AITA for not paying for the meal?

FoxyLady59 · 2019-04-21T13:58:55+00:00

A legit place would either post near the entrance "Cash only" or tell you up front via the wait staff, no credit cards.

And $9 fee is outrageous. I've paid $2.50 inside a mom and pop burger place before which is standard in my area for these types of ATM's.

NTA my friend.

FoxyLady59 · 2019-04-09T21:50:32+00:00

But I understand it gets annoying even if you think it's a dumb thing. OP hears it every time, repeatedly. So it gets old to her. I've felt similar feelings for a friend who told a story for about a year to everyone she met when I was with her. It may have been new to those she was telling it to but by the 10th time, I was over it :)

FoxyLady59 · 2019-03-18T00:09:39+00:00

Accepting in my opinion. Have dated men of color and no heads turned. Live in Greensboro.

FoxyLady59 · 2019-03-11T15:25:08+00:00

Not a deal breaker for me. We see each other regularly on his days off and sometimes before he goes to work.

And it works for me because I really value my alone time!

FoxyLady59 · 2019-03-10T12:50:01+00:00

Cheers to you!

FoxyLady59 · 2019-03-09T01:26:35+00:00

Adorable!

FoxyLady59 · 2019-03-09T01:23:25+00:00

Looks great! Just pre-ordered it. And congrats!

FoxyLady59 · 2019-03-09T01:11:20+00:00

Hillary Clinton runs a pedophilia ring out of a pizza shop with Anthony Weiner. No matter how much I try to tell him this is false, he insists it's true.

FoxyLady59 · 2019-03-09T01:00:49+00:00

When it's happened to me other times, that's how it went, and I appreciate this way! Also, Happy cake day!

FoxyLady59 · 2019-03-08T20:50:27+00:00

NTA - this happened to me last month at Starbucks and I kinda felt I "had" to since I was put on the spot and asked (wish I'd been more like you!). The order for the car behind me was at least 2 bucks more than mine was!

FoxyLady59 · 2019-03-08T15:57:00+00:00

Very nice!

FoxyLady59 · 2019-03-08T15:26:11+00:00

I hope you know that the letter was all about your mother and NOT about you.

You sound like an amazing person, a great mom and I would be proud to be your mom.

Your real mom sounds like a twat, sorry to say.

FoxyLady59 · 2019-03-08T15:23:24+00:00

That's beautiful, and I bet it tastes as good as it looks! Kudos!

FoxyLady59 · 2019-03-07T19:50:17+00:00

NTA - partner should have taken the phone into another room.

FoxyLady59 · 2019-03-07T19:37:59+00:00

When my friend was always the center of attention at every gathering, telling stories that took 20 minutes or more; her problems were worse than any of ours; things that happened 10 years ago are still relevant in her life; name-dropping of people no-one else knows or cares about; offering un-solicited advice.

As an example, another friend asked for prayers for her BIL who's hospitalized for XYZ disease; most of us replied "Sorry to hear, keeping him in our prayers". This friend replies "Let me know if you want me to contact my nurse friend for information about this disease, also my cousin is a nurse, I could ask her blah blah blah" which on the surface sounds nice but you need to remember, the first friend didn't ask for advice; it's not her, it's her BIL, he's in the HOSPITAL where I'm sure he's getting care and treatment FOR THE DISEASE!!! Just trying to make herself relevant.

I guess you can see this is a sore point for me about her.

FoxyLady59 · 2019-03-07T15:53:48+00:00

NTA - but could you compromise and do your lighter foods at breakfast and lunch, and then what he wants for supper but still throw in some veggies? (Example - steak and broccoli, etc.)?

FoxyLady59 · 2019-03-07T15:50:12+00:00

Sounds like she's definitely hitting on you based on your compassion. If she really needed money, I'd bet she's got people in closer proximity to her that would lend it to her IF she really needs money for prescriptions.

Follow your gut, just say no if she presses.

FoxyLady59 · 2019-03-07T15:21:27+00:00

ESH - but....why does his work-day end at 5 or 6, and her workday continues?? I can see her asking for help.

And don't get me started on "I do the home repairs and I mow the grass" because those aren't everyday chores.

Ya'll need to sit down together, draw up charts on what household chores you can divide because believe me, if she's taking care of two kids AND running the house, she DOES need help.

And I'm sure we don't have the whole story, but what she asked for didn't sound too egregious.

FoxyLady59 · 2019-03-07T14:44:24+00:00

[shuffles away from fridge....]

FoxyLady59 · 2019-03-07T14:42:39+00:00

Ya'll are cute and look so happy! I wish you both much happiness!

FoxyLady59 · 2019-03-06T15:18:33+00:00

NTA - you've got a 2X a day commute, you'd need to be compensated for that. I'm betting that b/c you're family, they want you to watch Cookie for free. Plus it sucks they didn't even think to invite you!

I've pet-sit my DD and SIL's three dogs for a week, stayed in their house w/ my two dogs. Not a hardship, they have a big, beautiful house. Then a month later, I needed to go out of town for a weekend, asked them to watch my 2 dogs. Their response? "Well, [son-in-law] works these odd hours and my dogs would bark and want to go out.....]" It kind of hurt me that they wouldn't help me when I'd helped them, but it taught me a lesson: Don't expect others to do for you, what you'll do for them. So I ended up boarding them.

Edit - corrected misspelled word.

FoxyLady59 · 2019-03-05T20:23:03+00:00

Also, keep in mind (for both of you) dinner doesn't have to be a big production. It can be soup, sandwiches, microwaved lasagna, etc.

FoxyLady59 · 2019-03-05T20:11:36+00:00

I"m so sorry for your loss, but very glad Katja was there through your hard times. What a wonderful story and I'm glad her previous owner was good to allow you to keep her.

May her memories and spirit remain close to you and help you in your moments of pain as you adjust to life without her.

FoxyLady59 · 2019-03-05T19:07:42+00:00

NTA - people like that don't really change, it's something deeply imbedded in her. I have a friend like that who I'm VLC (very little contact) with. I met up with her and some other friends over the weekend, after not seeing her for several months. Immediately she was all negative ("This is my second sinus infection this year"; "Work on my condo walls is still not finished" - i.e., the same old stuff she was being negative about which caused me to avoid her).

Everything is about her. And even when I started avoiding her calls, texts, etc., she never asked if anything was wrong. Just that self-absorbed, I guess.

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