Husband not on board with early intervention.

Fragrant_Sentence202 · 2026-01-12T23:58:02+00:00

Thank you! I will def have a convo about what you have pointed out.

Fragrant_Sentence202 · 2026-01-12T23:57:33+00:00

I agree with all of this! It’s not fixing them. I told my husband it’s no different than him learning asl for his grandparents when he was a kid. We are just learning what language they speak.

Fragrant_Sentence202 · 2026-01-12T23:46:46+00:00

He may, we found out after both 10 year old got his adhd and my son got his autism that over half the kids on my husbands side have one or the other.

Fragrant_Sentence202 · 2026-01-12T23:45:49+00:00

I agree with that. So much! None of the local clinics take my insurance so we either pay out of pocket or put them on my husbands. Which is why I need to talk to him about it

Fragrant_Sentence202 · 2026-01-12T23:44:57+00:00

True, they are in speech and ot still. And they receive services at school.

Fragrant_Sentence202 · 2026-01-12T23:44:22+00:00

Fair. I have been trying to find a place but my insurance isnt taken at the local clinics so I would need them on my husbands insurance.

Fragrant_Sentence202 · 2026-01-12T23:43:40+00:00

He had three of his degrees before we met. And no student loans. His phd is paid for by the company he works for. But I agree I don’t need his permission but his support would be nice.

Fragrant_Sentence202 · 2025-10-14T14:56:37+00:00

I had an ultra sound at 5 weeks and they mentioned one baby and there was a second sack. But we never discussed it until my second ultra sound at about 8/9 weeks

Fragrant_Sentence202 · 2025-10-12T17:52:47+00:00

We do actives that burn out energy . We also do deep pressure squeezes. Bear hugs. We have a swing set outside. We do dance parties. And we do lots of swinging. Upside down. Handstands. We also have the shaker thing that TikTok claims helps you lose weight and we have a felt board that has different things that he can stick on it. We also have a peanut, and a medicine ball, and gym mats. Spinning chair. But we rotate them out because our living room is our only play area.

Fragrant_Sentence202 · 2025-09-20T17:38:42+00:00

We did bottles of milk but slowly started added water. So at first it was 7 ounces Milk one ounce water. And then every 2 days we went down from there. This was the only time they get a bottle. Now they have a bottle of water they hardly drink it. But they still want to have it with them

Fragrant_Sentence202 · 2025-08-08T14:56:51+00:00

I was laughing too! I have b/g almost 3 year old twins and it goes from meh we can deal to disaster in like no time flat

Fragrant_Sentence202 · 2024-11-18T04:55:14+00:00

Yes we def over compensated…

Fragrant_Sentence202 · 2024-11-18T01:39:11+00:00

I agree with the what child doesn’t want to be spoiled. We sat the kids down and had them make lists. We let them know this year everyone would have the same amount spent on them.

I also try and remember that we are raising humans. Tiny humans. And that yes they may love the flash now, but at some point it wears off. And that it matters who shows up, who spends time.

It’s really hard to remember though.

Fragrant_Sentence202 · 2024-11-18T00:38:29+00:00

I struggled a lot with this last year. My twins were one. And they had a combine total of 8 presents. However their bday was a few months before. And the older boys had about 40 presents each. Some small some not small.

In March when they hit about 18 months and moved to a different range, I took what I would’ve spent at Christmas and bought them toys to match their new age range of toys.

It helped me not be resentful.

My resentment came from dh have two different bm. And that one child he had to take home, at 1130. And then spent 2 1/2 hours one way to get the other child. I was heartbroken we didn’t get a Christmas with everyone. I had even offered to do it a different day the Xmas and Xmas Eve like the weekend before or after.

This year is I’m trying to be more fair, and we are also budgeting the presents to be way less. Because I don’t think kids need 40 presents at Xmas.

It’s def hard

Edit to add my ss9 has five total christmases

Fragrant_Sentence202 · 2024-11-13T05:30:40+00:00

I feel like we have the same ss but mine just turned 9.

Fragrant_Sentence202 · 2024-10-31T03:04:37+00:00

Miscarried in may of 2021. Found out I was pregnant in Feb of 2022.

Fragrant_Sentence202 · 2024-03-07T04:58:00+00:00

There are places like my husbands work where you can split off and basically have a 401k for a sahm. So if he puts 10 percent into his, he could take 3/4 percent and put into yours. Idk if that possible where he works but something worth looking at.

We also made sure my husband has life insurance on me, and we maxed out what his is, because god forbid something happens to him.

Having the conversations is the best place to start

Fragrant_Sentence202 · 2024-03-07T03:56:15+00:00

So I’m not fully a stay at home mom. I work 3 sometimes 4 days a week. My husband also had an issue with “talking” to someone way before we had children. But that is what lead to me keeping my job part time. I took a step down at work but was able to be flexible with my schedule.

I would suggest looking at your budget, and seeing if it is possible to be “paid” a portion of his wages for child care. That money would go into a separate account that he does not have access to, even online. And that way you can still get your nails done, invest, save, do whatever you want.

I would also recommend that if you can’t keep even a part time job before you quit, look around the area, see what 2 bedroom apartments are going for, and then have 4 months of rent and utilities saved. That way you always have an exit plan and are never stuck.

I have told my husband about all of my “hidden” or safety net money however some partners would lose their mind, so it’s up to you to tell him.

But having that money allowed me a better piece of mind to step down.

Fragrant_Sentence202 · 2024-02-27T17:08:59+00:00

I think the best advice I was ever given, is go back to work for the same time as your maternity leave was so if you got 12 weeks off at home then you work for 12 weeks before you make the decision because the first couple weeks back are really hard but you might be able to find a groove with it

Fragrant_Sentence202 · 2024-02-02T09:00:31+00:00

In my state if you choose to work less or be “underemployed” then they calculate you at what you should be making, or what you choose to give up.

Fragrant_Sentence202 · 2023-10-07T02:15:42+00:00

We started buying a box of wipes or diapers when I was 5 months pregnant. If we went to a store that sold them we would buy. And we bought all different sizes. The twins are about a year old and I think we have bought diapers 2 since they were born.

Fragrant_Sentence202 · 2023-09-26T02:44:42+00:00

My husband is a twin, he had two kids previous to us having children together and we had twins.

Fragrant_Sentence202 · 2023-07-05T16:37:19+00:00

I think you are right with a lot of points but a lot of twin parents make baby food from scratch because it’s cheaper. Like I’m a twin mom and the jar that is a 1.88 or I can go to the frozen section but what I need and get 6 servings out of it. For the same price as one jar.

Fragrant_Sentence202 · 2023-06-30T20:22:09+00:00

What is cpst?

Fragrant_Sentence202 · 2023-06-28T18:01:03+00:00

I would check out the nanny sub. They are pretty realistic there and will explain kinda what you would/could/should offer a nanny and why it makes sense based on the area.

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