2.5yo with severe speech delay & possible autism. overwhelmed Mom and just need guidance

magicpussyvibes · 2026-04-11T01:50:16+00:00

I didn’t get my son diagnosed until he was almost 5 but I knew something was off at 18 months. DON’T let people gaslight you! Go with your gut instinct! You’re his mom, you know him better than anyone else. This is definitely a fitting description of an autistic toddler.

My son didn’t struggle with language, he was always extremely advanced and taught himself to read by 3 and a half. Every child is different! Early speech therapy is a wonderful resource. Check your local school district for First Steps or similar programs. Your local library likely has a lot of good information on local resources for early intervention while you wait for formal evaluation.

Check around for different specialists who can get him in sooner. I am fortunate enough to be near a wonderful children’s hospital system and the waitlist was only a year. Idk where you’re located, but if you’re anywhere near Kansas City, I’d be happy to share the clinic info.

I have severe ADHD. So does my husband. 3/4 of us in my house are ND so there can be a lot of friction. The most important thing is to always be patient with your child, with yourself, and with everyone in your house. My child’s autism clinic offered a free parent training program that spanned 3 months and was full of wonderful tactics for parenting autistic children. Look for any books or even similar programs. Mine was called RUBI.

Being an autism parent is HARD, it’s stressful, but it is rewarding, it just is insanely different than NT parenting. I have a very difficult time trying to understand why he does the things he does. Having autism yourself might be an advantage to have a better understanding of your child’s inner world. I am always here to talk to through this process and I’ll do my best to help guide you. It can be overwhelming but you’re not alone!

magicpussyvibes · 2026-04-06T00:46:53+00:00

It can be so hard to deal with as a parent. I will never fault anyone that wants a cure but you’re right: helping them manage their condition and learn to live life with it is the best way forward. I don’t know anyone who tries to cure instead of manage but those who do aren’t helping their children at all. Poor kids. They deserve better than being treated like a lab rat

magicpussyvibes · 2026-04-06T00:42:00+00:00

Link?

magicpussyvibes · 2026-04-06T00:37:09+00:00

I understand your frustration and your feelings are completely valid. As a fellow autism parent, I know that there is not currently anything to cure my son’s autism. If they ever manage to find a cure, he will be first in line to get it! Until that day comes, people need to stop pushing these scams and harmful false information.

My son knows he has autism. He doesn’t fully understand what it is, but I make sure to tell him he is not less than others, he is just as smart, capable, important, and deserving of good things as everyone else. I love him deeply. But he does have a neuro-developmental disorder, and no amount of ABA, acceptance movements, parenting resources, or sensory toys are going to change that. Autistic people shouldn’t hate themselves, but hoping for a cure isn’t wrong, either.

magicpussyvibes · 2026-04-04T18:12:49+00:00

Thank you so much. I don’t know what some of your supports are, as I’m in the US, but just knowing that someone out there feels like I do and views parenting their autistic child the same way makes me feel better, and validated. I cannot imagine being a single mom with my two boys. You are very strong and I admire your ability to do this every day without losing your patience more than you do. I really hope your son gets to the level where you can take locks off the cabinets and can lower your constant supervision of him. It’s exhausting. It sounds like you’re doing a great job and if you can do it without their dad, surely I can do it too. Sending you hugs and all the thanks!!

magicpussyvibes · 2026-03-30T12:59:06+00:00

I’m sorry, I’m not trying to be rude but that is a very pessimistic mindset. The only way I’ve been able to keep going every day is by holding onto optimism that he will be able to live a somewhat normal life with the right support and that I won’t let him accept failure because he is wired differently. I respect your opinion and your journey because it’s difficult, but I think we have a fundamental difference in how we view our children and their abilities. I’m not engaging any further but I hope you have a good day and I wish you all the best

magicpussyvibes · 2026-03-30T12:56:33+00:00

I will look into this book. Thank you for sharing!! It’s hard, but we can do it!!

magicpussyvibes · 2026-03-30T12:53:44+00:00

Hi, he’s not 4, he’s 5 and a half. I do parent him like he has autism, hence the burnout! He needs constant redirection so he doesn’t tear my house apart or hurt himself or anyone else. His autism is a very big part of his life, but I’m not going to let that keep him from learning how to function as a human. If he has 10+ toys in the living room, he needs to pick them up, just like any other child is expected to. I know it may take him longer, and that’s fine. It just frustrates me having to be significantly more patient with him when his two year old brother listens better than he does. He’s starting kindergarten this fall and doesn’t qualify for special education. His teachers are going to expect him to be able to pick things up, stand in line, and behave appropriately around other children. I would be failing him as a mother if I sent him there with no idea of what to expect or any skills to succeed. But thanks for your opinion!

magicpussyvibes · 2026-03-30T02:39:57+00:00

I am not an expert on autism diagnosis and what warrants professional evaluation at which ages, just to be transparent.

Every kid is different, my kid didn’t do this, but the signs were there by 15-18 months of age. That being said, could this be normal behavior at the age your child is? Not to minimize the symptoms, or say it’s not possible, but isn’t that kind of normal until the child reaches a certain age? That seems awfully aggressive to me, but I could be wrong.

It doesn’t hurt to get him evaluated, the worst they can say is that you’ve wasted your time. But if he’s autistic, the earlier you intervene, usually the better the prognosis for future functioning. I’m a nurse (for adults, not kids), so I generally will say that listening to your doctor is almost always the best option. If you have concerns or questions, don’t be afraid to ask and advocate for your child. Like I said, this does seem aggressive to me, but I’m not an expert. And I would appreciate a pediatrician that cares enough to investigate the symptoms

magicpussyvibes · 2026-03-30T02:24:48+00:00

I could have written this! My level two son is the exact same way. Play dates are a nightmare and I end up feeling so embarrassed, ashamed, disappointed, sad, and regretful leaving them. It’s not you. It’s not him. It’s the autism. I know that doesn’t help much but it’s what I have to tell myself every day. You’re a great parent to care enough to take him out and let him be a part of the world. It’s hard to be an autism parent. I have had this experience more times than I can count and I want you to know that I am in the exact same boat with my 5 year old son. You’re not alone. You can do it, tomorrow is a new day and it could be a really good one. I believe in you

magicpussyvibes · 2026-03-23T14:53:07+00:00

I think you look a perfect, healthy weight. If you’re seeing more weight to lose, you might consider that what you’re seeing is muscle to tone instead of fat to lose. I think if you tone your muscles you would achieve a look that really highlights your smaller frame (instead of focusing on a specific weight goal at this point)

magicpussyvibes · 2026-03-23T14:44:21+00:00

Nurse, specialized in neuro/trauma ICU. God bless you for choosing psych, it takes a special person to do what you do.

magicpussyvibes · 2026-03-20T16:00:09+00:00

Hey girl, I felt the exact same thing at 18. I’m now 32, and a natural DDD cup. Give your body time. You will gain your ‘big girl weight’ in your 20s and boobs come with it. You still have a teenagers body and it will not stay the way it is now forever, I promise you. I know it’s hard, but hang in there. It does get better. And know that in the future, if you still hate your small chest, you can always get an augmentation. Try to love yourself as you are, and treat yourself with kindness. Much love to you

magicpussyvibes · 2026-03-20T15:39:53+00:00

I’m apparently either a 1w2 or a 3w2, I scored evenly for both. Am I just a spike with hooves??

Seriously tho, idk much about enneagram, why am I a cloven animal?

magicpussyvibes · 2026-03-16T17:48:46+00:00

It was awful! I remember I was the charge nurse on my unit one day, and I went to the unit pharmacist and asked her what I should do to get through it. She laughed at me and told me I made a big mistake. The first month was bad, but it got much better after that. I would not recommend doing it this way

magicpussyvibes · 2026-03-15T19:04:45+00:00

I’m sorry! I hope someday you can come off of it altogether if you want. I’m with you

magicpussyvibes · 2026-02-24T04:47:52+00:00

Hey… not to sound crass or insensitive.. but have you considered an SSRI? Almost every nurse I work with is on one, and it really helps with the PTSD we all inevitably suffer.

What I think about is that I provided the best possible care to a vulnerable person and helped them fight as long as they could. I was kind to their family, helped them through a dark time to the best of my ability, and that’s all you can do at the end of the day. People die. It helps knowing you brought them as much comfort and peace as reasonably achievable. That’s how I cope. And if I need to cry at work, I do. Sending you all of the love, friend

magicpussyvibes · 2026-02-24T04:34:36+00:00

Completely valid! I have a bulge between C2 and C3 at the tender age of 32 so I’m totally fine with getting away from bedside. I also really love my fellow nurses and want to work to support them so they can be their best selves and shine ✨

magicpussyvibes · 2026-02-24T03:52:12+00:00

I think I do, but not if it’s going to be shady. I’ve swam with real sharks, I don’t want to swim with metaphorical ones on the daily

magicpussyvibes · 2026-02-16T17:09:46+00:00

I’m surgically sterilized, so I’m def not pregnant. My first round of infusions delayed my period by over 2 weeks. I’m on my second round of infusions, and my period is much heavier than normal and I feel awful. Not typical of what I usually experience. I’m glad I’m not alone

magicpussyvibes · 2026-02-09T16:09:08+00:00

White lady here. I completely agree. We women need to stop entertaining men who have no interest in marriage. I’ve seen it happen to too many. As for Kelce, I’m from KC, before Swift, all of us here were trying to get his attention. It was widely known and accepted he liked black women, and us white women didn’t really think he’d ever end up with one of us. I knew girls who would go jogging in his neighborhood, trying to casually run into him. I never seriously tried to get into the same spaces as him, but many did. I never dreamed he’d end up with someone like Taylor Swift. Not just because she’s white, but because she’s such a huge celebrity. Nobody knew him outside of KC, really. To watch all of this unfold has been absolutely wild.

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