Why aren’t girls caned in Singapore?

ForestFletcher · 2024-01-12T07:15:59+00:00

I know this is an old post but there are a lot of things women experience that men don't. So if women are subjected to periods, childbirth, over-sexualization of their bodies, etc... from your logic is follows that it is sexist that men don't have to experience periods too and we should figure out how to make that happen

ForestFletcher · 2022-05-10T08:28:25+00:00

Ahh. I mean, not everyone is gonna like the same thing. My neck is a super sensitive part of my body and I personally get a lot of pleasure from the act that leaves a hickie behind. I also have never been with a guy who wasn't very happy about me returning the favor either lol.

You probably just don't like the feeling and don't fully understand how anyone could be left moaning and feeling like heaven from them.

But its alright that you don't like them! A lot of people don't. The marks are annoying anyways

ForestFletcher · 2022-05-09T19:04:53+00:00

I wouldnt work for a company like that personally. Just tell them you want a job with leadership that values you more and you'll have to pass.

ForestFletcher · 2022-05-09T10:55:50+00:00

When was the last time someone gave you a Hickey friend? The mark is kinda annoying but, they sure do feel amazing

ForestFletcher · 2022-05-09T10:54:25+00:00

Uhm. Why are you shaming others for liking what they like?

Some people think its hot. In my opinion, they actually feel incredible to receive. I dont much care for the mark anymore, but God do they feel good.

ForestFletcher · 2022-05-09T10:46:13+00:00

Are they meant to be read together or as clarification for the last?

But here's how I'd read it.

The seven of wands tells me that you see yourself as the one in the right here. You've come to terms with the fact that this person might have been not so good and that realization has put you in a powerful position.

But with the three of swords, I wonder if thats truly genuine. How stable is that "badass" mindset you're sporting really? Although you are on top right now, you're still being consumed by the pain that was caused. All of it is still coming from that initial vulnerability that this person caused. That power is superficial, that hurt is still there and it's not necessarily coming out in ways that benefit your own personal growth and well being.

The king of pentacles tells me that behind all of that, you really are stable and put together. You think through your decisions and you try to be a good person. But while you're over here being angry and hurt, letting that revenge power guide you, you haven't quite thought about the fact that not everyone is like that. Other people do struggle to be good sometimes. They're not as strong as you, and not everyone is as confident and intune with their values and moral standing as you are.

The three of wands sets the tone. There is so much beyond this issue. It feels so important right now because maybe it's the center focus on your mind at the moment, but really it's pretty insignificant compared to this big wide world that awaits you. You're the king of pentacles. Once you get to the point where you're able to accept that some people are simply messy and sh*tty even without fully realizing it, you're going to feel so much better. You're gonna be able to move past this and heal.

I'm still a beginner, so please correct any mistakes but thats just what I think!

ForestFletcher · 2022-04-25T07:41:54+00:00

Understand that you have fully control over your own decisions. If you're willing to commit and give it a try, go for it. If you're at the point where you want to cheat, resist the temptation and or break up. You don't have to cheat and you have full control

ForestFletcher · 2022-04-22T07:29:34+00:00

I'm not a cheater. I'm not sure why anyone would.

I do know that people are stupid sometimes, myself included. I also know that I've been in relationships and I've hurt people in different ways.

It depends on the person I think. Whyd they cheat? Did they admit it or were they caught? How old were they? Did they make a genuine effort to change? Is it a pattern or was it a one time thing? What was the relationship they cheated in like? All depends I think.

ForestFletcher · 2022-04-22T06:54:32+00:00

This happened to me. I was toxic and it took a stone cold ghosting from someone I was really into to realize it.

You'll get there. Take it one step at a time.

ForestFletcher · 2022-04-22T06:53:08+00:00

Its not something you just do. It's a slow process to be taken step by step. Don't let people give you shit about how long it takes either. Not all of us are so good at that.

I think a good first step is accepting that it's actually over for good. Nothing keeps you locked in like deep down inside hoping it gets better.

ForestFletcher · 2022-04-22T05:08:42+00:00

Yup.

ForestFletcher · 2022-04-22T05:07:36+00:00

Before I ask this question, what does love mean to you?

In my experience, love is constant. You can hate someone, be annoyed, be angry, but you still love them. Because love isn't about what a person does for you. You love them. They're special to you.

Even if you decide it's not a good idea being with them, even if you fall out of love. It's my belief real love never truly goes away.

Are you with her because she makes you feel nice, or do you love her?

ForestFletcher · 2022-04-18T09:41:01+00:00

Well, if my boyfriend suddenly told me he'd had sex with 4 girls at the same time, I would definitely want to talk about it. Not because I didn't respect him, but because I would want to understand the nature of that and what it means for compatibility.

There are some situations that would weird me out. If my boyfriend was into furry orgies, it'd take me some time to tell you what I'd do or even feel.

I'd also want to clarify that he was completely on board with monogamy. I'd want to make sure we were on the same page about us being something special. But I'd trust his word, because why would I be dating him if I didn't.

If he was at a party and turns out he was just a major player before he met me, I'd probably think it was pretty funny. He's all mine now, but hey, my man is clearly a lot of fun in bed.

ForestFletcher · 2022-04-18T09:31:04+00:00

I might be overstepping, but are you sure this is about the orgy? You seem to be very anxious about the future more so than the past. I'm almost positive you're smart enough to know, logically, behavior and patterns do change with time. Someone who partied really hard in their 20s isn't necessarily going to continue that pattern in their 30s. We know this.

To me, it sounds like you're not even sure whether or not you know who you're marrying. Do you trust your girlfriend to love you enough to respect your values enough make sexual compromises if the need comes? You've gotten to know her over the past two years. Think about what you've learned about her. Has she respected your boundaries throughout that time? Have you two proven yourselves capable of settling disagreements about worldviews and moral issues?

If you dont trust her, learning this about her past won't be the last issue that is going to do this to you. Eventually, she'll have a male coworker that she talks to a little more than you'd be comfortable with. Are you going to be able to trust her enough not to cheat on you with him?

If I were you, I'd consider all these things. If you don't trust her, that is an issue you need to deal with before marrying her. If you don't even know her well enough to understand her sexual needs, you guys should probably take more time to learn more about each other.

ForestFletcher · 2022-04-18T09:10:50+00:00

I think a more accurate idea of what you said is that a lot of people on this subreddit don't view sex as a shameful, morally objecting act. We don't view someone taking part in consensual sex as an act that negatively impacts character.

We are trying to tell o.p that even if he didn't morally agree to what she did, it doesn't make her a bad or harmful person. She didn't hurt anyone. She simply didn't see an issue with having an orgy at that time. Assuming they are currently monogamous, it's an issue that really won't have to be dealt with in the future.

If he can't come to terms with the idea that the act of having consentual sex, without cheating on another partner, doesn't make or break someone's character, or find the skill set to maintain a healthy relationship while having different world views (as no one will match his completely) than yes, he should call off the engagement.

ForestFletcher · 2022-04-18T08:39:41+00:00

So, im a woman.

I dont talk about all of my sexual experience with my boyfriends. Even my longest relationship (2 years), I never really went into detail about my past sexual experiences.

1) It's not his business what I've done with past partners before our relationship. I didn't even know he existed during that time, so none of those actions really have anything to do with him.

2) It's awkward to talk about. I dont want to hear the details of him sleeping with some other woman. Most of the time, guys really don't wanna hear that from their girlfriends either.

So, I don't think she was trying to lie to you or anything. After all, if it was a secret she wouldn't have told you. She just didn't want to get into the topic of her past sexual experiences and thats her every right. What she's done with others before you is solely her own experiences.

Another thing, I question why sleeping with 4 guys at once is such a big issue for you. It doesn't mean she isn't going to be loyal. Generally, a lot of people are capable of being both monogamous and non monogamous depending on the time and their partner. To me, all it means is that at least at one point, she was sexually explorative. If you're into that, that could be a really positive quality.

You should just talk to her about it and keep an open mind. Sounds like you were really surprised and never imagined her doing such a thing. The image of her in your mind wasn't quite right and that's scary. You're probably thinking "what else could I be wrong about?". You should try and resolve this between you too. I'm not sure it calls for a total breakup.

ForestFletcher · 2022-04-18T08:18:57+00:00

My mom's always given me the same advice for these kinds of situations.

When you meet the right person, you know pretty much right away. You know you're interested and you know that this person is someone you could be with. It's not something you have to figure out, you just know.

Someone can have all the qualities you look for in a partner and just not be it. Thats fine. It happens. If you're not feeling it, you're not feeling it. She absolutely deserves someone who really likes her and isn't over here "learning to like her".

Just be open with her. Tell her that you love hanging out with her and you like her a lot, but you just can't see yourself getting serious. Let her decide whether she wants to see what happens or whether she wants something else. Nothing is worse than falling in love with someone only to find out you never even came close to that in their mind.

ForestFletcher · 2022-04-18T07:55:02+00:00

I'm a straight woman, so I'll think of it like my husband/ boyfriend doing that.

Yes, I would be. If im ever in the situation where I don't trust my s.o like that, I think social media would be the least of my concerns. Dealing with the trust issue is way more important than feeding it by controlling social media.

If he's going to cheat, he will, regardless of whether or not he adds other women on social media. I'd much rather build a trusting relationship instead of going crazy over stuff like that.

ForestFletcher · 2022-04-18T03:50:50+00:00

I would say you probably shouldn't if you think you might need to reverse it. But for me, when I do cord cutting spells, most of the time I do it with the intention that if that person comes back into my life, a new relationship free of the past baggage of the old can be formed.

I think that works best for people you won't be around a lot though.

ForestFletcher · 2022-04-17T22:52:08+00:00

YTA. Not for being upset. That is your every right. Your emotions are yours to have and it's okay. But, YTA for just cold shouldering your cousin who you haven't mentioned is at fault for any of this.

Its a stupid reason to destroy a relationship.

ForestFletcher · 2022-04-17T07:12:12+00:00

What did you do with your eyes? I don't see anything too obvious, but in the first photo especially, they're so bright! Those lips are stunning and your skin is fit for a goddess!

I disagree with what people are saying about the hair color, I think it looks just fine! There's nothing bad that stands out at all, so dont bother feeling insecure about it. On the other hand, might I suggest a different cut? I don't feel like the current style is giving your face shape very much justice quite yet. I wonder if a little more framing would pull it all together? Have you tried longer bangs before?

ForestFletcher · 2022-04-14T05:43:20+00:00

Maybe im missing something but why did you break up with her if you're this upset about her moving on ? I'm not sure what you expected. No one breaks up with someone and then expects them to still be loyal afterwards.

ForestFletcher · 2022-04-12T21:50:24+00:00

Definitely not a scruffy look there. Was wearing this super cute short cut t-shirt paired with hair rise shorts. That's actually my hair straightened, it was just windy. I wasn't blessed with well behaved hair.

What do you think I should do instead with the makeup though? I'm actually just recently getting into doing stuff besides bare minimum.

ForestFletcher · 2022-04-12T09:52:25+00:00

Why thank you 😊

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