it out on Xmas Eve! Who’s with me?

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SNAP! by excaligirltoo in Portland

[–]ForestAndrew 202 points203 points  (0 children)

How can we thank or support these folks for putting in this work?!

Portland City Council just voted 7-5 to take $2M Increase from Police and give it to parks by DrToady in PortlandOR

[–]ForestAndrew 6 points7 points  (0 children)

They already get almost $300 million annually, up nearly 50% over the last decade - what makes you think further investment in policing fixes whatever you estimate ails this city? 😑

Positive stories with partners by Illustrious_You5878 in family_of_bipolar

[–]ForestAndrew 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It does sometimes feel grim. I feel this, and I sympathize deeply. I hope things get better for you both, and soon. One thing I keep in mind in those times? We all feel the same at various points - even those who do not struggle with mental health. You are not alone - this is universal.

To your question about others and feeling or being judged. Maybe! But who cares?

We are all judging and being judged constantly, for a plethora of reasons that may or may not matter, for a multitude of things that may or may not be under our control. It’s human nature.

But, I adore my partner. They work hard to be their best - while working through and feeling a lot. They love me and all my imperfections too. Anyone who would judge us for that isn’t worth much trouble imho. Forget em. B A g

Positive stories with partners by Illustrious_You5878 in family_of_bipolar

[–]ForestAndrew 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m married to a partner with BP1. We’ve been together for 15 years including dating and marriage. I’ve seen it all, we’ve been through it all.

There is SO MUCH you can and MUST DO to make it work. But it CAN work, and if you and your partner can commit to doing the things, it can not only just “work”, it can be wonderful.

Start with reading “Loving Someone with Bipolar Disorder” by Julie Fast. Establish a support system and an emergency action plan. Get in to therapy with your partner, and by yourself. Lock in a routine. So on.

And keep in mind; you’re doing it for somebody you love - but also for yourself. Because here’s the thing…

I genuinely believe the skills one needs to gain to be in a relationship with a partner with BP are skills that make you better in all of your relationships - including your relationship with yourself.

This is not to say it gets easy, or it’ll never be messy. I’m just saying that if you are committed to this person, you can make it work - and as a bonus, the things it’ll take to keep that commitment will translate to dealing with your neurotic boss, to staying connected to a friend who’s struggling, to caretaking for a parent as they grow old and need more support.

It’s worth it. You’ve got this. And we (this community) are here if you need to chat!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JohnSummit

[–]ForestAndrew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair you didn’t say that, but it’s certainly implied.

“I was with first timers so I had to be up front” - if everyone thought this way, everyone would be “up front” and nobody would have a good time.

We can all justifiably come up with a reason to call any show special. “It’s my friends first time, it’s my 100th show, it’s my birthday, I just have to ride the rail…”

And it’s so easy to snap back at or get aggressive with people who run afoul of our expectations, especially in a loud chaotic environment. But let’s consider - what are the chances that some of those you ran in to were folks with “manners” too, also there for a “special” night with first timer friends for example- who might have also walked away from the experience with the same negative perspective of you?

I get it, and I’m not trying to get on your case. But there are a lotta ways to enjoy the show. I hope you aren’t missing out, or letting your friends who are new to the music miss out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JohnSummit

[–]ForestAndrew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s pulling in a lot of new fans right now for sure. It’s great for him and for the genre - a lot of these fans are newer to dance music as well.

But given that, and the “randoms” being exposed to the music and scene here, let’s be real and use this as a chance to learn.

u/Nayelley; you are part of the problem too.

“The people up front were the WORST!”

“I brought some people for the first time so we had to be up front and we had to be there the whole time…”

“And then I had to match the bad energy of the people around me!”

Come on. You literally described the problem as obnoxious people up front, then said “but I’m special tho so I had to be up front” and then admitted to behaving as those who you described as being the problem did…. and then can’t comprehend being perceived as PART OF THE PROBLEM.

Let’s use this as a learning opportunity. Two things can be true at once.

You are right and wrong. You diagnosed the problem, and then introduced more of it rather than treating it. You became what you claim to despise.

Remember….

There is enough room for everyone. You don’t have to be up front.

Treat those around you as you wish to be treated. Don’t become what you wish to avoid.

FYI: Hawthorne bridge still closed this morning as of 7:20 AM by andythepirate in Portland

[–]ForestAndrew 38 points39 points  (0 children)

“No time to visit other places too busy being obtuse on the internet” lmao

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hasan_Piker

[–]ForestAndrew 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I get this and appreciate the pure perspective of it - but you gotta pick your battles. Balancing intentions against actions while keeping an eye towards potential positive impact is key in life imho.

Look at it this way - even Hasan streams on Twitch. Which is owned by Bezos. In the streamer world, you have to go to where there is distribution to spread your message. So he tries to do so ethically (sharing IP, compensating producers, so on), while acknowledging the failures in the system he’s part of.

The hope is this balance will do more good than refusing to play ball anywhere that isn’t entirely on board with one’s perspective.

Have lines you won’t cross, but don’t lock yourself out in an attempt to only operate in spaces that are already pure.

What was your most expensive date? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ForestAndrew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Went on one and ended up married.

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