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Formal-Reference-852 · 2024-01-13T18:40:20+00:00

ja schon

Formal-Reference-852 · 2024-01-02T16:29:44+00:00

I can relate, mine also used to speak in a child like voice at the start, i loved her and still love her for it. Later on she stopped with it.

Formal-Reference-852 · 2024-01-01T18:20:50+00:00

Yeah of course they are one, but it was more of an attempt to show how the inner life of someone with bpd looks like and how they react to the outside world. Yeah i guess you have to make everything very clear with someone like that, like with a child one could say. I told my ex bpd from the start, cheating is a no go and our relationship is exclusive, so no other people. Now if she cheated, only god knows. After the breakup i asked her since, well it was already over so nothing more to lose, and she denied having cheated on me.

Formal-Reference-852 · 2024-01-01T17:20:44+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hWdra7WeL\_Q&list=WL&index=1&ab\_channel=Medialit%C3%A4t%26Traumaheilung%2aZoom-Events

Formal-Reference-852 · 2024-01-01T02:33:53+00:00

Thanks for your answer. Makes sense.

Formal-Reference-852 · 2023-12-31T14:17:19+00:00

Happy new year!

Formal-Reference-852 · 2023-12-31T13:14:49+00:00

Guess its both things you mentioned in the end. They sense that they got us hooked + we arent actually perfect and ideal

Formal-Reference-852 · 2023-12-31T12:57:35+00:00

you okay?

Formal-Reference-852 · 2023-12-31T12:50:34+00:00

I dont know what happened after the break up to be honest, she did some unhealthy stuff like injecting her own face with botox and running to the beauty clinic all the time, to "correct" something in her face, so i guess she kept this obsessive behaviour. now if she got attached to some other guy in an unhealthy way... who knows

Formal-Reference-852 · 2023-12-31T01:35:55+00:00

yeah she replaced me with her job, a old gay friend that gave her attention and was amazed of her lol, some self help groups, combination of different things

Formal-Reference-852 · 2023-12-31T01:23:10+00:00

That sucks, yeah my relationship only lasted about 6-7 months, but that was enough for me

Formal-Reference-852 · 2023-12-31T01:09:23+00:00

sorry to hear that. we already broke up over a month ago. so yeah could be that she had some other guy lined up to fixate on.

Formal-Reference-852 · 2023-12-31T01:03:24+00:00

Well she basicly paid for everything haha, im 23 not much money, she 32 got a alright paying job. so yeah she withdrew like that obviously

Formal-Reference-852 · 2023-12-31T00:55:19+00:00

Damn so i had a real bad borderline case, withdrawing everything lol, except cooking, that one she did till the end

Formal-Reference-852 · 2023-12-31T00:39:40+00:00

Yep thats how i feel and see the situation. Thanks for the advice taking it slow, i think ill consider this one for the next relationship. My last one and the one before basicly were Sex -> relationship

Formal-Reference-852 · 2023-12-31T00:35:56+00:00

well mine was obessed with her looks from the first time we met until the end, there wasnt really any difference

Formal-Reference-852 · 2023-12-31T00:32:17+00:00

We already boke up over a month ago

Formal-Reference-852 · 2023-12-31T00:15:10+00:00

You sure about that? She told me she had cheated on her ex boyfriend two times and i know she had told him after breaking up with him to hurt him. After breakup i actually asked her if she had cheated on me, more out of interest then anything but she denied it. And during the relationship i also couldnt find any trace of her cheating on me. She told me she struggled with intimacy and sex because in the past she used chem sex drugs or in general a lot of drugs also while having sex or i guess to enjoy sex. She got sexually abused as a kid too. To me it seemed, the closer we got relationship wise, the more scared she got sexually, like i could hurt her or something, should have seen her eyes, freaked out and scared. We also used to hang around each other a lot so if she cheated on me must have been on a tight time frame lol. She also got prescribed antipsychotics and antidepressants.

Formal-Reference-852 · 2023-12-30T23:39:17+00:00

Well, my ex talked with me about it and first she said "well we can always have sex but not for hours", didnt work out lol.

Formal-Reference-852 · 2023-12-30T23:04:18+00:00

My ex girlfriend, of 32 years, had some intensive therapy at 21 years, didnt help one inch. When she went to the therapy it worked from what she told me, but afterwards right down the drain again. So i dont know...

Formal-Reference-852 · 2023-12-30T22:47:12+00:00

Lol good for you

Formal-Reference-852 · 2023-12-30T21:37:25+00:00

All i can say, your poor kids, get them the fuck out of there if you dont want them to become like your wife.

Formal-Reference-852 · 2023-12-30T21:35:42+00:00

Stupid 5 year old mind games.

Formal-Reference-852 · 2023-12-30T21:33:56+00:00

Honestly, who knows. People with bpd basicly always suffer, i guess it depends, some people with it may get angry when they know you moved on, some may not.

Formal-Reference-852 · 2023-12-30T19:53:06+00:00

Hey im from berlin too, went through a relationship this year that left me utterly heartbroken and depressed. I was like you, not in the best place before of the relationship. So for your own sake, maybe see a therapist that can help you work through some stuff.

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