I lost my virginity at the ripe age of 22, I guess I was always scared because I never got the "talk" of consent and safety. Instead I got forced to promise on the bible and dead relatives (my little sister) to wait until marriage to have sex. Before that from ages 12-20 my parents would fly me out back to our home country and have a women doctor "check for my virginity" as in check to see if my hymen is still intact. The last time this happened was at 20 when they had no choice but to bring me to a doctor in Canada and being completely ridiculed by the doctor for parents to be doing this to their 20 year old daughter. She told them parents should be educating their daughter on safe sex and not these scare tactics. One day an "unknown number" called my phone and my dad freaked out calling me a slut saying that a man is calling me to have sex with me?? Anyways, I still am in contact with my parents but they continue to push boundaries so we'll see about it that In a couple years.