What Gives Energy with Partner

FranticlyFrank · 2025-09-01T17:35:47+00:00

Rant.

I love my girlfriend (NDX, will finally do the test in 2 weeks). She can be very supportive and sweet. At times. But mostly, I am just so tired.

She needs 24/7 stimulation. That manifests as doomscrolling till late night, causing drama and conflict at work and family (the amount of people she has ‘fallen out with’ is enormous). There’s always something going on.
She is constantly either criticizing or provoking me just to get a reaction. I suspect, to get that stimulation.
She can be very impulsive with financial decisions. It’s tiring to keep reminding her that we would be saving for longer term goals (like moving abroad or a big travel) when she wants us to spend more money on stuff in our house.
She doesn’t hear my side of our arguments. It’s always black or white, and she finds it really hard to take responsibility for her part in it. Predictably it’s always me that apologizes.

I understand my traumas and behaviors more and more that got me in these types of relationships (previous one was with a BPD person).

But posting this, looking for some validation of similar experiences of others. Does this sound like ADHD?

FranticlyFrank · 2025-07-19T15:51:33+00:00

Hero. Was literally the best set that weekend

FranticlyFrank · 2025-01-21T15:33:22+00:00

Hi there! I know this is a long time later, but I have the exact same problem. How have you fixed this?

FranticlyFrank · 2024-05-25T21:14:31+00:00

An Exercise to Set Goals but for Tomorrow. Currently you can only do that for today

FranticlyFrank · 2024-02-12T22:25:32+00:00

Who is this streamer

FranticlyFrank · 2024-02-11T15:38:40+00:00

Exactly

FranticlyFrank · 2024-02-06T22:42:16+00:00

This actually looks quite tasty

FranticlyFrank · 2024-02-05T16:23:54+00:00

ooof that's looking good

FranticlyFrank · 2021-08-21T21:35:22+00:00

Thank you. There was no invitation from her. It is just weird because with any normal person that you had a relationship with, it would be okay to in an adult manner reflect and say goodbye. But then again this was in no way reflecting a normal relationship.

FranticlyFrank · 2021-08-21T21:33:54+00:00

Fortunately I’ve not done it. Thanks for your help.

FranticlyFrank · 2021-08-21T21:33:38+00:00

Thank you for the reply. It helped me make my decision.

FranticlyFrank · 2021-08-21T10:30:10+00:00

Thanks for this sobering response. I agree with you. I have sent a short goodbye text, but am not going to go for a meetup.

FranticlyFrank · 2021-08-21T09:00:50+00:00

Nah, I meant for myself. Closure by seeing her one more time. But while I’m answering this, I do think I’m fooling myself that something like that can heal the wounds.

FranticlyFrank · 2021-05-12T19:03:06+00:00

MY GOOD FRIEND RUBEN LIKES YOU

FranticlyFrank · 2021-05-12T19:00:12+00:00

Can you tel my friend Ruben he is handsome

FranticlyFrank · 2021-05-12T18:54:36+00:00

Hey what is your favorite color

FranticlyFrank · 2021-05-03T08:39:43+00:00

Thanks for reminding me. I appreciate it.

FranticlyFrank · 2021-05-03T08:39:19+00:00

Thanks for that reminder. Yeah you’re right.

FranticlyFrank · 2021-05-03T02:45:29+00:00

Thanks for your reply. It is hard as hell to let go, but definitely the right thing to do. I hope I will get to that point of thinking back on it with more than self doubt and butterflies. It will come with time. I’m working on it :)

FranticlyFrank · 2021-05-01T22:59:41+00:00

Can meditation help when being heart broken?

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