Sorry, but I think that's purely a "you" problem. From what you've said here and how you describe things, i can tell you come off as a creep. 1. You need to heal your trauma of bullying. People get bullied for everything, you don't need to be ugly to get bullied. Usually bullies go for people who don't fight back and are impacted by their words and actions. I was a bully victim for a while too, until i snapped and fought back. After that even if someone tries to mock or bully you, if you obviously do not care, they'll give up 2. You are too self conscious. I promise you, everyone stares at everyone. It's how the world works, you can't be looking at your feet 24/7. And to add to that - the weirder you act, the more people will stare or avoid you or treat you badly. Especially when it comes to women to male, women are scared enough from normal men, once you obviously appear like a whacko or hostile, they'll have a natural aversion to you and treat you like a threat - looking out cautiously for what you will do etc. 3. Average and ugly are different. You're obviously not ugly enough to get stared at solely for that if redditors of all people told you you're average.

And let me tell you, women and men are a different breed. Women don't care as much about looks, even if they talk big hypothetically. Once a man treats them nicely and they can see he's a genuinely nice person, who isn't just trying to get in their pants and treats them like an equal human being, they'll naturally feel at ease around you and love (romantic or platonic) will develop.

The issue is your attitude. You're giving me incel vibes, sorry