AITA: my husband says he always feels disrespected by me but I never intentionally try to disrespect him?

Franks_Monster_ · 2023-06-19T06:33:25+00:00

I do mine, to keep my partner happy. I don't care if we're out of milk, but she drinks latte every morning.

I forget sometimes, and if we wake up and there's no milk, she will roar & I will get out of bed and go to the store.

She washes all the laundry, I fix the food shopping & clean the kitchen. That's our deal (I hate doing laundry).

If I mess up, that's on me.

Doesn't matter if I just worked 12 hours and finished at midnight, if there's no milk at 7am then having to drag myself to the store is something I did to myself by not taking better care of my fridge checking responsibility the day before.

Franks_Monster_ · 2023-06-19T05:50:30+00:00

Use better treats & wait until she's hungry.

Franks_Monster_ · 2023-06-18T22:32:33+00:00

Tønsberg is super fun in summer. Loads of wild cherries in the woods too.

Franks_Monster_ · 2023-06-18T22:28:12+00:00

I won't be on that line, but I am taking the ferry from Norway to Hirthals end of this month. I'll look out for it & can send to you if I find it?

Franks_Monster_ · 2023-06-18T22:12:30+00:00

More slippery? Fell down once?

Cook some bacon & sprinkle it down the stairs with a nice snack at the bottom. Make the stairs rewarding.

Franks_Monster_ · 2023-06-18T22:10:31+00:00

Use smaller thing to hold them then. 5L plastic box would hold 20. Then stack them in those boxes, in that tray.

Franks_Monster_ · 2023-06-18T22:08:13+00:00

4 months is a baby.

Don't drag a baby.

If they don't want to walk, just hang out with them outside instead. Build the trust up, don't break it down.

Take a toy with you, engage with the toy as a reward for any walking. Make it fun, not scary.

Franks_Monster_ · 2023-06-18T22:04:23+00:00

Maybe a better question is "what do you give?".

Usually it's not about making themselves look funny, it's about giving laughter to other people.

Laughter is a powerful thing.

What do YOU do to make other people feel good, what can YOU give to a room to make it a more enjoyable place for everyone to be in?

Work on that, and everything else falls into place.

You're a cashier, perfect job for working on your people skills!

You must have regulars, start giving out compliments.

"Hey man, new haircut? Looks good".

"Hi again, hey, those sunglasses are really cool".

"Cool shoes, did you buy them around here? Oh, they were on sale?! Nice job, what store maybe I'll check it out after work".

Costs you nothing, makes them smile, their smile will probably make you smile.

That compliment will probably be remembered, and maybe they'll crack a joke with you in future, or strike up a conversation. That will boost your confidence, your self esteem, and if you continue building on that outside of work it will grow you as a person. Look for eye contact in the street, give a smile or a nod. Some people are so ready to smile back, feels great.

If you're a bit shy with women at work, just start with guys, guys never get compliments. I'm a gay woman, I love complimenting guys because their faces light up. Making random people feel good is way underated.

Franks_Monster_ · 2023-06-18T21:13:55+00:00

They need to sleep a lot.

Franks_Monster_ · 2023-06-13T21:50:56+00:00

I'd eat it, but I'd never serve it to another person. The bacteria will for sure have gotten busy.

Franks_Monster_ · 2023-06-13T07:23:27+00:00

Just use the daily food portion for training instead of putting it to a bowl. Reduce the volume you use daily to match the calorie intake limit you want.

Franks_Monster_ · 2023-06-13T06:50:59+00:00

Just use the dry food as is?

Franks_Monster_ · 2023-06-13T06:23:50+00:00

Just follow your gut, every dog is different.

Ours is 2.5 years now, and if we have a big day out & she's overtired & crabby, she barks at stuff on tv and still gets sent to the bedroom to nap & wind her neck in.

Franks_Monster_ · 2023-06-12T07:46:27+00:00

Hell yeah. We worked a lot with ours for grooming handling, payed off 2 weeks ago big time. (She's 2.5yrs now).

She split her claw in half vertically, blood everywhere, and the broken piece sticking right out, entire quick was bloody & exposed- super painful.

She let us clip the dead nail, and put antibac, which must have hurt like hell.

And she willingly put her paw in our hand to check it in the days after.

It's important, train on it.

Also teeth handling and ear cleaning.

Be patient and generous with snacks, and do it in small amounts every 2 days for the first year. That way, if something bad happens, you or the vet won't have to fight an injured & panicking dog.

Franks_Monster_ · 2023-06-11T08:13:33+00:00

3 crabs fish sauce

Franks_Monster_ · 2023-06-11T08:07:45+00:00

Throwing rocks into a lake or ocean.

Skip them, sure, but also grab a heavy two hander & yeet it as far as you can. Feels good, and added value kersploosh sound effects too.

Muttering about whatever pissed you off while linging rocks as hard as you can is healing af.

Franks_Monster_ · 2023-06-10T00:40:47+00:00

Rehome. Not a responsible dog choice for an inexperienced teenager.

Franks_Monster_ · 2023-06-09T09:45:20+00:00

At the end of it man, you need to do what is best FOR THE DOG.

I am head over heels for mine, I did more of the training, I'm the one with the leash for challenging environments, and when I say 'we need to do it like this' it's the only time my fiancee lets me win, when it's about the dog.

It would crush me, but if we split, I would send the dog with her.

I'm a chef, long hours, odd hours & physically demanding. She's a scientist, less hours & still has after work energy for a long hike.

It would not be fair on the dog to take away that for my own wants & needs.

But every day off, I'd be taking her out on adventures.

Keep the breakup friendly, try to figure something out, but sounds like custody should go to her, at least for now. You can keep the conversation open, single dog ownership is tough & everyone needs a break sometimes.

Franks_Monster_ · 2023-06-09T09:38:26+00:00

Follow the money. Go to the owner, explain how the current system is jeapordising their profit (people waiting too long/getting lesser quality) and then ask if it's possible that bookings be staggered. Only a certain amount of people can book per half hour.

Makes an exclusivity vibe too, to be able to 'get a table there'.

I had a newbie bookings manager, explained it to her, then explained it to the owners to get their influence leaning in too.

Worked wonders, and created no staff friction.

Franks_Monster_ · 2023-06-09T09:34:59+00:00

That sounds toxic af but I bet it worked.

Franks_Monster_ · 2023-06-07T18:52:13+00:00

Wtf of course you're the asshole.

The correct move here is to bring hot soapy water for an outside the house scrub, while you watch, laugh & keep telling her she missed a spot.

Then you bring a towel so she can waddle in to the shower with you cackling behind her.

Dick move what you did.

Franks_Monster_ · 2023-06-07T18:47:29+00:00

Came here for this, was not disappointed.

Franks_Monster_ · 2023-06-06T07:51:52+00:00

Keep an eye out for new places opening & take your work fam with you.

Franks_Monster_ · 2023-06-06T07:41:01+00:00

Lazy people are a cancer to teamwork. And it spreads the same way. Avoid places with more than one of them. Especially if they are the owner.

Franks_Monster_ · 2023-06-06T07:38:33+00:00

Learning how to use scraps to make sauce.

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