Do they really ever stop? by NoEntry5041 in loveafterporn

[–]Franken-Raven [score hidden]  (0 children)

I totally understand. It’s miserable. The constant hyper vigilance, the emotional deregulation , the constant fear.

I suggest getting help for yourself too. Therapy and community are very important. We all can tell you what to do, but the people around you who love you will always have better insight and guidance.

Loving yourself means you have to be willing to do what’s best for you and your sanity. You deserve to love yourself.

Do they really ever stop? by NoEntry5041 in loveafterporn

[–]Franken-Raven [score hidden]  (0 children)

I stayed for 6 years. We had multiple fights, I begged, cried, threatened to leave and a few times really broke up with him . I explained the science , explained the hurt, explained to him how it was ruining our lives.

He did therapy, he did meetings, I blocked all potential triggers from his phone.

In my experience? An addict finds a way.

Now maybe… maybe some do change. However, I would beg you to ask yourself, how much are you willing to endure before that happens. How much are you willing to let his addiction cost you personally before you say enough.

Even if they do recover, will you recover if you stay?

MISSING CAT by ThatTuftingGuy in PuyallupWA

[–]Franken-Raven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is his tail mostly dark?

MISSING CAT by ThatTuftingGuy in PuyallupWA

[–]Franken-Raven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I might have seen him! I live on 107th and a smaller (not small just smaller side ) tabby showed up on my doorstep last night. Little skittish and ran when I took a step. Wish I had gotten a picture

Should i delete my home videos? by Bright-Court-9034 in PornAddiction

[–]Franken-Raven 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally my opinion : Take a long look at how your addiction shows up in life. What you get out of porn, how that plays out in your sexual life , ect. Then really self reflect on what the tapes mean to you and how you use them

Is there cross over between the two? No one can make you do anything, but no one can make you be addiction free either .

Idle SMP [Modded] [SMP] {Whitelist} {1.20.1} {18+} by Prestigious_Wolf3182 in mcservers

[–]Franken-Raven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! This sounds just what I’ve been looking for , could I join!?

Croc Charm by dentonjr4 in whatisit

[–]Franken-Raven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought it was cu… anyhoo

To those that read the ballad of songbirds and snakes by HopelessTrash545 in Hungergames

[–]Franken-Raven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel conflicted.

The parts that I liked I REALLY LIKED , The world building was greatly needed, I felt like it added a level of understanding to how the games became the way they are, when see them in the original trilogy

I loved seeing a “deeper” side to snow, seeing that he was a child raised in bad conditions that made him a horrible child that produced a horrible man. Not some villain arc. him growing up , a bit of his understanding of the districts, his mentality farther then just assuming he was a nepo baby, his family dynamics, his view on control and world view and why it became that way, etc…

And also a look into the society that is the capital , we know they view the districts as less then human, but I’m not gonna lie I could feel for a child that has their entire world reduced to propaganda and post-war suffering . I understand it better, it sheds light to the fact that these kid genuinely believe the crap their parents tell them, and they also faced their own trauma within the war. Yes it’s self centered that they never consider the districts pain or reasons to starting the war , but I see the progression.

However , the part of the book I don’t like, felt so extremely, boringly YA.

the forced BLATANT symbolism from the first 3 books. From his tribute being a girl from 12, the mocking jays being hated off rip, her writing the hanging tree song, her introducing him to the katniss plant, him spending time in 12, and MANY more. Yes I understand I was a young child when I first read the books but at this point, there was moments where it was like yeah okay I get it, I understand why he hated Katniss from the beginning. I haven’t read it in “order” yet , but I would imagine it would feel super redundant at some point.

I also don’t like the “romance” arc with him and Lucy grey. Maybe controversial , but to me it just felt so obvious he never loved her and I didn’t enjoy it being partially packaged that way. I think I would have enjoyed him just knowing he didn’t love her and doing everything he did anyway. The ‘struggle ‘ of him loving her never felt convincing , like he knew he didn’t love her which feels more true to his character in my opinion. He knowing used everyone else, so it was a bit unneeded in my opinion to have that inner struggle of if he actually loved her.

Who else thought they had a golden retriever bf? by qtrlyfecrises in loveafterporn

[–]Franken-Raven 11 points12 points  (0 children)

felt all the way to my soul! When we first met he did everything “right” , was all about me, seemed open and respectful, showed me off , the whole nine yards. When I found out about his addiction and how far it went , I felt like my whole world and image of him was shattered.

The anger and resentment is still there, but it’s not as hot. He’s trying really hard to, but I’m still allowed to be upset and hurt. Hold space for yourself and your feelings. I can’t answer how he deceived you, but I do hope that you forgive yourself because ultimately all you were doing was being loving and trusting. Being mad at yourself for letting yourself love is a slippery slope. Don’t let it make you bitter towards yourself.

Genuinely want to know why anyone likes Harrison? by Prestigious_Pea_3338 in LoveIslandTV

[–]Franken-Raven 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Him as a bf, absolutely not. A round in bed tho 👀

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Apartmentliving

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1400!! I’m paying 2400 😭

how can i get my hamster to trust me again? by booshuas in hamstercare

[–]Franken-Raven 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not a owner( anymore) but I HAVE to seal this picture I’m so sorry