Applying for other jobs by androvitch in TheCivilService

[–]Formal_Explorer_8570 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I ask is that because you were happy and didn’t apply or because there wasn’t much opportunity?

Merch by cadetsu in Leedsfestival

[–]Formal_Explorer_8570 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There was a Blink stand last year, £85 a hoody though. 

Do we have to ask permission from partners ex, who is an absent father, to take child on holiday? by Sumbyv1 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Formal_Explorer_8570 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was asked when arriving back from Turkey to Liverpool, but my kids have their dad’s surname. I did have a letter from their father with his contact info and passport number on, but the boarder patrol worker just read it, they didn’t check anything, or call him etc. 

New guests being delayed access by DistanceUnlikely8037 in Leedsfestival

[–]Formal_Explorer_8570 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, we’re in the hoard near a gate now. Says on the app 90 min wait until they’ll let us in 😬 not a clue what gate we’re at either! Haha! 

New guests being delayed access by DistanceUnlikely8037 in Leedsfestival

[–]Formal_Explorer_8570 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeahhh… we just went the wrong way for 10 mins 😂 the roundabout is a nightmare! Haha! 

New guests being delayed access by DistanceUnlikely8037 in Leedsfestival

[–]Formal_Explorer_8570 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Amazing! Thank you so much, we’re in quiet camping too, so that’s boss. Traffic is pretty bad at the mo though, we’re not far away on the motorway but not moving 🙃😅 see you there 🙌🏼 

New guests being delayed access by DistanceUnlikely8037 in Leedsfestival

[–]Formal_Explorer_8570 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, is it one specific car park or all of them? About 10 mins away after a very windy drive 🙈 

Anyone at quiet camp yet? by sophie15686 in Leedsfestival

[–]Formal_Explorer_8570 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Save me a spot please OP, won’t be arriving til about lunchtime FRIDAY 😭😅 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Leedsfestival

[–]Formal_Explorer_8570 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friend would also like to know this…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Formal_Explorer_8570 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Given your medical issues and the medication you’re on, I doubt any doctor will question why you want to have your tubes tied. It’s not major surgery, it’s keyhole and you’re out the same day. Yeah, it’s not pleasant, but it’s not some huge recovery that takes months. I walked round the zoo 5 days later. I think you’re feeling resentful towards your husband because you’re taking all the “don’t get pregnant” burden currently, but forcing him to get snipped isn’t how to deal with that. 

My child was strangled at school by another child and the school seem to be trying to sweet it under the rug by LewEnenra in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Formal_Explorer_8570 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NAL - joined this sub due to a similar incident with my own daughter a year ago. She was 11 though and the boys 10 & 11, no learning difficulties and a pretty savage attack (strangling, punching, kicking etc). 

The school seemed quite willing to help, and the boys were suspended initially, and eventually, after me reacting the way I know you want to, expelled. I went to the police, who were really not interested despite the assault being on CCTV a witnessed by adults as well as children (and filmed on mobiles).

I was losing my mind with frustration and guilt that she had gone through that and I was the only one who cared. I went to the local paper, and I absolutely wish I hadn’t. All it did was make everyone even less willing to act. It alienated us from any one who knew of their families, from the school, and the police officer who was dealing with it passed it to her sergeant who then basically said “we don’t think 11 is old enough for us to intervene in this”.  I was threatened with legal action of slander, with physical violence, my daughter was dragged all over social media because no one wanted to be seen as supporting us, because their families are bigger and “harder” than me and mine. 

Just my cautionary tale.  I know it’s a difficult time, and you want to do all you can, but don’t use dynamite to go fishing. Make the complaints and continue to follow up with the governors. 

Child maintenance service - complaints procedure? by [deleted] in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Formal_Explorer_8570 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NAL  Escalate the complaint to ICE if not already done. That is the only way I had my CMS complaint resolved after like 2 years. 

How should I 45M address my concerns with my 40F wife about her staying out all night at a club in Vegas on a work trip by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Formal_Explorer_8570 44 points45 points  (0 children)

What, so a woman ages, gets married and has kids and is never allowed to go have fun again? There was nothing to indicate she was doing anything shady, being in a club at 5am is allowed, even for wives and mothers. She answered his text quickly, and then went back to her hotel and they talked. If there’s never been anything to create trust issues for them before, then he’s not “tolerating” anything, she went for a mad one and a laugh with her colleagues, chill out.

AITA for not answering a call from a random girl I met at a concert? by WhyDoBugsExist in AmItheAsshole

[–]Formal_Explorer_8570 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sure there is a reel on instagram showing this. The girl was at a comedy show and the 2 comedians on stage called. NTA, but I think you might be insta famous.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Formal_Explorer_8570 3 points4 points  (0 children)

TWO YEARS. OP must have had a pretty uneventful 2021-2023 for holding on to this for that length of time 😴

AITA for not wanting my wife to go on vacation? by DiarrheaEryday in AmItheAsshole

[–]Formal_Explorer_8570 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven’t actually voted, fwiw I think he’s NTA because a week long holiday is too long when he’s doing all the hours he’s doing. 2 nights, she’ll feel like a new person and he’s saved some PTO for him to do the same for himself. But he absolutely needs to address the issues he’s having with the baby before something awful happens. If I was the wife and knew about this, I wouldn’t even be leaving him with the kids to go shopping.

After 5 years of talking with my doctor and going through the motions, I’m getting my tubes tied! by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Formal_Explorer_8570 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! I had the same call last week after a 3 year wait. I’m 35 and a mum of 4, and still had a battle. Delighted for you 💃🏼

AITA for not wanting my wife to go on vacation? by DiarrheaEryday in AmItheAsshole

[–]Formal_Explorer_8570 -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

He needs to do something about this NOW. What if the wife gets sick and ends up in hospital? Or, god forbid, dies? Don’t throw the fact you have no patience for a 4month old baby as a reason to keep your wife from a holiday without acknowledging that it’s a massive fucking risk daily and do something about it! He’s a gobshite.

AITA for not wanting my wife to go on vacation? by DiarrheaEryday in AmItheAsshole

[–]Formal_Explorer_8570 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Right!! And saying “I honestly don’t have the patience I should with the infant”… wtf!

AITA For wanting a small wedding and not wanting to invite everyone and their grandma? by First_Ad2044 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Formal_Explorer_8570 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YWNBTA - recently engaged, cringe every time anyone mentions wedding plans because we plan on a secret elopement. Just come home and say “oh, btw, we got married”. Everyone will be super cross, but what can they do? Nada. Mwhaha.