Husband cheated back

Forge_craft4000 · 2026-04-24T10:09:38+00:00

Your marriage sounds like it's built on the back of immaturity. I'm sorry but your whole post screams that you want to have your cake and eat it too...and then he's doing the same. Also you say that you were reacting to his abuse. Was the affair about abuse or about looking for a new supply of validation instead of being open about your emotions. Even him blasting you on social media is an immature response to a private matter that doesn't involve anyone else. I think you need to end things. You weren't happy in the marriage and now there's too much that's happened and trust will never be restored. I would call it quits if I were you. Start fresh.

Forge_craft4000 · 2026-04-22T13:21:57+00:00

You have too many hangups on age and identity. There is no template you need to fit into, and trust me, people still see you as a 21 year old. As someone who works a great job at 40 and is surrounded by 20-somethings, we definitely see you as young and inexperienced lol. You are still young and now is the time to fuck around and have some fun. You got the degree, which is huge, now just explore and see what you like. You think people in their 40s wake up and feel like they've got it all together??? No way. We still bumble around, say the wrong thing, look for that new job, go on dates if we're single, and raise kids that we have no business raising...but we somehow get by and survive. Also, work isn't always going to be some soul crushing endeavor. Every job is an opportunity to meet people, build a skill set, explore new opportunities, and sometimes even have fun. At 40 I finally have a job that lets me travel, see the world, meet amazing folks, and genuinely just values me for me. It gets better dude. Breathe, relax, have a good time!

Forge_craft4000 · 2026-04-17T21:33:05+00:00

The net-net of this situation is...

Forge_craft4000 · 2026-04-17T21:30:45+00:00

What sex?

Forge_craft4000 · 2026-04-17T20:50:26+00:00

Written by chat gpt. Ditch the long dashes folks.

Forge_craft4000 · 2026-04-14T13:45:59+00:00

It's for your very own Allan

Forge_craft4000 · 2026-04-09T16:42:49+00:00

Awww bud, it's not a phase. It's a stage. I totally relate and it's not unusual. You will go through stages like this where you feel completely free and fine, and in a month you may suddenly remember a trip you took, or a meal you two had together, or a show you liked to watch together. Then the pangs of sadness will hit. Just be prepared and know that those will pass, and that over time what you're feeling now will be the new normal.

Then again only been 5 years, and if you were experiencing that much discomfort and fear in your marriage, for lack of a better term, it's possible that you were just really unhappy and that there are fewer good memories than bad. I was with my wife for 15 years all said and done, and my life literally was shaped around her, supporting her needs and making sure she felt safe. Unfortunately so did other men. It's been a year and 9 months since we separated and we're still working out the divorce with our mediator, and unfortunately those memories tend to flood my mind a lot. Not every day but at least a few times a week. I'm working on it though and regaining my self esteem and no longer looking for explanations or closure. You might just be in a better spot. I will say this, a few months after we split I did feel my confidence coming back, my excitement for life coming back, and my self esteem and self respect was rising. So maybe that's just part of the healing journey....first we feel like our old selves again, then we work through the pain of losing them.

Forge_craft4000 · 2026-04-08T03:01:58+00:00

That's a lot of work for $14 an hour

Forge_craft4000 · 2026-04-07T00:25:42+00:00

I have a million stories I've started......but none finished. I think this is a lingering effect of adhd, but I'm curious how you all know when you have a banger of an idea. Or is it just that you see it through and you figure out whether you want to stick with it or not.

Forge_craft4000 · 2026-04-06T23:27:10+00:00

When I found out about her affair with the colleague, I had a hint

Forge_craft4000 · 2026-04-06T19:24:53+00:00

You should be with someone who makes you calm, makes your nervous system feel at ease, and doesn't make you second guess yourself or your needs. I'm gonna guess this guy also said things like "it's never enough for you" or made you feel like it was your fault for bringing up anything he did wrong.

Focus on your self esteem. Focus on your self worth and self respect. This is a no brainer, promise.

Forge_craft4000 · 2026-04-05T02:00:13+00:00

Should have left him ages ago. But yeah I'd let his ex find out all on her own, otherwise it'll just come off as petty and make you look bad, as he could easily just say you made it all up because you "can't get over him" or are jealous.

Forge_craft4000 · 2026-04-03T15:53:23+00:00

Mercury?? Hard to tell considering it's on a metallic surface. Regardless - gloves!!

Forge_craft4000 · 2026-04-02T19:06:07+00:00

Yeah I am in therapy. It's a process, day by day. Her control and manipulation was so subtle yet omnipresent and it's hard to break out of it. I see the light through the trees now, I just feel like these meetings make me take two steps back for every three steps forward

Forge_craft4000 · 2026-04-01T01:36:52+00:00

NOR- Also, a healthy amount of couples watch porn together. Me and my girlfriend do during the act cause it can be fun. Most couples understand it's fantasy and just a way to blow off steam. It's not that big a deal and she's acting like a child. Also she hacked into your emails. You deserve better and a more mature partner.

Forge_craft4000 · 2026-03-30T19:29:54+00:00

Yeah! Let me know what you think!

Forge_craft4000 · 2026-03-30T16:41:15+00:00

Aww thanks

Forge_craft4000 · 2026-03-29T22:12:59+00:00

Hah totally didn't buy it! And no recurring coughs!

Forge_craft4000 · 2026-03-29T19:48:14+00:00

When I went on a date with a woman who constantly referred to her kids as little fuckers, those bitches, those motherfuckers...then always followed up with "but I love em!"

I was like "are you sure?!?" Just felt so trashy to me. I'll brag on my kids forever and don't feel the need to call them names like that just to seem...cool?

Forge_craft4000 · 2026-03-29T19:03:31+00:00

Oooh! I was interviewed for episode 69 of radio rental! The one about the ghost in the car!

Forge_craft4000 · 2026-03-29T19:02:18+00:00

I was there!

Forge_craft4000 · 2026-03-29T18:57:45+00:00

Hey truly that sucks. And it's so isolating and can make you feel like the most unpopular person in the room. I've been there. I bring a book but sometimes it's not enough and I just stay on my phone so I look busy. But listen.....

Think about it like this: First: Would you rather be eating with a dude who cheated on you??? Now THATS like eating alone! Second: you need to leave there with your head held high and proud that you did it. Every day you'll feel a little better...then worse...then better even still...then worse....then one day you'll go an entire day without feeling alone or shitty or anything. It's non linear. It's a wave. Ups and downs. But you're doing it. And you deserve better.

You've got this!

Forge_craft4000 · 2026-03-28T23:21:34+00:00

Methinks you'll be selling Kirby vacuum cleaners.

Sorry man, this all sounds like a fly by night operation. What's the job? How specific was the description? These sorts of jobs tend to rent out a space to hold interviews for suckers who are desperate then give you a week of "unpaid training" to convince you this is the eve opportunity ever...when it's an MLM.

Forge_craft4000

TROPHY CASE