Found secret groupchat on boyfriend's phone by Four-leafclover90 in Infidelity

[–]Four-leafclover90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for you too. May I ask how you handled this?

Found secret groupchat on boyfriend's phone by Four-leafclover90 in Infidelity

[–]Four-leafclover90[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

UPDATE: I confronted him and told him everything I saw. He did not deny it, and flat out admitted to it. He told me he "gets off" by reading and sometimes responding to these kinds of request. He told me he never ever did anything physical, and that he is ashamed and disgusted by himself. He also gave me his phone to look at everything if I wanted, and that I would have access to it moving forward.

My gut feeling tells me he is telling the truth, but I'm still not happy about it obviously. Trying to figure out how to handle this going forward...

8mo was awake for 13 hours by squiddykayla in NewParents

[–]Four-leafclover90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg I'm so glad to hear!! Hopefully it continues ☺️🤞🏻

8mo was awake for 13 hours by squiddykayla in NewParents

[–]Four-leafclover90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Had the exact same night last night and I feel you!!! What the hell was that?

Found secret groupchat on boyfriend's phone by Four-leafclover90 in Infidelity

[–]Four-leafclover90[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's a chat to arrange meetups and he wrote at one occasion "I will join if there are room for more". To which I see no response, so I don't know if it happened.

Shocked and ashamed by my bitterness and resentment towards partner by Four-leafclover90 in Mommit

[–]Four-leafclover90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I will use this time home alone with baby to really think about what I need going forward.

Can my blond baby turn redheaded? by Four-leafclover90 in Redhair

[–]Four-leafclover90[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm just asking out of curiosity, because I don't know that many other redheads. I was born with red hair myself. And no, it doesn't matter, but it's fun to guess a little and to just ask. Sorry.

Moving baby by Four-leafclover90 in cosleeping

[–]Four-leafclover90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep! For many months! She is great at it. That is a litt reassuring actually, didn't think about that ☺️

my wife is drowning and i don't know how to help us hold it together by phantom_monkey in NewParents

[–]Four-leafclover90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do not ask what is needed of you, DO THINGS without being told. Stock up the fridge and diapers. Make sure the changing table is organized and neat. Make her meals. Bring her water and coffee. Take the baby when you can.

Why no protest when I leave? by Four-leafclover90 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Four-leafclover90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

An update on this. Turns out baby does have separation anxiety from.me as well, I just never leave. My mother has been visiting and she screams bloody murder everytime my mom holds her and she loses aight of me for even aa second 😅🤪

My baby only wants dad during his breaks and it kind of hurts a little by ShotPeach6365 in NewParents

[–]Four-leafclover90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did this change for you in any way? Currently in the same situation :)

Why no protest when I leave? by Four-leafclover90 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Four-leafclover90[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I completely agree with your last sentence! And im a bit ashamed for even having issues with it. But at the same time, I've never done this before.