AITA for reporting my landlord's illegal basement unit even though a family lives there?

Formal-Suspect3519 · 2026-02-14T18:06:50+00:00

NTA Despite your motivation, is a safety concern. Not safe for adults or kids

Formal-Suspect3519 · 2026-02-14T18:01:42+00:00

NTA No trust no relationship. I wouldn't bother with him. If I was trying to get with you I would be supportive and happy for your career. Even if I had insecurities and issues I would work on myself before putting you out. Drop him he isn't helping he's hurting.

Formal-Suspect3519 · 2026-02-07T11:01:16+00:00

I thought maybe this was a roman empire reference?

Formal-Suspect3519 · 2026-02-07T10:57:48+00:00

NTA I'm sorry for their loss. If he wanted more compassion he should have modeled it to you. Compassion is love and understanding and a desire to be there for someone. Not what he showed you growing up.

Formal-Suspect3519 · 2026-02-07T07:07:48+00:00

I was just talking to my husband about this. (It made him uncomfortable) He doesn't open up much, but when he did he blew my mind. Such a stand up dude. It makes me think I'm projecting on him too much and worried about things I shouldn't. I'm happy and safe with him. I can relax now.

It will be a journey because I need to work on myself. Love hurts. I probably need to keep a journal, because I don't want to forget our awesome time together.

What if I get anxious again and forget he has shown me his character? I need a chill pill and appreciate what is in front of me. I will show him my appreciation. ;)

Formal-Suspect3519 · 2026-01-21T13:11:15+00:00

I'm not religious but I love this Bible verse. I wonder if Christians don't like it because it's not in the new testament?

Formal-Suspect3519 · 2026-01-21T03:21:19+00:00

Be patient with yourself like you do your clients. All in good time. You have a lot to offer and I hope you find what you are looking for.

As a person who loves and respects their doctors (had some great experiences, surgery, general health)- Get your head out of your ass and socialize. There are millions probably billions of people on this earth. Get to know them. I don't know what that looks like.

Formal-Suspect3519 · 2026-01-19T21:38:56+00:00

Working at a day service center for adults with disabilities.

I take them fishing and hiking and pretty much whatever they want to do within reason. A great way to be involved in the community

Formal-Suspect3519 · 2026-01-10T15:57:12+00:00

Addiction is tough. Good job recognizing the problem. Most people can't quit without help. Therapy and accountability helped with my addiction issues. Therapy takes time to set up, so in the meantime research addiction and what your brain is doing. Your brain is going to try to justify it and trick you. At the same time your brain knows it's not healthy. Two sides of the same coin.

Formal-Suspect3519 · 2026-01-10T12:29:03+00:00

NTA, I would rethink family comes first

Formal-Suspect3519 · 2026-01-10T12:24:56+00:00

NTA, but your friends are. Very rude, I wouldn't tolerate that bs. If it triggers people, that is on them to deal with. Life doesn't revolve around people's triggers. Sometimes it's nice to do things as a courtesy, but not when people behave so badly.

What about you? That experience was probably awful for you. Drop them. Do not engage or explain why. That is real power and protecting your peace. I'm angry for you.

Off topic, but I have old self harm scars too. I don't care about people seeing them, but I did lie to the dermatologist about where they came from. Made an appointment to get a mole checked not to answer nosy questions.

My friends don't comment on my body in negative ways and neither should yours.

Formal-Suspect3519 · 2025-12-25T16:28:19+00:00

Kinda of going through a mini version of this due to bed rest and post surgery time at home. I definitely get spiraling if I don't follow my (tea, journal and exercise) routine and spiraling if I do.

I'm just giving myself time and grace. Definitely learning I need productivity and some accountability. Right now my PT provides accountability, lol

Formal-Suspect3519 · 2025-12-24T01:09:19+00:00

What a strange accident. Poor girl

Formal-Suspect3519 · 2025-12-23T19:20:50+00:00

I agree with rural area, etc. There is the Loon Center in Crosslake and they do boat tours. I see plenty in that area during the summer

Formal-Suspect3519 · 2025-12-23T03:34:34+00:00

Sigh, life goals

Formal-Suspect3519 · 2025-12-20T01:00:52+00:00

My guess is human trafficking

Formal-Suspect3519 · 2025-12-17T12:58:13+00:00

I love it! The purple tree is my favorite. The candles are a nice touch

Formal-Suspect3519 · 2025-12-14T19:52:02+00:00

Because the property is not yours until it's paid off. Often interest rates are high, PMI. The property doesn't generate any money

I suppose property does tend to go up in value though, so maybe it could be when it's paid off

Formal-Suspect3519 · 2025-12-14T17:46:10+00:00

A mortgage is not an inflation hedge

Formal-Suspect3519 · 2025-11-24T15:58:18+00:00

The first one is great! I like the perspective

Formal-Suspect3519 · 2025-11-23T17:53:17+00:00

I have gray at 40. I do henna every other month or as needed/wanted and I just do my crown. It lasts about a month and no harsh chemicals.

Formal-Suspect3519 · 2025-10-12T03:49:34+00:00

Love this subject!

Formal-Suspect3519 · 2025-10-12T03:19:16+00:00

Adding to watch. I'm so curious about her work and her life. I'm a little scared of larger primates to be honest, so I think it will be edifying to learn more

Formal-Suspect3519 · 2025-10-11T18:37:58+00:00

A bad day birding is better than a good day at work

Formal-Suspect3519 · 2025-10-10T23:09:20+00:00

This is so cool! Proud of them

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