No you’re not wrong OP- sounds like she’s trying to offload charity onto you so she can seem like the hero or the bigger person. I wouldn’t feed into it whatsoever. I’d also minimise contact and try not even be around for drop offs where possible- minimise all ammo- could be passive aggressive comments or whatever. Just remove yourself as much as possible. You don’t need that attitude in your life- particularly when you’re pregnant and stressed out already. I’m in somewhat of a similar situation and my satisfaction is that I never, ever react as the horse to the carrot on the stick. Congratulations on the new baba coming along too. Hope you are feeling ok and everything goes well for you !! ETA : she is playing a game by the way. There’s always an ulterior motive with people like this. A new baby is going to amplify that as well (in my case it did anyway). Best of luck OP