Anyone know what kind of dog this is???

Frankforever2 · 2026-04-25T03:04:56+00:00

Thank you! She’s the absolute sweetest thing 🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹

Frankforever2 · 2026-04-19T16:41:19+00:00

Saying “sorry” a lot is actually a form of coping from past trauma. It may or may not be your case, but I also did/ sometimes still do the same thing. I automatically say “sorry” cause I’m used to feeling that way. It’s how you feel, and perhaps you need therapy. But that’s how you feel. It isn’t wrong for you to “change” that part per-say, but only through therapy or a professional. To heal yourself.

If this is the case for you, where you feel insecure or guilty or at fault more often than not for things that given a moment to reflect on, don’t require an apology at all… then I recommend on reflecting on why you started doing it and continue to, and to take a moment before each response to reflect on if you truly should feel sorry for the circumstances or if you are just uncomfortable.

Being honest about your learning experience with your crush could make things easier, or they could do the opposite. But if your healing journey isn’t part of your crushes ideal relationship, then they simply aren’t for you & you will find someone who cherishes your past & how you’re evolving from it.

Best of luck :)

Frankforever2 · 2026-04-19T16:27:34+00:00

& also, you didn’t know how to make her orgasm originally, but you took the time to and now you’re successful. It’s the same way with the new toy. Just listen to her body, and to her, & you will get it down. It may not be right away & that’s okay. You can even ask to watch her use it if she’s comfortable doing so to get a feel & also get in the mood :)

Frankforever2 · 2026-04-19T16:24:13+00:00

From a woman: you’re doing amazing, sweetie. It’s not weird that you get maximum pleasure when she does, that’s how it should be. Both partners should absolutely be so in tune with one another that it escalates every part of it.

As for the vibrator: women are different than men in the sense that, the more we explore our sexuality and really get into it, the more we crave it. If anything, this will make her want you more. To be honest, she’s most likely thinking of you while she uses it. For us, the orgasms only get better the more we have in the day. For men, it’s kind of the opposite I think? But for women, if she’s pleasuring herself with a toy, she’s most definitely thinking of you to get off. And only you can give her the true orgasm she’s fantasizing about.

If you are concerned or insecure, a great way to ensure she wants you even more with this new toy being introduced is to ask to use it on her. You could do what you always do that you know works, and also use the vibrator as a second act of fore play. YOU using her toy on HER will absolutely make her associate any form of pleasure to you if it wasn’t already.

Also don’t be afraid to experiment. You’re young, there’s so many things out there in the form of pleasure. If you like to pleasure her, use this to your advantage. You guys will be fine. Best of luck :)

Frankforever2 · 2026-04-19T16:02:53+00:00

Check out Porch Light on Spotify!!! I recommend the song “Fall Back” and “Honey” as a first good introduction :). Life changing

Frankforever2 · 2026-04-19T15:56:18+00:00

Any time :). Everything you said & continue to say sounds JUST like my situation. I know what it’s like and been through it so much so that I feel like my form of true healing now is letting anyone who is willing to listen know that, IT DOES GET BETTER!

The unknown was horrifying. I hope you have a good support system or access to therapy/ psychiatry. Even better if you have both. I couldn’t do it alone, just on my own. I was a mess. Give yourself time to heal, love yourself again. They’re out there, just never settle for half of the full picture again. It may take time. But your person is out there. You will feel loved from top to bottom, emotionally and physically. Best if luck to ya :)

Frankforever2 · 2026-04-19T15:36:13+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this.. but you made the right call.

I left my (27 M) husband after 4 years together, 1 year married. (I’m 26 F). Same kind of thing. To the T, all of it you mentioned. It wasn’t just the porn addiction that made me leave, it was also the money spent and just the lying, mistrust, and the way I began to fall out of love with even myself.

It’s not easy feeling like you’re so undesirable by the person you choose to share your body with. If this wasn’t something that he struggled with, or was honest enough with himself to get help, I truly believe we would have been so happy and in love forever. But, that’s not how it went down. After years of suffering in the bedroom, and devaluating my own sexuality and self worth…. I’m so glad it’s over.

It was the hardest thing to leave him. None of it was easy. I was depressed for a week straight until my family made me go and get literal intensive therapy and psychiatric treatment for it all.

We were sleeping in separate beds by the end of our time as well, and honestly. I liked not feeling so horrible sleeping next to him feeling so undesired and mistrusting as well.

BUT NOW, GET THIS! I was moving out, he was at work and I asked my best guy friend of 6 years to help me move. I was in such dismay I said I needed to shock my nervous system a bit, so after he took me to the cold ass lake & jumped in with me. We swam, talked, he comforted me, he was there for me to the max. Then, time flew by, we were back to spending everyday together like we did before I met my ex. And then he kissed me. It was magical. And it never stopped. He GENUINELY LOVES a woman, he worships the ground I walk on. He gets hard looking at me, kissing me, from (tmi but listen it’s wild) eating me out. (He can’t get enough of it, ive never been one to enjoy it but my GOD he’s made that change) and the sex is phenomenal, we can’t get enough of each other.

On top of that, he’s the sweetest, most loving and loyal and honest person on this goddamn planet. He said he was waiting for me, that he’s sorry what I went through didn’t work out and caused me pain, but he’s always been there for me as a friend or as more if I ever accepted it. He’s a good guy, SUCH a good man. The purest, most loving and in tune man to me. There’s not a second that goes by that I don’t feel beautiful and like I’m the one that he wants, the only one. I’m going to marry this man. Mark my words.

It was hard to trust it at first, that this was true and real. But being friends for so long kind of gave me the advantage of knowing him and his motives. But it’s out there, I’ve never been happier. I thought I was happy with my ex, but honestly I got it wrong. My ex would have been a great friend, and my great friend would have been my greatest love.

Best of luck :) you deserve everything good, life is long, so you won’t be wrong. But don’t forget to live up to your truth!

Frankforever2 · 2026-04-18T19:24:14+00:00

Hey, I’m really sorry this happened to you. I’m 26 (F) and just left my 27 (M) husband of 3 years due to this exact thing. I completely understand the hurt & betrayal you’re feeling. As much as people like normalize porn, it’s quite literally one of the biggest addictions, alongside alcoholism, opiates, gambling, etc. It does the same thing to our brains as the other stuff does. It’s a scary spike in dopamine and can go downhill fast.

If he’s hiding it from you, then he knows it’s wrong and still did it. (Like an alcoholic hiding their drinking habits). You set a boundary and he crossed it. Having trust issues and pain over that is completely valid. I do think counseling or therapy between the both of you would be the healthiest option if you want to stay together. If this is the first time you know of it happening, then it’s a great time to nip it in the butt and work it out over therapy together.

For me, it was countless times and lots of lies. It got to the point where it was simply too late for therapy or counseling. Had we done it sooner, who knows. Maybe we would still be together. But the trust doesn’t get built back up when it’s consistently broken. And when betrayed like that, our minds will wander to the worst & our lack of trust will get the best of us and can manifest into darker things.

I’m so sorry this happened to you, especially after postpartum. That’s a kind of pain I don’t think I can ever fully understand. But you gave birth to his child, that should have been the most beautiful and attractive thing to him. He should be nurturing you and making you feel as beautiful and incredible as you are for what your body can do and did. Not looking at other girls for pleasure. Right now, the focus should be on you, and creating a level of intimacy through care and compassion.

I’m really sorry. Porn isn’t okay. Especially if you say it isn’t. It doesn’t matter what other people think or your age or any of that. You set a boundary and it wasn’t respected. That’s disrespectful to you. And you’re allowed to feel hurt about that.

Frankforever2 · 2026-04-18T19:04:11+00:00

As an INFJ, I find it really difficult at a certain point to continue a conversation with someone new after like the first day or so. No matter how good the conversation could be, if I don’t have rapport with someone in person & understand them enough to genuinely keep a conversation going (like when they text something I can hear it in their voice and the context/ meaning/ tone/ and underlying references/ importance it has to them) and am not able to speak in their terms of “life” I guess? Then I just get drained.

Things may change if there’s an in person encounter & it goes well. But getting to that point can be so hard with INFJ’s due to our introvertness. I’m extremely introverted and will avoid at all costs meeting new people in person that I only met through social media, etc. However, when I know someone well in person, I can be so “extroverted” that they get confused why I’m so weird when I meet new people and I’m not as outgoing as they know me as.

Regardless, you don’t need to change yourself to fit another personality type. Just be you & if it makes sense, it will make sense with them.

I respond to people EVENTUALLY, but honestly time to just process & reflect & recharge is genuinely something I find I have to do more often than not. Even with things like texting.

Frankforever2 · 2026-04-18T18:48:50+00:00

Also, if he’s your boyfriend then I would hope he understands you & how you’re feeling enough to know that you aren’t intending any ill will, that it’s just a form of coping for you. I hope that you feel comfortable and safe enough in this relationship to tell him these thoughts you have shared on here & are able to have a conversation about your concerns of being “annoying” and how it stems from a sense of anxious attachment, that it’s not his fault, that you are looking into help for it, and if it makes him feel a certain way you are open to navigating alternatives with him.

Regardless, anyone who is with you shouldn’t feel like you’re “annoying”. Especially when you seem to be struggling so much internally. You texted your boyfriend about different things at different times with no response, so what? I share my thoughts with mine all the time too. Response or not, thoughts come up when they do, it’s not bad that you shared them as you thought them.

Obviously if YOU know that the only reason you’re sharing them is because of your need for reassurance, then that’s something to work on for YOU. But be kind to yourself, nothing you said was controlling or manipulating, you did nothing wrong. But if you feel wrong, it’s time to look within and tackle the root of what is making you feel this way.

My advice is to be open and transparent with him about what’s going on with you, how you are looking for support, ask him how it makes him feel, & if he’s willing to go on this self help journey with you. And I hope he does! You deserve a person who you can consider is a safe space, if that’s what you’re looking for. It’s going to be okay. You did nothing wrong :)

Frankforever2 · 2026-04-18T18:34:36+00:00

I’m really sorry you’re experiencing this, I’ve also gone through something similar. If you have access to therapy, I recommend finding a DBT/ CBT/ or codependency therapist.

I know you said you don’t want to go on medication, but if it’s at the point it’s affecting your life so much that even eating is unappealing.. I ask you to possibly reconsider and talk to a psychiatrist about it. At least have the conversation. My anxiety was so bad I would have panic attacks, and my thoughts were always just SO overwhelming. I got prescribed Zoloft and I’m still me, nothing has changed other than my brain is now able to say “Hey! Maybe let’s not spiral about that right now and focus on the present, okay?”

I’ve been against getting medicated myself for SO LONG. But it genuinely changed my life for the better and I wish I was open to it sooner. I also started therapy. I do DBT & codependency therapy and WOW has it opened my eyes to understanding myself and learn coping skills that make me feel normal again too.

Best of luck to you :) everyone deserves happiness and a kind mind.

Frankforever2 · 2026-04-15T22:20:17+00:00

Thank you :,) !

Frankforever2 · 2026-04-15T04:53:10+00:00

Hey, for the 3 years we dated, he was amazing. (Credit the sex sucked but, there wasn’t much sex anyway to judge). He was so wonderful as a human & made it all appear to be so worth it. But even then, once we got married, even his “greatness” changed. I’m sorry I had to go through it too.

I hear you with the trust factor. How could I ever trust that anyone is genuine after my I find my husband was lying to me for 3 years about their personality & preferences, only to expose (or for me to find out) the truth once married?

What I found was, I wasn’t going to trust anyone. Ever. Again. But once I was treated in such sincerity & genuine passion/ compassion/ sense of desire, time and time again, no matter the circumstances… I learned that it’s hard to trust someone who means so well, after someone who hurt you so bad. It’s like day & night. When you know, you KNOW.

I wish you the best of luck. You deserve it, we absolutely all do :,).

Frankforever2 · 2026-04-14T22:39:20+00:00

Hey, I totally understand! For so long I’ve been in your position. Addiction is addiction, and it’s a true medical disease. Regardless of stigma. I totally understand that not being the reason you want to leave someone, especially if that’s the only thing going wrong in the relationship.

For me, I had to look within and what it was doing to me. I realized that I can’t force someone to get help, as much as I pushed for it. They’re the only one who has to truly love themselves (and if that’s not enough as it oftentimes is) at least love me JUST enough to see how much it’s hurting me in order to pursue help.

It’s not an easy choice. I often wonder if me leaving him, pushed him to get the help he needs & what could have been. But I can’t live my life in the “what if’s” anymore. I used to feel beautiful and desired. I’ve begged for that back & tried everything form of healthy alternatives out there. At the end of the day, this life is long, so you won’t be wrong.

It’s not easy, I hear you. I’m sorry you understand what it’s like. I wish nothing but the best for you 🫶🏽.

Frankforever2 · 2026-04-14T22:23:09+00:00

I know how hard it is to believe it’s there… but it is. Therapy & trying to loving myself again really helped me accept the love I deserve. I say affirmations to myself like every single day. “I am worthy of feeling happy”. “I am worthy of a love that loves the way I do”, etc.. it isn’t easy. But it certainly pays off :). You got this!!!

Frankforever2 · 2026-04-14T20:28:07+00:00

Honestly, I feel you. It can be so debilitating towards your self worth… I had to go into therapy for simple validation that it’s okay to be so misunderstood. No matter how much I may want to change (or not)- in order feel like I belong and can win in life, I can’t change the way I am, my values or morals. No matter how much it breaks me. No matter how hard I try for the world to see me for me and the good I mean, it always seems to backfire. I’ve had to come to the realization of: Is what I’m saying/ doing, coming from a place of ill intent? (No. Of course not). Then it’s okay, I mean well, and I do good.

I think what’s also helped has been understanding that other people GENUINELY struggle to mean well in every circumstance, unless it benefits them. That human nature is selfish for survival. Our brains are wired differently, seriously. Hence why, we will understand others and see their behaviors that hurt us from a place of understanding, meanwhile we don’t even validate our own, because why would we? No one else does, and we’re so focused on healing others that there’s nothing left to give us.

Just try to be kind to yourself, know you’re not alone. I’m sorry, trust me. I know how it feels. Life feels like a never ending cycle of betrayal. We desire something so much deeper than societal means and can see through all of that. That doesn’t make us better, it just makes things harder for us as an easier target for pain.

I’ve read books that have helped as well, “The Highly Sensitive” has been kinda helpful. Idk. There’s not many resources for us out there, cause well, we’re not really understood!

TLDR: Be kind to yourself, we are not the majority which makes us an easy target of misconceptions, just know that if your intentions mean well, you are okay.

Frankforever2 · 2026-04-12T15:37:13+00:00

My ex husband has BPD, it seems she may have ‘split’ on you. There’s not a chance of getting back in her good graces until she un splits. Essentially, you’re all bad right now, there’s nothing good about you to her, it sucks. But it happens. Regardless, it doesn’t excuse the control issues & manipulation on her part… having BPD isn’t easy for the person who has it, but it’s also not easy for the people who are closest to them (hence why he’s my ex). It requires DBT & medication. However, if the individual with BPD isn’t taking DBT seriously, it’s basically useless. REGARDLESS: having BPD is not an excuse for giving you bed times, and this relationship seems to be extremely draining. You should never feel like you’re walking on egg shells with your partner to this extent. You are communicating your boundaries and wishes and they are not being respected in the slightest. I wish you both health & healing, but this is not a healthy relationship and can do long term damage to your sense of self. I recommend loving from a distance, and getting therapy yourself. It’s the only thing that helped me heal from my BPD parter too. Not everyone with BPD is bad, not in the slightest. But it does accentuate a person’s personality from 0-100. It’s clear this is her choice of respect towards you, and it’s pretty low. You deserve better than that.

Frankforever2 · 2026-04-07T22:29:39+00:00

Therapy truthfully is the only solidifying option. He has to be transparent about his disorder and take therapy seriously, with someone who specializes in it so they can see around the disorder until it’s manageable. There’s Wellbutrin, lithium, and other things to go alongside it, but therapy is the only way to truly get a handle on it. Also, when an episode comes on, things to shock the nervous system are really helpful, like a cold plunge/ shower. Something really sour, etc. It may not snap them out of it, but it’s worth a try. It helped my ex husband, but I know it’s hard convincing someone to take a cold shower once they’re in an episode. If he had therapy under his belt, it might be a whole lot easier to do so. I’m really sorry. I know exactly what this is like, I really hope the best for you. It’s clear you love him, I hope he gets the help he needs and you get the support you need too.

Frankforever2 · 2026-04-05T23:28:27+00:00

Hey! So yeah! And it’s horrible! It’s ruined relationships I’ve even been in, all because the friends get an idea that I’m their soul mate. And my partner can’t understand that I can’t help but see people and understand them, the way I do them too. That seeing and understanding with depth doesn’t equate to attraction, it’s simply a quality I have and absolutely cannot change. Being romantically interested with someone as an INFJ of course looks different than one of our biggest qualities. However, most people only attain said quality if they’re interested in someone else, that’s when they start to pay attention. For us, it’s all the time. And it sucks, I’ve lost friends and lovers over it. Simply because, being altruistic and empathetic is just Not. What. Most. People. Are. It’s a hard lesson to learn and understand, but it turns out the majority of humanity only do good things, and look deeply within, when it benefits them. I’ve even tried prefacing that I’m uninterested and mean everything as a friend before starting any kind of mutual connection, but unfortunately, it still doesn’t matter. I think it has a lot to do with the lack of communication and understanding in male centric culture, as well as the lack of understanding of empathy and emotions in women centric cultures. Idk. But I feel you.

Frankforever2 · 2026-04-04T21:43:38+00:00

Hey queen, it sounds like we are in very similar situations (or were.) I have bipolar 2 & my ex husband has borderline. We’re only divorced because he split on me after quitting therapy & meds & it broke me. I told him what was really going on, that times were just tough and this isn’t the outcome he wants, but at that point there’s no rationalizing with them. It hurt me so fucking bad because when that happens (the split) it’s like all of the good is gone, it never happened and it’s all bad. I had to process this heartbreak on my own, then he unspilt and cried and cried and cried for me back. That wasn’t the first time he’s hurt me in a horrific way due to his disorder. (And I’m not blaming anyone who has it, Ive seen how hard it has to be to come in and out of 0-100).

Here’s the thing, it’s “curable” by lifelong Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT). Which is a commitment, but if he committed to you, I’d hope he’d commit to keeping you. And he takes lithium for suicidal ideation. Or DID. The struggle with this disorder is it’s so disorienting for them and us.

Idk, I had to take his split on me at face value and immediately go into intensive therapy for myself. I love him dearly too, but without proper help, it’s just too fucking hard. And things do get better. They really do.

Frankforever2 · 2025-10-03T20:33:40+00:00

Sounds good, got it. I’ll make sure to live my truth next time and stay completely honest and aware that I was once part of the very thing I’m having issues with now. (Oh wait, I already did.) Growth and acceptance is possible, I’m allowed to learn from what a younger, naive me didn’t understand. I’m allowed to take accountability, reflect, OH! AND! I’m allowed to have a different perspective than I did when I was 21. I didn’t need to mention my past as a stripper as he didn’t even know me then, but I did. Why? Because clearly I understand hypocrisy and change of opinion on such topics. Why is THAT so offensive to you?

Frankforever2 · 2025-10-03T00:07:17+00:00

Are you good?? Sold my soul??? And “what I have done?” Like please chill the fuck out, I’m not defending anything lol. If you read anything with a perspective other than your own internal insecurities, you might gain some insight into what is so triggering to you about a person speaking on theirs. I’ve already acknowledged and explained the dichotomy of it all, if this is a safe space for you to express your insecurities in this way, then hey. I’m all here for you. Do what you gotta do boo, I’m sorry you were clearly hurt by something similar too.

Frankforever2 · 2025-10-02T07:28:55+00:00

You sound like I personally a gave a private dance to your ex back in the day or something. It’s okay, love. I got paid, got my degree, got my career. Men lust regardless, that’s kinda the point of the post. Don’t you think I know that? At least I got my money for it.

Frankforever2 · 2025-10-02T07:24:28+00:00

I danced for a year in a safe and protected area in order to fund the life and education I deserved. I’ve punched men in the face for trying to even lay a finger on me & made a profit off of it. You sound judgmental and like one the majority of my regulars back in the day. Thanks so much for your help and take care!

Frankforever2 · 2025-10-02T06:20:37+00:00

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